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The Toddler Discipline Script That Backfires & What to Do Instead
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The Toddler Discipline Script That Backfires & What to Do Instead
In this episode, we're diving into the shortcomings of widely shared toddler discipline advice, particularly the 'validation boundary method.'
Learn why popular scripts like 'It's okay to be mad, but we don't hit' can backfire, reinforcing unwanted behaviors and leading to parental burnout.
We'll explore eight key reasons why this approach is ineffective and offer alternative strategies that focus on proactive, compassionate, and effective discipline techniques that are just a small tweak to change that could make a huge impact. Discover the importance of clear modeling, co-regulation, and addressing sensory needs to help toddlers manage their emotions constructively. Also, get a sneak peek into our upcoming book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family,' and how it can be a valuable resource for mindful parenting.
Heather announced her upcoming co-authored book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges,' which offers practical wisdom from experts on navigating challenging family situations: https://www.heatherschalkparenting.com/signup-list-for-book
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Discipline Issues
00:46 The Validation Boundary Method Explained
02:06 Why the Script Fails: Eight Reasons
07:55 Upcoming Book Announcement
09:41 Empathy and Emotional Attunement
16:20 The Importance of Visual and Physical Cues
18:29 Parental Burnout and Final Thoughts
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like separation anxiety, I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's Coming Soon! So STAY TUNED!
And be sure to grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
- Sing up for 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges" Book Launch Special for $1.99 here!
- Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
- Grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
- Join the Toddler Mom Community
- Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
- Watch the YouTube channel
- Check out the blog
72 episodes
Manage episode 474768750 series 3518275
The Toddler Discipline Script That Backfires & What to Do Instead
In this episode, we're diving into the shortcomings of widely shared toddler discipline advice, particularly the 'validation boundary method.'
Learn why popular scripts like 'It's okay to be mad, but we don't hit' can backfire, reinforcing unwanted behaviors and leading to parental burnout.
We'll explore eight key reasons why this approach is ineffective and offer alternative strategies that focus on proactive, compassionate, and effective discipline techniques that are just a small tweak to change that could make a huge impact. Discover the importance of clear modeling, co-regulation, and addressing sensory needs to help toddlers manage their emotions constructively. Also, get a sneak peek into our upcoming book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family,' and how it can be a valuable resource for mindful parenting.
Heather announced her upcoming co-authored book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges,' which offers practical wisdom from experts on navigating challenging family situations: https://www.heatherschalkparenting.com/signup-list-for-book
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Discipline Issues
00:46 The Validation Boundary Method Explained
02:06 Why the Script Fails: Eight Reasons
07:55 Upcoming Book Announcement
09:41 Empathy and Emotional Attunement
16:20 The Importance of Visual and Physical Cues
18:29 Parental Burnout and Final Thoughts
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like separation anxiety, I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's Coming Soon! So STAY TUNED!
And be sure to grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
- Sing up for 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges" Book Launch Special for $1.99 here!
- Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
- Grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
- Join the Toddler Mom Community
- Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
- Watch the YouTube channel
- Check out the blog
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