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30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner
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🔍 Are you struggling with relationship red flags and don't know why your relationships keep “failing” or feel unfulfilling? In this deeply personal episode, I pull back the curtains on something most people don't want to admit - sometimes WE are the red flag in our anxious-avoidant relationships. As an anxious partner for 30 years, I understand the painful cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and relationship insecurity that comes with an anxious attachment style in relationships.
Do you experience these anxious attachment patterns?
You're constantly fishing for compliments, analyzing every mood shift as a sign something's wrong, turning silence into evidence of abandonment, and never quite believing your partner's reassurance. If this sounds familiar, you might be an anxious partner in an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic! This episode is specifically for YOU! 💕
I share how I transformed from an anxious partner plagued by relationship red flags into someone with a secure attachment style. Through understanding the anxious-avoidant trap and healing my core wounds, I've helped hundreds of clients break free from these painful relationship patterns too.
Discover what happens in the anxious partner's mind during the "chase" (a trauma response!), learn why anxious attachment style in relationships creates such intense emotions, and understand the anxious-avoidant relationship dance that keeps you stuck. I break down how to recognize anxious attachment behaviors, heal relationship red flags you might be creating, and transform your relationships from chaotic to calm and secure.
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7 Powerful Journaling Prompts to STOP Being the Red FLAG in Your Relationship📝✨What's my biggest fear? 😱
What are three reasons I continue to act despite this fear? 🤔
If I weren't afraid of losing my partner or feeling like I'm not good enough, how would this change the way I show up in my relationship? ❤️🔥
Where am I putting too much focus on things I can't control? 🌪
What do I need to give myself in order to feel more secure? 🔐
What do I need to release or let go of to move forward? 🕊️
If I knew for sure that I would be happy and loved, how would I show up differently in my relationship and life? 🌟
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📖 CHAPTERS:
00:00 Relationship Red Flags Intro
01:37 Why this is NOT about Shaming or Blaming Yourself
02:51 10 Red Flag Relationship Lessons
02:56 Lesson 1: Believing Relationships Should Be 50:50
05:21 Lesson 2: Pushing "Healing" onto my partner and others
07:24 Lesson 3: The Endless Chase: A Trauma Response
09:51 Lesson 4: Reacting to Conflict Like It's a Crisis
12:42 Lesson 5: Not Trusting Myself (or the Relationship)
13:30 Lesson 6: Letting Fear and Anxiety Control My Actions
16:19 Lesson 7: Mistaking Intensity for Intimacy
17:55 Lesson 8: Ignoring My Core Wound Patterns
19:13 Lesson 9: Failing to Set Loving Boundaries
20:04 Lesson 10: Creating an Atmosphere of Criticism Instead of Appreciation
21:38 The Ripple Effect of Healing
23:28 7 Journaling Prompts to STOP being a Red Flag in Your Relationship
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Remember:
Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
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