72: Dejon and Megan: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap on Love Island - Explained by a Relationship Coach

The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship where you're doing everything to make it work… but the more you try, the more distant they become?

Today, we’re diving into the viral anxious-avoidant trap through the lens of a very public couple: Dejon and Megan from Love Island UK 2025.

Yes, the ones who:✔️ Became boyfriend and girlfriend super fast
✔️ Claimed to be the "strongest couple"
✔️ Were dumped right before the final — after weeks of tension and arguments

They might have looked like the perfect couple on the outside…
But if you’ve been following along, you probably felt it too:
🌪 Something was OFF.

This episode is your deep dive into:
➞ What actually was going on between Dejon and Megan
➞ The classic signs of anxious and avoidant attachment
➞ Why the cycle feels SO magnetic… but also exhausting
➞ And what you can do if you see yourself in this pattern

This episode is NOT just about reality TV.
It’s about YOU.
The patterns playing out in your texts, your overthinking spirals, your constant craving for reassurance… or your urge to shut down and act chill when things get hard.

I’ll be breaking down:
🔍 Megan’s anxious attachment signs: falling fast, people-pleasing, walking on eggshells
🔍 Dejon’s avoidant behaviors: distancing, deflecting emotions, shutdowns during conflict
💥 The emotional triggers + core wounds fueling the cycle
🧨 The reason it feels SO HARD to walk away (even when you know it’s not working)
🔗 And how to finally start breaking the cycle, step by step

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Like….

• Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ

• Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety

• ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached

• How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

00:00 Understanding the Anxious Avoidant Trap With Dejon and Megan from Love Island
05:47 Signs of Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment in Real Life Couples
09:16 Sign’s of Megan’s Anxious Attachment Style
11:40 Signs of Dejon’s Avoidant Attachment Style
15:17 Their Core wounds- the real emotional pain
17:15 The Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Cycle: Why It Feels Addictive but Unsafe
18:57 Why you're so attached...(it's not about your partner)
20:51 How do you break the cycle if you’re in it?
21:06 Step 0: STOP pretending everything’s fine.
22:46 Step 1: Name the pattern
23:41 Step 2: Take responsibility for YOUR side.
24:38 Step 3: Do the inner work
29:56 Step 4: Stop making your relationship your whole identity.
31:15 How do I actually know if someone’s a narcissist or just avoidantly attached?
35:00 Something most people get wrong

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.