POD 044 | Navigating Parenting and Gender Conversations with Dr. Julia Sadusky

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Introduction:

In this episode of theFormed.life podcast, hosts Paul Brandes and Bill Gorman are thrilled to welcome back Dr. Julia Sadusky, a clinically licensed psychologist based in Colorado, who specializes in the complex intersections of sexuality, gender, and theology. Having previously joined the podcast as one of its very first guests, Dr. Sadusky returns to delve deeper into the challenges faced when engaging our youth in conversations about sexuality and gender. The discussion includes reflections on past podcast episodes, practical guidance on engaging children and teens, and insights from Dr. Sadusky's new two-part book series aimed at equipping parents with the tools to have ongoing, meaningful conversations with their kids. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or anyone with influence on young lives, this episode offers valuable perspectives and resources for navigating these vital topics with sensitivity and understanding. Tune in as we explore these pressing issues with thoughtfulness and grace.

Bio:

Julia Sadusky is a thoughtful explorer of the complex relationship between personal identity and the inherent goodness of the human body. She delves into the nuanced understanding of accepting one's physical existence as a gift, even amidst the struggles and distress often experienced in embodiment. With a focus on reconciling these challenges, Julia reflects on the eternal promise that all tensions and difficulties related to the human condition will ultimately be perfected in a manner beyond even the original paradise of Eden. Her work encourages a greater appreciation of the body’s created goodness while navigating the inherent trials of living fully within it.

Quotes

• "The Importance of Parental Apologies": "Nobody comes to therapy with me and processes a moment where their parent apologized and took responsibility for something. And then they say, wow. That really harmed me when my parent took responsibility for the mistake they made."
• "Protective Language for Kids": "When we look at the research of what protects against sexual abuse in children, the number one thing that protects against sexual abuse is knowing the accurate language for my genitalia."
• "Unity in Diversity: Embracing Different Angles in Conversations on Sexuality": "There's been just the giftedness of communion and unity, in difference, in the different ways that we might and the angles of entry that we might bring to these conversations."

3 Main Takeaways

1. 
   Continuous Conversation on Sexuality and Gender: Dr. Sadusky emphasizes the importance of ongoing, age-appropriate conversations with children and teens about sexuality and gender, rather than a single talk. These conversations help build trust between parents and children and allow parents to be seen as reliable sources of information amidst a highly sexualized culture.
2. Engagement with Personal Stories: Reflecting on one's own sexual story is crucial for integrating sexuality with following Jesus. Parents are encouraged to explore their own histories, as personal experiences can impact how they engage with the topics of sexuality and gender, not only for themselves but also when guiding their children.
3. Ecumenical Collaboration and Education: The episode highlights the collaboration across different Christian traditions to address topics of sexuality and gender. While Dr. Sadusky's books are published under a Catholic perspective, they aim to be accessible and valuable to a broader Christian audience, emphasizing commonalities across denominations in addressing sexual health and ethical living.

Resources

Books

• Start Talking to Your Kids About Sex - Dr. Julia Sadusky: https://www.amazon.com/Start-Talking-Your-Kids-about/dp/1646802225
• Unwanted - Jay Stringer: https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Healing/dp/1631466720
  
  

Websites:

• Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender - Preston Sprinkle: https://www.centerforfaith.com/
  
  

Podcasts

• theFormed.Life Podcast: POD 003 - Dr. Julia Sadusky (2022 podcast episode): https://youtu.be/R1B-tx9BnUY?si=nUzasvQWe78OCUeu
• theFormed.Life Podcast: POD 034 - Dr. Philippe Duveille (podcast episode): https://youtu.be/eKSq0VkxOE0?si=RtPO-rzf5k0ien64
  
  

Timestamps:

00:00 "Podcast Episode Insights with Dr. Sadowski"

04:49 "Gender Expression Through Love's Lens"

07:15 "Submitting Desires, Embracing Embodiment"

12:24 Unexpected Book Shift: Childhood Challenges

16:05 Early Christian Sexuality Education

17:43 Teach Kids Accurate Anatomical Terms

22:49 Navigating Desires and Stories

23:56 "Praying Honestly About Desires"

29:51 Engaged and Unified Christian Leadership

32:53 Teen Sexuality and Technology Guide

33:57 Navigating Bodily Changes and Dysphoria

37:31 Embracing Parental Vulnerability

41:11 "From Podcast Guest to Hairstylist"

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