Hope Is Not Just Wishing for Pizza

Things You Learn in Therapy

Hope isn't just wishful thinking – it's believing good things can happen even amid challenges. In this thought-provoking conversation, Dr. Beth Trammell and Leslie Bolser unpack how to nurture this essential quality in children at every developmental stage.
For parents of younger children, we discuss the importance of mindful language, highlighting how casually using "hope" in disciplinary contexts ("I hope I don't have to come in there...") might undermine the positive meaning we want kids to embrace. Instead, we offer practical examples for modeling hope as positive anticipation in everyday conversations with little ones.
As children grow into the elementary and middle school years, the conversation shifts to more explicit teaching strategies. We share age-appropriate ways to engage children in deeper reflections about hope beyond superficial wishes, helping them expand their understanding of this powerful concept. For teenagers facing bigger disappointments and uncertain futures, we explore the delicate balance between acknowledging hardships while nurturing realistic optimism.
Most crucially, we address when parents should be concerned about hopelessness in their children. Dr. Trammell provides clear guidance on recognizing behavioral changes that might signal a need for professional support, along with a comprehensive overview of resources available – from school counselors to mental health professionals. We tackle the myth that discussing difficult topics like self-harm might "plant ideas," emphasizing that open, caring conversations are actually protective.
Whether you're parenting toddlers, tweens, or teenagers, this episode offers valuable insights to help you foster hope as a foundational strength in your children's lives. Listen now and discover how small shifts in your approach can make a significant difference in how your child views life's possibilities.

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Chapters

1. Welcome and Introduction (00:00:00)

2. Defining Hope for Children (00:01:57)

3. Hope for Elementary and Middle Schoolers (00:05:42)

4. Helping Teens Maintain Hope (00:07:31)

5. When to Seek Professional Help (00:11:39)

6. Closing Thoughts and Resources (00:17:03)