The Elephant In The Room: How To Say What No One Wants To Say

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In this episode, Brett and Joe unpack the phenomenon of the elephant in the room. They explore:

The dynamics that create this situation
How looking directly at these issues can lead to healing and growth
The importance of addressing difficult topics in both personal and professional settings
How to create a culture where individuals feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings
The need for leaders to model this behavior
The significance of conflict in fostering trust and connection

Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!

Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson

Brett on X: @airkistler

AOA on X: @artofaccomp

Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com

We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

135 episodes

The Art of Accomplishment

The Elephant In The Room: How To Say What No One Wants To Say

The Art of Accomplishment

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published about a year ago

MP3•Episode home

In this episode, Brett and Joe unpack the phenomenon of the elephant in the room. They explore:

The dynamics that create this situation
How looking directly at these issues can lead to healing and growth
The importance of addressing difficult topics in both personal and professional settings
How to create a culture where individuals feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings
The need for leaders to model this behavior
The significance of conflict in fostering trust and connection

Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!

Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson

Brett on X: @airkistler

AOA on X: @artofaccomp

Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com

We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

135 episodes

#MBA #Business #Self-Improvement #Joe Hudson #Brett Kistler #Podcasting Education #Personal Development

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