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Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of “RVP.”

In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:

Vocal variety
Expect resistance
Rhythm
Volume
Pitch

This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.

The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills

Five episodes to help you command a room:

120 Captivate Your Audience

77 The Power of Rehearsal

64 I Talk Too Fast!

34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

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How to Command a Room

The Look & Sound of Leadership

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published 2 years ago

MP3•Episode home

Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of “RVP.”

In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:

Vocal variety
Expect resistance
Rhythm
Volume
Pitch

This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.

The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills

Five episodes to help you command a room:

186 Video Feedback & Executive Presence

120 Captivate Your Audience

77 The Power of Rehearsal

64 I Talk Too Fast!

34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Thanks for supporting us with your reviews. Let us know how we can support you.

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

259 episodes

#Leadership #MBA #Business #Careers #Self-Improvement #Podcasting Education #Essential Communications - Tom Henschel #Executive Coaching #Executive Presence

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