The Art and Science of Navigating a Struggling Relationship: Insights from Relationship Expert Lee Wilson

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Ever been dumped? Remember that pain? Being broken up with is something that most people experience at some point in their life. Many learn and continue to move forward. But for some, it's a painful experience they try to avoid but end up living many times over. If you are one of those people, what might you have done more, less, or differently to avoid the breakup? Perhaps you wanted to get back together, but it didn't work out. Or maybe feelings are fading while emotional outbursts are increasing in your current relationship, and you'd like to learn some tips for improving it. In this episode, I unpack the science behind human relationships with New York Times featured relationship coach expert, Lee Wilson.
In our conversation we discuss a number of relationship dynamics, offering an in-depth look at what he calls the "no contact rule," the power of self-reflection, and the role of support in relationships. Lee and I take a closer look at the concept of limerence, its role in driving us towards intimate relationships, and the dangerous consequences of imbalanced relationships. We tackle strategies to strike a healthy balance, alongside analyzing the impact of no contact in breakups, and then touch upon navigating changes in relationships and the importance of renegotiation to maintain a healthy connection.
Finally, we weave our way through the complexities of interpersonal dynamics, with Lee providing real-world solutions grounded in solid behavioral principles.
Coach Lee's Article on Limerence
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Chapters

1. Relationship Coaching (00:00:00)

2. No Contact Rule and Relationship Dynamics (00:13:14)

3. No Contact During Breakups (00:21:25)

4. Benefits of No Contact in Relationships (00:30:20)

5. The Power of Self-Reflection and Support (00:33:35)

6. Impact of No Contact in Breakups (00:38:09)

7. Navigating Breakups and Relationship Dynamics (00:42:32)

8. Navigating Limerence and Long-Term Relationships (00:45:45)

9. Understanding Love Beyond Limerence (00:50:45)

10. Limerence (00:55:03)

11. Imbalanced Relationships and Self-Worth (01:03:09)

12. Relationship Imbalance and Renegotiating Partnerships (01:10:25)

13. Renegotiating Relationships and Fading Limerence (01:19:43)

14. Coach Lee's Online Support Community (01:27:46)