S7E8 Egg Freezing, IVF & Dating as a Single Mother: Eboni K. Williams’ SMBC Story

The Single Greatest Choice: For Single Women Exploring Solo Motherhood by Choice (SMBC), Fertility, and Having a Baby on Their Own Through Donor Conception or Adoption

When Eboni K. Williams froze her eggs, she had zero intention of using them, but she did it anyway, just in case. Years later, at 38, her perspective on motherhood shifted, and she was grateful she had taken steps to preserve her fertility. That decision gave her the freedom to pursue solo motherhood on her own timeline, using IVF to welcome the child she once wasn’t sure she wanted.

In this episode, Eboni, a legal expert, journalist, and media personality, shares her egg freezing journey and how it set her up to make empowered choices about her future. She opens up about the reality of IVF as a single woman, the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare (especially as a Black woman), and why she doesn’t romanticize solo motherhood, even though it’s everything she wanted. Plus, she shares how choosing solo motherhood has actually expanded her dating options instead of limiting them.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why Eboni froze her eggs without any intention of using them, and why she’s now so glad she did;
• The realization at 38 that made her decide she wanted to be a mom;
• How she chose a sperm donor and why that decision was so critical;
• Why she went straight to IVF as a single woman due to age-related statistics;
• The importance of having a doula and ensuring mothers’ needs are prioritized in childbirth;
• The medical crisis around Black maternal health and the need for self-advocacy;
• Why she doesn’t over-romanticize solo motherhood, even though it’s been the right path for her;
• How choosing to parent alone has actually given her more dating options, not fewer.

Whether you're considering solo motherhood, navigating an egg freezing journey, or wondering what life as a single mother by choice really looks like, Eboni’s story is an eye-opening look at the power of taking control of your future.

Connect with Eboni K. Williams: Website | Instagram | Podcast | People Magazine

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