63: The Body Keeps the Score Summary + Anxious Attachment: Healing Your Nervous System

The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Have you ever thought…

“I know my partner loves me, so why do I still spiral over a delayed text?”

“Why does my body feel like it’s under attack - even when nothing’s wrong?”

Or why can't I feel calm when Im telling myself to calm down?

In this episode, I’m sharing something that changed the way I see my own anxiety..and my body.

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk helped me finally connect the dots between my silent migraines, my chronic overthinking in relationships, and the deep survival patterns wired into my nervous system.

I’ll share:
✣ The birthday moment where my migraines got so bad I couldn’t even see the candles ..:(
✣ Why trauma isn’t just a big event — it’s what your body remembers
✣ 10 key takeaways from the book that explain exactly how anxious attachment shows up in your body
✣ What to do when your body panics, even if your partner hasn't done anything wrong

Because if you’ve ever:
➞ Felt abandoned over a slow reply
➞ Gone from “I’m fine” to “They’re leaving me” in 0.2 seconds
➞ Experienced anxiety that shows up as pain, stomach issues, tension, or emotional flooding...

Then this episode will be for you!

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction to Healing Anxious Attachment
03:19 How Anxious Attachment Impacts your Body Long-term
04:48 10 Lessons of The Body Keeps the Score + Anxious Attachment
04:56 Lesson 01
07:08 Lesson 02
08:19 Lesson 03
09:50 Lesson 04
10:48 Lesson 05
12:09 Lesson 06
13:37 Lesson 07
18:53 Lesson 08
21:33 Lesson 09
23:36 Lesson 10