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52: Avoidants DON'T Need Space... Here's What They ACTUALLY Need (This Changes Your Relationship)
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You’ve been told:
“Just give them space”...
But that’s NOT the whole story ✶
And if you’re anxiously attached...
You’ve probably felt like giving space only makes it worse 😮💨
Hi, I’m Jula — anxious attachment coach + podcast host 🖤
I’ve been where you are... spiraling after “I need time” texts
And what I’ve learned? It’s not about giving more space...
It’s about giving something else entirely 🧠
In this episode, I’ll show you:
...Why “space” isn’t enough
...What avoidants are actually craving (but don’t say out loud)
...And how to stop chasing — without abandoning yourself
If you’ve ever felt like they pull away just when you get close...
You NEED this conversation
✨ Press play — what you’ll hear might flip your whole dynamic in the best way..
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro
01:16 The Myth You've Been Sold
04:17 What Emotional Freedom Actually Looks Like
08:49 Where This Really Comes From
11:41 What You Can Do Instead - The Immediate Response
19:37 Identifying Root Causes of Anxiety: The Why-Why-Why Exercise
23:31 Make a decision
25:38 Challenge and Reframe Your Core Belief
27:37 How to REFRAME your Beliefs
29:01 Creating Emotional Freedom Together - Practical Actions
30:58 Building Your Capacity Gradually
33:59 Quick Summary
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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