The Courage to Transform: An Inside Look at the Alpha Reset

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Episode #958

What happens when two of our top coaches stop coaching—and step into the Alpha Reset as participants?

That’s exactly what Mike and Neil did.

In this episode, they open up about the resistance that came up before the Reset, what it took to drop the ego, and what it really means to lead from the front—not just for others, but for themselves.

Mike shares the moment he FaceTimed his wife right after it ended. She just stared at him, smiling. “You look different,” she said. “I like this Mike.” That moment? That was the result. Right there.

Neil’s story is quieter—but just as powerful. He didn’t come home and give a big speech. He didn’t have to. His son just felt it. The calm. The shift. The safety. No words needed.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

What it looks like when high-level coaches stop leading and start doing the deeper work
Why emotional safety is a game-changer—for your marriage and your kids
The real reason so many men blame their wives (hint: it’s not about her)
How showing up differently creates a ripple effect across your entire home

This isn’t about theory. It’s about doing the work—especially when no one’s watching.

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The Courage to Transform: An Inside Look at the Alpha Reset

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Episode #958

What happens when two of our top coaches stop coaching—and step into the Alpha Reset as participants?

That’s exactly what Mike and Neil did.

Neil’s story is quieter—but just as powerful. He didn’t come home and give a big speech. He didn’t have to. His son just felt it. The calm. The shift. The safety. No words needed.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

What it looks like when high-level coaches stop leading and start doing the deeper work
Why emotional safety is a game-changer—for your marriage and your kids
The real reason so many men blame their wives (hint: it’s not about her)
How showing up differently creates a ripple effect across your entire home

This isn’t about theory. It’s about doing the work—especially when no one’s watching.

__________

Hungry for more?

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#Fitness #Doug Holt #Tim Matthews #Self-Improvement #Mental Health #Powerful Man #Podcasting Education #Tim Matthews And Doug Holt

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The Path to True Happiness: Embracing Personal Growth 23:52

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Episode #984 Do you ever feel like it’s your job to make sure everyone else is happy—your wife, your kids, your team—and somehow, it never quite works? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into a common (and exhausting) trap many high-achieving men fall into: trying to take responsibility for other people's emotions. It feels noble at first—like you're being a great husband, father, or leader. But at what cost? You'll hear personal stories and hard-won lessons about how this pattern often stems from childhood conditioning, religious or cultural expectations, and the desire to create peace and safety. And more importantly, you'll learn what to do about it. This one's a real conversation—unscripted, honest, and revealing. No fluff. Just the stuff that gets in your way and how to get past it. Tired of carrying everyone’s happiness but losing your own? Watch the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales to learn why that’s happening—and how to turn it around so your wife looks at you like her man again. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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The Power of Gratitude: Transforming Your Life and Relationships 25:41

5 days ago25:41

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Episode #983 Ever find yourself holding back appreciation from your wife because you’re not feeling seen yourself? Yeah, I’ve been there too. In this episode, Andrew and I dive deep into how something as simple as daily gratitude can completely shift your energy—and change the way you show up in your marriage, business, and life. We talk about what happens when you stop looking for what’s missing and start appreciating what’s already there. This isn’t some fluffy gratitude journal talk. We’re talking about real, practical ways to use gratitude—even when things feel hard. Like when you’re trying to co-parent with your ex. Or when you're waking up at 2 AM with stress. Or when you’re biting your tongue in a tough conversation and trying not to blow up. You’ll also hear a personal story I’ve never shared before—the moment I snapped out of a downward spiral thanks to a random triathlon on TV and a guy running without legs. It changed everything for me. In this episode, we unpack how to keep your gratitude practice real (not forced), how it helps you lead better conversations, and why most guys totally overlook the power of being grateful for yourself . Because the truth is, you can’t lead your family or your business if you’re constantly running on fumes and resentment. Gratitude flips that. Whether your marriage is struggling or you just want to reconnect with your purpose as a man—this is where you start. Feel like you've tried everything to fix your marriage—but nothing's landing? You don't need another long talk. You need a new approach. Grab A Man’s Guide to Saving His Marriage Without Talking About It on Amazon and learn the exact steps to lead your relationship back to connection, respect, and passion—without forcing awkward conversations. 👉 Get the book on Amazon now Ready to shift the energy in your marriage—without another heavy conversation? Start with gratitude. Grab your free copy of A Man’s Guide to Saving His Marriage Without Talking About It and take the first step toward reconnecting with your wife and leading your home with confidence. 👉 Click here to get the book – just cover shipping __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Unbreakable: Finding Strength and Identity Through Transformation 43:00

7 days ago43:00

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Episode #982 What happens when you do everything “right” in your marriage… and it still falls apart? In this episode, Andrew opens up about the painful unraveling of his relationship and how it forced him to face the one person he’d been avoiding—himself. Like a lot of men, he came into the work hoping to fix his marriage. What he ended up doing was far more powerful: he found himself. This isn’t just a story of divorce. It’s a story of identity, ownership, and the kind of growth most men never allow themselves to experience. Andrew talks openly about the moment he realized his marriage couldn’t be saved—and how that loss became the catalyst for becoming a better man, father, and leader. In this episode, you’ll hear how suppressing emotions kept him stuck, how real transformation came when he stopped blaming and started owning his part, and how doing “the work” gave him clarity—not just in relationships, but in who he is as a man. Andrew doesn’t just share his wins—he shares his breaking point, the uncomfortable truths, and the exact shifts that helped him go from reactive to grounded. You’ll also hear why women are so drawn to men who do this work, and how showing up with no agenda is the real game changer in love and leadership. If you’ve ever felt lost in your role as a husband, father, or businessman—or like you’re succeeding everywhere except at home—this conversation will hit home. Don’t just listen to this one. Let it challenge you. Feel like you've lost yourself trying to fix your marriage? Get the clarity and tools that helped Andrew—and so many others—lead with purpose, not pressure. 👉 Watch the free training now at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It’s not about fixing her. It’s about becoming the man who leads with strength—no matter what. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Unlocking Limitless Potential: Personal Growth and Transformation 41:38

9 days ago41:38

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Episode #981 Ever found yourself wondering, “Shouldn’t I be further along by now?” You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books. Maybe you’ve even joined a few programs. And yet... there’s still something missing. In this episode, I sit down with Arthur Magruniti—one of our lead coaches and a guy who’s not just talked about growth, but actually lived it. We have a real, honest conversation about what it actually looks like to keep growing year after year—without burning out or chasing the next shiny thing. We talk about how most men only think they know what they want—and how the real breakthroughs happen when you realize what you actually need. Whether you’re dealing with struggles in your marriage, stuck in your business, or just feeling disconnected from who you really are, there’s something in here for you. You’ll also hear why so many guys who’ve already “done the work” keep coming back, and what separates the ones who just consume information from the ones who actually transform. This isn’t about perfection or chasing some big life overhaul. It’s about getting honest with yourself, taking the next right step, and finding out what’s truly possible when you stop trying to figure it all out alone. If you’re ready to stop circling the same mountain and finally move forward—this is where you start. Struggling in your marriage? If the stress is piling up and the connection with your wife is fading, I’ve got something for you. I want to buy you a copy of my book, A Man’s Guide to Saving Your Marriage Without Talking About It . No fluff. Just real, proven steps to bring back the love and respect. You cover shipping—I’ll cover the book. Ready to see where you’re really at? If you’re tired of guessing and want a clear snapshot of what’s working—and what’s not—take the free assessment we mentioned in the episode. It only takes a couple of minutes and gives you instant clarity on where you need to focus. 👉 Click here to take the assessment and find out what your next step should be. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Revisit: What To Do When She Doesn't Want to Be Married Anymore 17:03

12 days ago17:03

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Episode #980 What do you do when your wife says the words you never thought you’d hear—“I don’t want to be married anymore”? If you're hearing that now, chances are she's been thinking it for years. This isn’t sudden for her. It’s a breaking point. In this REVISIT episode, we’re going back to one of the most crucial conversations a married man can have—how to respond when your wife emotionally checks out, or worse, tells you she’s done. This is a moment where most men panic, try to fix things fast, or shut down completely. But there’s another way. You’ll learn why women often plan their exit quietly over months or even years, and how your default reactions—defensiveness, excuses, or shutting down—only push her further away. We’ll talk through what creates emotional safety, how to respond calmly without losing your ground, and why your self-care might be the key to getting her back. This isn’t about manipulating her. It’s about becoming the man who can truly hold space, hear her pain, and give the relationship a fighting chance. 👉 Your wife pulled away—now what? Start by getting real about where your marriage stands. Take the free 2-minute Marriage Scale Assessment to find out what’s really going on—before it’s too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Revisit: Did You Marry The Wrong Woman-Or Is It Just A Phase? 19:10

14 days ago19:10

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Episode #979 At some point, almost every married man asks himself the same question: Did I marry the wrong woman? Maybe she doesn’t laugh at your jokes anymore. She’s not interested in your stories. She seems distant, disconnected—and truth be told, you’re starting to wonder if life would be easier with someone else. In this REVISIT episode, we’re bringing back a powerful and timely conversation for any man who feels stuck in a marriage that’s lost its spark. The truth is, most guys were never taught how to actually make marriage work. We weren’t handed the tools to handle resentment, missed expectations, or emotional distance. So when things start to fall apart, we assume we chose the wrong partner—when in reality, we might just be missing the right approach. This episode breaks down why those thoughts of doubt creep in, how resentment quietly builds, and what you can do to clean the slate and reconnect. We’ll cover the Triad of Connection —a framework to rebuild emotional safety, get real connection back, and spark the passion you thought was gone for good. You might not need a new wife. You might just need a new strategy. Still wondering if she’s the wrong woman—or if something deeper’s going on? Take the free 2-minute Marriage Scale Assessment to get the clarity you need—before it’s too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Revisit: How Matt Turned it Around - A true story from the man they call The Sentry 28:37

16 days ago28:37

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Episode #978 Ever feel like you’ve done everything “right” as a husband and provider—yet your marriage still feels off? That’s exactly where Matt Euler found himself. In this REVISIT episode, we bring back a powerful conversation that’s still just as relevant for high-achieving men today. Matt opens up about how chasing business success left him drained, disconnected, and dangerously close to losing his marriage. This is more than just a success story. It’s a raw look at what happens when men ignore the early signs and keep grinding, hoping everything will somehow fix itself. Spoiler alert: it won’t. In this episode, you’ll hear how Matt went from burnout and panic attacks to reclaiming his marriage, his health, and his purpose. You’ll learn what changed when he joined The Activation Method —and why he believes The Brotherhood gave him the deep male relationships he didn’t know he was missing. We’re revisiting this episode because Matt’s story continues to resonate with men who feel alone, overworked, and unsure if they can pull their marriage back together. If that sounds like you—you’re not alone, and this episode is for you. 🎯 Feeling like your marriage is slipping while you chase success? Take the FREE Marriage Scale Assessment to see where you really stand. It only takes 2 minutes—and it might just be the wake-up call you need. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Mastering Your Inner Power: Handling Stress, Anxiety, and Overwhelm 35:24

19 days ago35:24

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Episode #977 Are you coming home feeling anxious, short-tempered, or just plain drained? Does it feel like the pressure from work, your relationship, and everything else is piling on at once? In this episode, I sit down with Master Coach Mark Smith to tackle stress, anxiety, and overwhelm—the stuff that sneaks up on every man, especially those trying to lead at home and at work. We talk about what causes this state, how it shows up in your daily life, and most importantly, how to get back in control . It’s not about perfection—it’s about learning how to reset quickly and show up powerfully. Mark and I share real-life examples from our own lives and coaching experience, including: Why overwhelm makes you a weaker husband, father, and leader How to stop bringing that chaotic energy into your home A simple decompression routine that your wife will support The 5 go-to tools for turning stress into strength What to do when guilt makes you feel like you’re always failing In this episode, you’ll learn how to create space for yourself, own your energy, and shift out of reaction mode so you can lead with clarity and confidence. This one’s real, raw, and packed with tools you can use today . Struggling in your marriage? If the stress is piling up and the connection with your wife is fading, I’ve got something for you. I want to buy you a copy of my book, A Man’s Guide to Saving Your Marriage Without Talking About It . No fluff. Just real, proven steps to bring back the love and respect. You cover shipping—I’ll cover the book. Ready to see where you’re really at? If you’re tired of guessing and want a clear snapshot of what’s working—and what’s not—take the free assessment we mentioned in the episode. It only takes a couple of minutes and gives you instant clarity on where you need to focus. 👉 Click here to take the assessment and find out what your next step should be. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Navigating Life's Storms: Becoming the Lighthouse 27:01

21 days ago27:01

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Episode #976 In this episode, Tim and Arthur dive into a powerful metaphor that hits home for a lot of men: are you leading like a lighthouse, or grinding yourself down like a tugboat? A tugboat works hard, constantly pushing and pulling, trying to keep everything afloat—whether it's in business, marriage, or life in general. But a lighthouse? It stands firm. It doesn’t chase or convince. It guides. Too many men fall into the tugboat trap—trying to please everyone, dodging conflict, letting things slide to “keep the peace,” and losing themselves in the process. The result? Burnout, resentment, and relationships that lack real respect. Tim and Arthur get honest about what it looks like to lead from strength instead of stress, and how standards, boundaries, and presence can completely shift the way you show up. You’ll hear hard-won lessons, relatable stories, and clear, actionable steps you can take right now to stop reacting and start leading. Whether it's setting red lines in your relationship, breaking free from codependency, or reclaiming your own voice—you’ll walk away from this episode with more clarity, more confidence, and a better sense of who you're becoming. This one’s a wake-up call—with the tools to actually do something about it. If this episode hit home, it’s time to stop guessing and start leading. 👉 Watch the free training at thepowerfulman.com/scales You’ll discover exactly where things went off track in your relationship—and the proven steps to reignite the love, respect, and attraction you’ve been missing.…

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Living on the Edge: A Guide to Personal Transformation 26:45

23 days ago26:45

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Episode #975 What if the reason your life feels flat isn’t your job, your relationship, or your body—but the fact that you’ve stopped living on your edge? In this episode, we dive into what it really means to live to your edge—not just physically, but emotionally, sexually, spiritually, and mentally. Tim and Arthur break down why so many men slowly drift into mediocrity without even realizing it, and how that shows up in a distant marriage, a dull business, or just waking up every day feeling a little... gray. This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what actually lights you up—about reconnecting with the part of you that once felt unstoppable, confident, and clear. You’ll hear practical ways men are challenging themselves daily inside The Powerful Man movement—from cold plunges and fasting to having real conversations and owning their truth in the bedroom and beyond. In this episode, you’ll learn what’s really on the other side of discomfort—and why leaning into your edge might just be the fastest way to become the man your wife, your kids, and you remember and respect. Because the guy you used to be? He’s not gone. He’s just waiting for you at the edge. Feel like your wife barely sees you anymore? Chances are, you’ve pulled back from your edge—and it’s costing you your marriage. That’s why I want to send you a free copy of A Man’s Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It . No fluff. Just real tools that actually work. I’ll buy the book. You cover shipping. Grab your copy now—link’s in the show notes. If this episode hit home, it’s time to stop guessing and start leading. 👉 Watch the free training at thepowerfulman.com/scales You’ll discover exactly where things went off track in your relationship—and the proven steps to reignite the love, respect, and attraction you’ve been missing. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Revisit: When Words Wound: Dealing With Spousal Criticism in Front of the Kids 13:17

26 days ago13:17

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Episode #974 What do you do when your wife criticizes you in front of your kids? Worse—what if she starts pulling them onto “her team” against you? In this revisit episode, we’re bringing back a powerful conversation that struck a chord with a lot of men. It’s all about what to do when your wife starts undermining you in front of your children—something that’s not only painful but can seriously impact your family dynamic if left unchecked. We’ll get into why this might be happening, the damage it causes, and what to do when your instinct is to either shut down or fire back. You'll hear how to calmly take the lead, have the hard conversations, set boundaries that stick, and uncover the real reason this is happening in the first place. If you’ve been in this situation—or want to be prepared in case it ever happens—this episode is worth another listen. Because how you respond in these moments matters… a lot. Let’s revisit the playbook and make sure you’re ready. Ready to stop walking on eggshells and start leading at home again? Take the free Hidden Triggers in Your Marriage Assessment and find out what’s really throwing off the balance between you and your wife. 👉 thepowerfulman.com/scales It only takes a few minutes—and it could change everything. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Revisit: Calculating Your Losses: What Inaction Really Costs 15:02

28 days ago15:02

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Episode #973 Ever wonder what staying stuck is actually costing you—not just financially, but emotionally and mentally? We’re bringing back this episode because it struck a nerve with so many men. It’s one of those conversations that hits differently the second time around—especially if you’ve been feeling that quiet pull to make a change but haven’t moved yet. In this episode, we revisit a powerful concept that came out of a conversation with a high-level business consultant who uses a dead-simple method to get results: calculate the real cost of doing nothing. Not hypothetically—actually write it down. And not just for business, but for your marriage, your health, and your sense of purpose. You’ll hear real-world examples of what men lose by hesitating—relationships, time with their kids, even businesses. And you’ll get a straight-up challenge: write down the five core areas of your life and ask yourself, “What is inaction costing me here?” This isn’t about guilt. It’s about clarity—and then making moves that matter. If you’re in a season where you're waiting for the “right time,” this revisit might be exactly what you need to hear today. 👉 Not sure where you're losing the most? Take 2 minutes to get clear on where inaction is silently draining your marriage, energy, and focus. Start here: thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Revisit: No Laughing Matter: When Your Jokes Hurt More Than They Heal 20:41

30 days ago20:41

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Episode #972 Ever made a joke that didn’t land—but didn’t realize until later how deep it cut? We originally released this episode a while back, but it hit home for so many men that we knew it was worth revisiting. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I’m just joking—what’s the big deal?” this might be the perspective shift you didn’t know you needed. In this conversation, we get real about the difference between light-hearted teasing and the kind of humor that slowly chips away at trust. We share how even a small joke can come across as criticism, especially when the emotional “bank account” in your relationship is running low. You’ll hear why your wife might not find your teasing funny, how to read the energy behind your jokes, and what to do when your humor starts creating distance instead of connection. If laughter really is the best medicine, we need to make sure we’re not using it as a weapon. 🎯 Not sure if your emotional bank account is full or dangerously low? Take our free Marriage Scale Assessment to find out where things really stand between you and your wife—before another joke pushes things too far. thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Finding Fulfillment: Beyond the Pursuit of Happiness 29:22

5 weeks ago29:22

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Episode #971 What if the very thing driving your success is keeping you from feeling fulfilled? A lot of high-performing men are caught in the loop of "once I get this ... then I’ll finally be happy." Sound familiar? Maybe it's sex, money, business goals, or even just recognition from your wife. But here's the thing: that finish line keeps moving. In this episode, Tim and Arthur unpack a hard truth—chasing happiness through external validation never ends well. They share real stories from men inside the movement (including one powerful breakthrough around intimacy and fulfillment) and dig into why so many of us resist feeling content, even when we say that’s all we want. You'll hear how being grateful doesn't mean giving up your edge, why internal validation is a more powerful driver than any goal, and how to make the shift from "pushed by pain" to "pulled by pleasure." If you're tired of hustling without feeling like you’ve arrived anywhere, this one's for you. Ready to stop guessing and start fixing your relationship? Hit play on the free training here: thepowerfulman.com/scales You’ll walk away knowing exactly where things went off track—and how to bring it all back. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.…

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Finding Your Way: The Journey to Self-Discovery 29:21

5 weeks ago29:21