Episode 162 - Beyond Being Strong: Self-Compassion and the Realities of Life After Cancer

The Menopause and Cancer Podcast

So many of us have been made to feel like we should just be “okay” after cancer—that if we’re not constantly “beating it” or “staying strong,” then somehow we’re failing. That we should be grateful it was “only” this stage, “only” this treatment. But the truth is, it’s not only anything. It’s hard, it’s relentless, and the weight of having to hold it together for everyone else can be exhausting.

And yet, within this shared experience, there is so much strength. Today, we’re joined by the wonderful Henny Flynn, a therapeutic coach who helps people navigate change with clarity and compassion. Together, we talk about what it means to really show ourselves kindness—to acknowledge what we’ve been through, to release the guilt, and to build ourselves back up in a way that feels true.

But this episode isn’t just a conversation between the two of us. Our community was right there with us, sharing their stories, their struggles, and their moments of realisation. It’s honest, emotional, and full of the kind of support that only those who get it can give.

So, let’s talk about confidence, self-worth, and the power of compassion—not just from others, but from ourselves.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

06:43 "Embracing Self-Compassion During Hardships"

12:42 "It's Okay to Feel 'Not Okay'"

18:52 "Unacknowledged Truth"

32:27 Unanticipated Menopause Impact

40:54 Inner Connection and Self-Awareness

45:29 Finding Strength and Self-Compassion

50:39 "Empowerment Through Unexpected Connection"

Here are all of Henny’s wonderful resources for you:

• My darling girl - these poems are love letters to all the girls & women we have ever been. I know they have helped many women on their menopause journey. https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/my-darling-girl-vol-1
• In the Flow - journal your inner wisdom - the guide for compassion-based journaling, filled with prompts to use and really clear steps for people to take https://innerworkproject.com/product/in-the-flow/
• My website with lots of resources, books and courses for people to explore https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/
• You can contact Henny here [email protected]

Join the BOOST30 challenge here https://fundraiseformenopauseandcancer.raiselysite.com/Boost30

This episode is proudly sponsored by Pelvic Relief, a company dedicated to improving women’s pelvic health through science-backed solutions. They offer a carefully curated range of products, including vaginal probiotics, lubes, moisturisers, the onut and other super important tools to support those dealing with pelvic pain, menopause symptoms, and post-cancer recovery.

Find out more here https://pelvicrelief.co.uk/

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