Is It Love—Or Just Self-Abandonment?

The Toxic Relationship Detox

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If you've ever caught yourself smiling while your soul is breaking, saying “yes” when your whole body screams “no,” or shape-shifting just to feel wanted—this episode is going to hit deep.

What you’re calling love might actually be a survival response.
A trauma pattern.
A lifetime of abandoning yourself just to be chosen.

Martha Beck calls it “the split”—the moment you bury your truth to belong. And science backs it up: chronic anxiety, exhaustion, mysterious illnesses, and that aching emptiness after success… they’re not random. They’re your soul’s alarm bells, begging you to come home to yourself.

In this episode, I’m breaking down:

• Why self-abandonment masquerades as love
• How trauma trains us to perform instead of connect
• What your symptoms are really trying to tell you
• And how to start your return to integrity, truth, and unshakable self-worth

You’re not broken. You’re just tired of living in a world that taught you to betray yourself to be loved.

And once you reclaim your truth, everything changes—your nervous system softens, your relationships shift, and the life you've always dreamed of stops feeling so far away.

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Chapters

1. The Chameleon Effect: Losing Yourself (00:00:00)

2. Symptoms of Living Split From Yourself (00:04:16)

3. Suffering as Your Wake-Up Call (00:06:30)

4. Three Steps to Reclaim Your Identity (00:09:54)

5. My Personal Journey to Integrity (00:14:40)

6. Living in Love and Prosperity (00:17:05)