Ep. 68 - Is It Autism or Trauma? Diagnosing Adults on the Spectrum with Dr. Benson Fox, Psy.D.

The Holistic Counselor

What does it really mean to be “on the spectrum”—and why are so many adults just now getting diagnosed?

In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, Diana sits down with Dr. Benson Fox, Psy.D., an Orthodox Jewish psychologist, school counselor, professor, and group leader of Adulting on the Spectrum, to explore the truths, myths, and real-life challenges of navigating adult life as a neurodivergent person.

They unpack the confusion around late diagnoses, the overlap with trauma, and how stigma shows up—especially in faith-based, immigrant, and culturally diverse communities. This is an honest conversation for parents, professionals, or anyone who’s ever wondered, “Do I fit this spectrum—and what now?”

What You’ll Learn

• What autism spectrum disorder really is (and isn’t)

• How to tell the difference between quirks, trauma, and ASD

• The truth about overdiagnosis and one-session labels

• Why many adults in minority and religious communities are misdiagnosed or missed

• How faith can be a source of resilience—or confusion—in neurodivergent care

• Practical tips for families navigating school IEPs and services

• What HCBS (Home and Community-Based Services) actually provides

• Why diagnoses are not for life—and why reevaluation matters

• The problem with “high vs. low functioning” labels in the DSM

Mic Drop Quotes

“Diagnoses are not for life. Legally, most are only valid for three years—and yet people internalize them forever.” — Dr. Benson Fox

“Support shouldn’t be dependent on a label. Let’s treat the symptoms, not just diagnose the person.” — Dr. Benson Fox

“As a therapist, my job isn’t to impose faith—but ignoring someone’s spirituality can be a form of clinical neglect.” — Diana S. Rice

“You are the expert of your life. We’re just here to walk with you for part of the journey.” — Dr. Benson Fox

“We are biology, psychology, and theology—a biopsychotheo being. And healing has to touch all three.” — Diana S. Rice

Resources Mentioned

• Dr. Benson Fox’s website: www.drbensonfox.com

• Apple Psychological (Dr. Fox’s group practice): www.applepsychological.com

• Florida Autism Resources:

  • Florida DOH: Bright Expectations Autism Support

  • Autism Speaks: www.autismspeaks.org

  • Autism Florida – Adulthood Resources: www.autismfl.org/adulthood

  • Palm Beach Autism Club: www.palmbeachautismclub.com

• HCBS Providers (New York Examples):

  • FSSNY

  • OHEL

  • Yaldeinu

• Check your local college or university counseling center for social skills groups and accommodations

Stay Connected with Diana

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Final Reminder

Trust in the Lord. Guard your heart. Renew your mind. Share this episode with someone who needs clarity, community, or just a little bit of hope.