133: How to Handle a Demanding Boss Without Burning Out

The John Poelstra Show

A previous client asks for help navigating their own burn out while dealing with a demanding boss.

I answer a listener’s questions about managing stress, dealing with demanding bosses, and finding sustainable ways to recharge. I look at the importance of questioning assumptions, setting boundaries, and experimenting with new approaches to reclaim control over one’s work-life balance.

My Advice

• You can’t keep pumping air into the metaphorical balloon; it will eventually pop
• Does constant pressure need to be “managed?”
• Stop comparing your limits to others; everyone has different constraints
• Saying no is a powerful tool for reducing stress and workload
• Team agreements can clarify communication norms and reduce ambiguity
• Test small changes like turning off your phone for short periods to gauge the impact
• Meditation isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution; explore other recharging methods
• Write down all of the assumptions you have about your situation and question their validity
• Experiment with scenarios that challenge your fears (e.g., being unavailable and seeing what happens)
• Ask yourself what your current situation is doing to your body, soul, and relationships
• Consider whether your job aligns with what you want in life long-term
• Challenge the belief that you must always be available or risk losing your job
• Agreements are better than expectations—collaborate with others on clear terms
• Test turning off Slack or disabling presence indicators to reduce pressure
• Sustainable productivity requires intentional boundaries, not cheat codes
• Physical symptoms of stress often signal deeper issues; don’t ignore them
• If nothing changes in your current situation, consider the long-term consequences on your health and happiness
• Reach out for help or coaching if you’re stuck—there’s always something new to try

Credits

• • Hallon by Christian Bjoerklund
  • Cold Funk by Kevin MacLeod
  • Photo by Bernard Hermant on Unsplash

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