78: PRACTICE: The 3 Shift Anxious to Secure Attachment- Embodiment Practice

The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Feeling anxious, overthinking, or unsure in your relationships?

Thinking won’t help: action is the solution.

This guided visualization and embodiment practice is designed to help you retrain your mind and body to create security from within. I’m Jula, your anxious-to-secure attachment coach, and I’ll guide you step by step to reconnect with the calm, confident, and grounded version of YOU that’s always been there beneath the anxiety, doubt, and fear.

This practice is all about identity shifts. Over time, we can lose touch with the steady, secure self we were born with. Childhood patterns, fears of rejection, and old survival strategies can make us overgive, overthink, or feel insecure. Through this session, you’ll gently explore new ways of showing up—moving from anxious to calm, from overthinking to present, from insecure to confident, from overgiving to setting boundaries, from loneliness to connection, and from doubt to worthiness. Each shift is anchored in your body, mind, and imagination so it becomes a natural part of you. 🌻✨

Here’s why it’s so powerful: your brain learns best through imagery, rehearsal, and embodiment. By seeing yourself handle triggers differently, linking new movements to each shift, and feeling the emotions in your body, you train both mind and body to respond securely in real-life situations. This is how I personally rewired my anxious attachment, stepping into a secure, confident self that I already had inside me, beneath all the old patterns. 🧠💛

The session follows a simple, transformative three-step process:

Step 1: Choose your shifts. Focus on no more than three identity shifts at a time- like moving from anxious to calm, overthinking to present, or insecure to confident. These are the core areas you want to embody more in your life.

Step 2: Anchor each shift with a movement or gesture. Simple body practices like lifting your chest, grounding your feet, placing a hand on your heart, or striking a power pose help your mind and body remember the new way of being. Linking a shift to a role model or metaphor..like a calm lake, a strong mountain, or a shining star..amplifies the effect.

Step 3: Visualize and rehearse daily. Imagine handling old triggers in your day-to-day life as this new version of yourself. Each time you practice, even 1%, you become more aligned with your secure self. Over time, these shifts become second nature, and your anxious patterns naturally soften.

This practice works best when your mind is open and suggestible - before sleep, first thing in the morning, or after meditation or breathwork, when your brain is in a theta state. By visualizing, embodying, and rehearsing calm, confident, and grounded responses, you can literally rewire your brain and nervous system, creating security from the inside out. 🌤🖤

Throughout the session, you’ll also journal and reflect on the parts of yourself you want to release, and notice how each shift feels in your body. Over time, these small, consistent practices build real confidence, self-trust, and inner calm. You’ll stop reacting from fear and start living from love, naturally attracting healthier, steady, and mutual relationships.

💭 Remember: this is a safe, guided practice. Not a replacement for therapy. Make sure you’re in a comfortable space, sitting or lying down, and give yourself permission to pause, explore, and embody these shifts fully. Step into the secure, grounded, confident version of yourself, little by little, day by day.

You’ve already had this secure self inside you all along. This practice helps you remember, embody, and strengthen it, even in moments that used to trigger anxiety or self-doubt. Take a deep breath, feel your energy settle, and step into the calm, playful, confident YOU.

You can download this practice to get back to it anytime xx Jula

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.