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Drama Triangle - Relationship Games We Don't Know We're Playing: B-Side
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Episode Key Points:
- The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around control
- Focus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic position
- Rescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help others
Signs You Might Be a Rescuer:
- Feeling exhausted by constant requests for help
- Getting frustrated when people don't take your advice
- Finding others' suffering difficult to bear
- Believing your goodness is measured by how effectively you help
Key Insights:
- Society celebrates selflessness without teaching healthy boundaries
- Helping without limits can disempower others
- True support involves inviting others to find their own solutions
- Co-dependency occurs when both parties are controlling each other's lives
Therapeutic Approach:
- Learn self-worth independent of helping others
- Value others' perspectives and processes
- Recognize when "helping" is actually controlling
- Understand that withdrawing support can be a form of genuine care
Practical Advice:
- Ask "How can I support you?" instead of "What you need to do is..."
- Avoid lecturing or judging
- Set clear boundaries
- Recognize your own feelings of inadequacy driving rescue behaviors
Takeaway: Healthy support means empowering others, not solving their problems for them.
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