Should I: Change My Checklist for Dating?

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Tiffany Yu is the CEO & Founder of Diversability, an award-winning social enterprise to elevate disability pride; the Founder of the Awesome Foundation Disability Chapter, a monthly micro-grant that has awarded $92.5k to 93 disability projects in 11 countries; and the author of The Anti-Ableist Manifesto: Smashing Stereotypes, Forging Change, and Building a Disability-Inclusive World. As a person with visible and invisible disabilities stemming from a car crash, Tiffany has built a career on disability solidarity. Now that she has found success, she works to expand a network of people with disabilities and their allies to decrease stigmas around disability and create opportunities for disabled people in America. Episode Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:26 When do we choose to share our disability stories? 4:12 Jay’s disability story 8:35 Visible and invisible disabilities 13:10 What does an ally to the disability community look like? 16:34 NoBodyIsDisposable and 14(c) 21:26 How does Tiffany’s investment banking background shape her advocacy? 27:47 Goodbye and outro For video episodes, watch on www.youtube.com/@therudermanfamilyfoundation Stay in touch: X: @JayRuderman | @RudermanFdn LinkedIn: Jay Ruderman | Ruderman Family Foundation Instagram: All About Change Podcast | Ruderman Family Foundation To learn more about the podcast, visit https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/…

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This week on the show Mauricio and Katie discuss how past relationships can continue to influence you long after they're over.

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Should I: Change My Checklist for Dating?

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published about a year ago

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This week on the show Mauricio and Katie discuss how past relationships can continue to influence you long after they're over.

This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

180 episodes

#Society #Relationship #Lifestyle #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Not Sorry LLC #Sorry #Self Help #Chaplaincy #Feminist

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Should I: Quit My Job? 28:01

1 day ago28:01

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Hallie has started to notice a pattern in her life: once she gets a year and a half into a job, she feels the urge to 'job hop' – to quit and move on. Is that an urge she should be listening to? Or are her job expectations unrealistically high? This week, Mauricio and Hallie discuss how to evaluate a job to know whether it's 'good enough.' The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Talk to My Cousin About Theology? 32:39

8 days ago32:39

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Bailey—an ordained minister in a progressive church—recently got married. But their conservative Christian cousin didn’t attend the wedding, citing his opposition to queer marriage. Until now, they’ve had a good relationship, and Bailey knows a conversation needs to happen. The question is: should theology be part of it? This week, Mauricio and Bailey explore the intersection of faith and family, and what it means to engage in productive conflict. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Change my Relationship to Making Music? 34:32

15 days ago34:32

34:32

Sophie has been a songwriter ever since she was 12 years old. She put out her first album when she was 16 years old. But as she's gotten older, she's been recording less and feeling more uncomfortable with the label 'musician.' She has such a mix of feelings connected to making music – joy, embarrassment, disappointment. It's all led to the question: What kind of relationship does she want to have to making music going forward? This week, Mauricio and Sophie explore how to exorcise the ghosts of our past 'potential.' The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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The Practice of Re-Enchantment (with Brooke Williams) 23:00

22 days ago23:00

23:00

Today we’re breaking our normal format to speak with Brooke Williams , the author of Encountering Dragonfly: Notes on the Practice of Re-Enchantment. Mauricio and Brooke discuss the Jungian concept of ‘synchronicity’, the practice of active imagination, and the power of attention. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Get a Preventative Mastectomy? 29:18

29 days ago29:18

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Elyse's mom died of breast cancer a few years ago. Recently, she's tested positive for the same cancer-causing gene that her mom had. That puts her at high risk of getting breast cancer too. There are two paths forward: she can rigorously test and monitor her health, or she can get a preventative mastectomy. This week, Mauricio and Elyse explore our relationships to our bodies and our own mortality. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Stop Doing People Favors? 36:22

5 weeks ago36:22

36:22

Jolie Doggett struggles with boundaries. She's a classic 'yes' person – when someone asks her to jump, she says "how high?" She knows this about herself and she wants to change it. But how do you change something like that? Should she just go cold turkey? Spend a month telling everyone 'no'? This week, Mauricio and Jolie explore why we sometimes preference other people's needs and desires over our own. Check out Finding The Right Words The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Let My Parents Buy Me a Flat? 36:55

6 weeks ago36:55

36:55

Stefanie and her parents have never quite seen eye-to-eye about the best way to live. Stefanie has sought passion and spontaneity. Stefanie's parents would much prefer she choose a life of stability and family. Now, Stefanie's parents have offered to buy her an apartment. But what would it mean for her to accept it? Would it feel like a concession to their priorities? This week, Mauricio and Stefanie discuss how to get out of black-and-white thinking. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Care Less About Work? 23:30

7 weeks ago23:30

23:30

Theodora is starting law school in the fall and she's nervous about the workload and intensity. She's a hard worker and she's worried that she'll get totally wrapped up in school and won't be able to slow down and attend to the other things in her life. Does she need to change her relationship to work before it all starts? This week, Mauricio and Theodora explore how to hold yourself to your priorities. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Quit Keeping Kosher? 25:24

8 weeks ago25:24

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Gillian doesn't eat pork and doesn't eat shellfish. It's her version of keeping kosher and she's been doing it for the past decade. Recently, however, she realized that she doesn't really know why she's doing it anymore. Is it still a meaningful practice in her life? Or is it something it's time to set aside? This week, Mauricio and Gillian reflect on the difference between 'habits' and 'rituals.' **There's still time to register for What Matters , our small cohort sacred reading program! It's a 28-week intensive which includes one-on-one time with Mauricio. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should You: Get a Divorce? 37:20

9 weeks ago37:20

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This week we have a special episode on the topic of divorce. Vanessa calls her friend, couples and family therapist Colette Potts , to discuss common issues for couples, infidelity, and the practicalities of divorce. Next week, we're back to our regular format with Mauricio! The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Remain Childless? 29:11

10 weeks ago29:11

29:11

There's certainly been a theme with our submissions lately! Just like our guest from Should I: Have a Child?, Emily feels pulled in two directions about having kids. She can imagine a very full life for herself either way. As she nears the end of of her biological opportunity for kids – is she ready to shut the door on that possibility? This week, Mauricio and Emily discuss how to make a decision for the future when it feels like that decision can never be changed. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Expand My Business? 30:02

11 weeks ago30:02

30:02

Brandon runs a successful restaurant group with his husband. Things are stressful, it’s a lot to manage, and they just got a great offer to open another restaurant in a hip part of town. Brandon is seriously tempted, but he’s also suspicious of his own temptation. Does he want to expand for the right reasons? This week, Mauricio and Brandon explore how various stories from our past influence our motivations for the future. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Invite My Dad to My Wedding? 36:15

12 weeks ago36:15

36:15

Natalie has been ‘low-contact’ with her dad for a while now – she doesn't reach out or put any effort into the relationship, but hasn't totally cut him out of her life. Her upcoming wedding is putting some pressure on that resolution. If she does invite him, and he makes a scene or disappoints her, it will hugely impact the joy of the day. But if she doesn't invite him, that feels like a big line in the sand about the future of their relationship. This week, Mauricio and Natalie explore how we continue to repeat the patterns from our childhood, even as we make progress on healing. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Change The Way I Talk About My Health? 38:29

13 weeks ago38:29

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In the course of Sarah’s life, she often finds that she has to talk about her migraines. But the reactions she gets from people are frustrating and sometimes really hurtful. Can she take another approach to these conversations? This week, Mauricio and Sarah discuss the large and small ways that chronic illness interrupt life. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Have a Child? 31:53

14 weeks ago31:53

31:53

Our guest this week has always wanted to have a kid. He’s also aware that having a kid will totally transform his life! Is he willing to give up parts of his life to make room for a baby? This week, Mauricio and our guest explore how to make space for aspects of our identity that sometimes compete. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Quit Being an Atheist? 29:39

15 weeks ago29:39

29:39

About five years ago, River left Christianity. He felt constrained and needed space to explore and ask questions. Recently, he has been thinking about a return – but can he bring everything he learned on the outside back in? Or would he have to hide the new parts of himself to belong again? This week, Mauricio and River discuss the joys and drawbacks of religious community. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Continue to Travel to See Family? 25:42

16 weeks ago25:42

25:42

Meghan lives with her partner and daughter in Costa Rica, far away from the rest of their family. They travel frequently to see their family, but it always feels like a huge effort to do so. Should they quit traveling so much? Or would that deprive themselves and their daughter of necessary family time? This week, Mauricio and Meghan discuss the duty we feel towards family and how to balance that with our own self-care. Mauricio mentioned our unlocked Real Talk perk on Patreon, you check it out here . The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Quit My Bookclub? 29:51

17 weeks ago29:51

29:51

Elizabeth Rowe 's bookclub reading has started to feel like homework. She loves to read, but after a long day of work she wants romance and adventure and fantasy. Her bookclub, on the other hand, wants Tolstoy. Should she leave the club? This week on the show Mauricio and Elizabeth discuss the importance of community space. Elizabeth Rowe is a leadership coach. She's teaching an upcoming class for Not Sorry called Discerning Success. Sign-up here! The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Start Charging for My Work? 28:29

18 weeks ago28:29

28:29

Ray is graduating with a Masters of Divinity this year but they know they don't want to pursue a traditional path towards ordination. They do want to continue providing spiritual care and counseling to their community. But should they be charging for that work? Shouldn't care be accessible to people who need it, without being a financial burden? On today's episode, Ray and Mauricio explore what it means to have a calling and the complicated web of care, disability, and capitalism. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Have a Life Partner? 33:20

19 weeks ago33:20

33:20

Anna knows she wants to be a parent and she doesn't want to do it alone, but she's never particularly wanted a life partner. Should she reconsider that position for the sake of raising a child? On today's episode, Anna and Mauricio explore Anna's relationship to partnership and uncover some of the deeper anxieties at play for her. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Modern Friendship with Anna Goldfarb 32:32

20 weeks ago32:32

32:32

Anna Goldfarb is a journalist and self-titled 'friendship expert' who is the author of the recent book Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections. This week she joins Vanessa to talk all about why we make friends, why we lose them, and how to keep them. Next week, we're back to our regular format with Mauricio! The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Settle Down? 31:09

21 weeks ago31:09

31:09

Devon always said that when she moved back to Ohio, she would start planning for the future. She'd think about all the big things: about finding a partner, about whether she wants kids, about buying a house, about planning for retirement. But now that's she's finally moved home, she's been avoiding all those big topics. Is she avoiding them because she doesn't want them? Or is she avoiding them because it's scary to begin? This week on the show Mauricio and Devon talk about how to stay flexible and also build roots. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Start A Sabbath Ritual? 29:40

22 weeks ago29:40

29:40

Serena, like all of us, wants to spend less time scrolling on her phone. She wants to make more time for community and deep conversations and joy. She wants to have some kind of sabbath practice. But what does that look like when you don't have a religious tradition to dictate the terms? This week on the show Mauricio and Serena walk step-by-step through designing a sabbath ritual. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Go Back to Church? 27:46

23 weeks ago27:46

27:46

Daniel Schroeder's dad is Methodist minister, so he grew up in the church. But about 10 years ago, after he graduated college, he stopped going. Now, after all this time, he's wondering if it's time to go back. This week on the show Mauricio and Daniel discuss the process of coming out and how to carve out a sense of individual identity within your family. Daniel is the host of Let's Ask Taylor Swift , our newest podcast at Not Sorry. Every other week he and Vanessa Zoltan dissect a Taylor Swift song and apply it to their lives. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Change My Checklist for Dating? 27:06

24 weeks ago27:06

27:06

A lot of us have a checklist for dating – things we're specifically looking for (or not looking for) in a partner. After a string of unsuccessful dates, Katie is re-evaluating her checklist. Are these things she really needs? What if they're getting in the way of her finding the right person? This week on the show Mauricio and Katie discuss how past relationships can continue to influence you long after they're over. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Marry My Girlfriend? 24:07

25 weeks ago24:07

24:07

Leading up to the election, Marina and their girlfriend started joking about marriage. Once the idea was in the air, the question became more and more real. Sure they're young, sure they haven't been together that long, but they really love each other. Plus, heading into a conservative administration, LGBTQ+ rights aren't guaranteed. Is now the time to get married? This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and Marina discuss when you should rely on the wisdom of your parents and when you should follow your instincts. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Pursue Acting Professionally? 32:02

26 weeks ago32:02

32:02

About a year ago, Evie completed a Master’s course in acting. But actually pursuing acting professionally feels like a whole different thing – like she’d have to really commit to it as her life’s dream and struggle for years and maybe still not ever make it. Thinking about that, Evie’s not sure if she good enough or feels passionately enough to commit to trying. This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and Evie explore what counts as a dreams and when you should pursue it. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Take an Art Class in 2025? 27:35

27 weeks ago27:35

27:35

It's a new year and we're bringing you a new season with a new host! Today Mauricio is entertaining a very special guest – Vanessa Zoltan. Maybe you've head of her? Vanessa is reflecting on what she wants for 2025 and is wondering whether she should take an art class this year. Art used to be a big part of her life and she misses it! But does she truly have the motivation to leave the house regularly, especially in the evening when she could be resting? -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Final Reflection 11:45

28 weeks ago11:45

11:45

That's a wrap on Should I Quit ! Today Vanessa shares what she's learned over the past two years of making this show. In exactly a week we'll be back with our first episode of the new season with Mauricio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Did They Quit: Being a Stay-at-Home Parent? 10:39

28 weeks ago10:39