Why You Keep Chasing People Who Won’t Choose You — And How to Finally Break Free

The Femme Cast

Why do we keep chasing people who don’t choose us — even when we know better?

In this powerful, soul-baring episode of The Femme Cast, I break down the emotional addiction behind chasing emotionally unavailable partners — and why breaking free from this cycle feels so hard. Drawing from my own experience during a 7-year relationship hiatus, I share how I treated chasing like an addiction… and how this one shift changed everything.

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of begging, convincing, or shrinking herself to be chosen — and is ready to choose herself instead.

Inside, we dive into:

• The emotional voids we try to fill through unavailable partners
• The two questions that helped me stop chasing and start healing
• Why chasing others only makes them run — and what actually makes you magnetic
• The difference between codependent needs vs. healthy relationship desires
• The runner-chaser dynamic and how it’s playing out in your texts, your thoughts, and your energy
• The raw, messy truth about how I stopped outsourcing my worth to men who couldn’t meet me

We also explore what it really means to become the center of your own life — not in a selfish way, but in a self-honoring way. This is the work that helped me call back the parts of myself I had abandoned for love that wasn’t real, and finally make space for love that truly is.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of performing, proving, and overgiving — this episode is your mirror, your permission slip, and your first step out.

🎧 Listen now to reclaim your energy, shift the dynamic, and attract love that chooses you without the chase.

Ready to stop abandoning yourself for love? To finally rise from the wreckage of betrayal and become the woman you were born to be?

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Chapters

1. Why You Keep Chasing People Who Won’t Choose You — And How to Finally Break Free (00:00:00)

2. Welcome and Setting the Scene (00:01:02)

3. The Psychology of Chasing Unavailable People (00:02:45)

4. Healing Fragmented Parts of Yourself (00:06:45)

5. The Runner-Chaser Dynamic Revealed (00:09:05)

6. Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationship Needs (00:16:13)

7. Breaking the Pattern: Two Key Questions (00:22:15)

8. Setting Standards and Final Thoughts (00:28:57)