EP87 Divorced, Judged & Misunderstood: Stigma, Grief & Giving Zero F*cks

The Divorce Chapter

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“You’re not a cautionary tale. You’re the fucking heroine.”

In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re flipping the script on one of the biggest unspoken struggles of post-divorce life: judgement..... from others, from society, and most heartbreakingly, from ourselves.

I go all in on the shame-soaked double standards that women face after divorce and tear them apart with equal parts rage, humour, and raw truth.

From pitying glances to school-gate micro-judgements, to the social media algorithm demoting you to “unpartnered and problematic,” this is the episode that says out loud what so many of us have been quietly carrying.

We’re talking:

💔 The social stigma still clinging to women who divorce (even in 2025)
💔 What the hell “disenfranchised grief” is and why divorce hits harder when no one brings you lasagne
💔 The Judgement Olympics….unsolicited advice, side-eyes, and sanctimonious nonsense
💔 That sneaky internalised voice whispering, “Maybe I was the problem…”
💔 Why your marriage didn’t “fail” just because it ended
💔 And how to start rewriting your story…. on your terms, in your own bloody voice

This one is for anyone who’s felt the sting of being misunderstood, misjudged, or mistaken for fragile just because they chose themselves and didn’t stay for a second helping of trauma and betrayal.

✨ Because divorce isn’t a failure. It’s a plot twist.

And maybe this is the part of the story where everything finally gets interesting.

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In May in the Divorce Book Club, we’re not only celebrating our first birthday 🎉 but we’re also going to be How to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse by Caroline Strawson…..And It’s a Must-Read for Anyone Healing from a Toxic Relationship.

If your ex made you feel like you were the problem…
If you’re still replaying conversations wondering, “Was it really that bad?”
If you're done with gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and walking on eggshells...

💡 Then May’s Divorce Book Club pick is for YOU.

Blending neuroscience, trauma recovery, and real-life insight, this book is packed with practical tools to help you go from surviving to thriving after narcissistic abuse. Perfect for anyone who wants science-backed healing with a side of empowerment.

✨ Whether you're still untangling from a toxic ex or rebuilding yourself from the inside out, this month’s read will support your healing, one chapter at a time.

➡️ Make sure you’re signed to get access to the pick, discussion prompts, and healing conversations that will remind you:

You’re not crazy. You’re just finally free.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

And use code BIRTHDAY50 for 50% off your first month 🎁

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Chapters

1. The Pity Face with 'Oh I'm So Sorry to Hear That' (00:00:00)

2. Why, in 2025 are we STILL judging women for divorce? (00:04:00)

3. It's Like a F*cked Up Version of Goldilocks (00:06:23)

4. The Grief You're NOT Allowed to Have (00:08:48)

5. What was I supposed to do? (00:11:53)

6. Nobody says you'll find another Mum at a funeral, do they? (00:13:22)

7. Parroting Society's BS (00:15:30)

8. You Don't Need a Permission Slip to Leave Trauma Behind - Heal Louder than the Hurt (00:18:17)

9. Maybe you didn't fall apart after all, maybe you fell into place (00:21:38)

10. Breaking News.... BIRTHDAY50 for AMAZING Value (00:24:36)