#109: Quick Win Challenge! When behaviour happens, stop and ask this one question.

The Unteachables Podcast

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a personal story that shaped how I approach behaviour and relationships in the classroom, and how a single moment of connection can shift everything.

IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:

• A deeply personal story from my school days: How one teacher’s unexpected response broke down my tough exterior.
• Why connection is key: The profound impact of showing care and curiosity over control.
• Practical ways to connect with your students: Simple phrases to use when addressing challenging behaviour.
• A powerful reminder: Why “connection is never the wrong answer” and how it can guide your approach.

This Week’s Quick Win: Start with connection.
Take a moment to pause and ask: Are you okay? or What’s going on?

Building connection in those tough moments may not always lead to immediate change, but it will always give you the best shot at creating buy-in and trust.

Remember:

Behaviour is nuanced and complicated, but connection simplifies the approach. Write it down somewhere you’ll see it: Connection is never the wrong answer.

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RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT:

• Shop all resources
• Join The Behaviour Club
• My book! It’s Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management
• The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp
• Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change'

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