10. Let's learn to get jealous

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Have you ever been jealous?

Do you know how to use jealousy to help you grow?

Have you ever felt it when a friend achieves something?

I'm Kitty, your host for "Toolkit for our 20s," and in this episode, we'll dive into the concept of jealousy.
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[01:59] Life is not a pie

[04:35] You haven’t seen it all

[08:45] Learn how to say you’re jealous: Joyful jealousy vs. evil envy

[12:30] Control what you can control
Get in touch

Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com

Instagram: toolkitforour20s

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10. Let's learn to get jealous

Toolkit for Quarterlife

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Have you ever been jealous?

Do you know how to use jealousy to help you grow?

Have you ever felt it when a friend achieves something?

I'm Kitty, your host for "Toolkit for our 20s," and in this episode, we'll dive into the concept of jealousy.
Timestamp

[01:59] Life is not a pie

[04:35] You haven’t seen it all

[08:45] Learn how to say you’re jealous: Joyful jealousy vs. evil envy

[12:30] Control what you can control
Get in touch

Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com

Instagram: toolkitforour20s

13 episodes

#Kitty Shen #Fitness #Mental Health

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Toolkit for Quarterlife

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13. To anyone feeling lonely 34:16

2 years ago34:16

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What was the last time you feel lonely? Why do we develop social pain? How harmful is loneliness? How can we forge meaningful connections in a world that is both unprecedentedly connected and isolating? In today's episode, we dive deep into the science, psychology, and practical ways to address one of humanity's most silent struggles—loneliness. Loneliness is not merely a status of being alone; it's a state of mind that has evolved with us for millions of years. It is deeply embedded in our biology, serving as a mechanism to ensure our survival. But in modern society, this survival mechanism can sometimes feel more like a curse. We explore why it's important to acknowledge this feeling, how to cope with it, and why even the most "popular" among us can feel profoundly isolated. Timestamp [01:10] Loneliness in a Sunday afternoon [05:30] How is loneliness harming us? [07:20] 7 symptoms of loneliness [13:07] Why do we feel lonely? [18:10] 5 ways to feel more connected Get in touch Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Instagram: toolkitforour20s If this episode resonated with you or you know someone who could benefit from a new perspective on being single, please share it with them. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review on your favourite podcast platform. Your support helps us continue to bring insightful episodes like this one to our listeners. Join us next week as we explore more life-changing ideas for our 20s! Resources Loneliness Simon Sinek: "I FEEL LONELY!" How To Deal With Loneliness! | E230 All the lonely people | Karen Dolva | TEDxArendal The Simple Cure for Loneliness | Baya Voce | TEDxSaltLakeCity To anyone feeling lonely Are You Lonely? | Keep it 100 | Cut Watch This When You Feel Lost and Alone 9 Reasons Why You Feel Lonely Loneliness: Causes and Health Consequences Loneliness…

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12. Why You Don't Need the Perfect Morning 22:35

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Do you have to be an early riser to have a successful morning routine? Is there a one-size-fits-all formula for the perfect morning? How can you craft a routine that feels genuinely right for you? Timestamp [03:10] It’s not about when you get up [06:30] How your morning routine distract you from the most important things [12:52] It’s okay to break your routine [16:50] How to craft a routine that works for you Resources the 5am club (book) why we sleep (book) the miracle morning (book) the lazy jenius (podcast) The Myth Behind Morning Routines Common Myths About Routines and Why They Are Wrong Morning Routine Myths: 6 Lies You Might Be Believing The Myth Behind Morning Routines Are These Five “Morning Myths” DESTROYING Your Productivity? (Read this to find out) Get in touch Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Instagram: toolkitforour20s If this episode resonated with you or you know someone who could benefit from a new perspective on being single, please share it with them. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review on your favourite podcast platform. Your support helps us continue to bring insightful episodes like this one to our listeners. Join us next week as we explore more life-changing ideas for our 20s!…

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11. The Art of Being Single: Alone but Not Lonely 24:03

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Have you ever felt the pressure to be in a relationship but wondered if being single might actually be a good thing? Can being single actually help you discover yourself and make self-care a priority? What does it mean to be "complete" by yourself, and how can it affect your approach to relationships in the future? In "The Art of Being Single: Alone but Not Lonely," we dive deep into the liberating and self-discovering world of being single. With insights from experts like Dr. Dardashti and Dr. Jenny Taitz, we'll uncover how being single can be an opportunity to define your personal mission statement and invest in your own growth. From enjoying your own company to understanding what love really means to you, this episode will change the way you view being single. Timestamp [03:35] You learn to love yourself better [09:35] You have more opportunities to do what you want [12:04] You get to spend more time with family and friends [14:48] You can take risks more bravely Resources 17 Benefits of the Single Life 7 science-backed reasons why you may be better off being single 9 Ways Being Single Can Improve Your Life 25 Unexpected Benefits of Being Single 40% of adults in UK are single China -The Empire for Singlehood South Koreans' choice of staying single gains wider acceptance More Japanese people choose to remain single, report shows Get in touch Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Instagram: toolkitforour20s If this episode resonated with you or you know someone who could benefit from a new perspective on being single, please share it with them. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review on your favourite podcast platform. Your support helps us continue to bring insightful episodes like this one to our listeners. Join us next week as we explore more life-changing ideas for our 20s!…

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10. Let's learn to get jealous 17:17

2 years ago17:17

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Have you ever been jealous? Do you know how to use jealousy to help you grow? Have you ever felt it when a friend achieves something? I'm Kitty, your host for "Toolkit for our 20s," and in this episode, we'll dive into the concept of jealousy. Timestamp [01:59] Life is not a pie [04:35] You haven’t seen it all [08:45] Learn how to say you’re jealous: Joyful jealousy vs. evil envy [12:30] Control what you can control Get in touch Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Instagram: toolkitforour20s…

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9. Mid-year reset: How to get your life back on track？ 36:48

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Welcome back to another episode of the Toolkit for our 20s podcast. In this episode, we delve into the concept of a mid-year reset. It's the perfect time to reflect on what we've accomplished so far, set new goals, and kickstart the next six months in a fresh way. Get ready to say goodbye to the old and hello to the new as we embark on the second half of 2023 together. Join us on this journey of self-improvement and discovery! Timestamp [02:40] Brain dump [05:42] Take a look at where you’re now [19:45] Goal-setting for the next 6 months [27:46] 10 things to do in a reset Resources 💭 2022 Mid Year Review | Real Talk about Goals, Expectations, Self-Care Plan With Me: July + 2021 Mid-Year Review 2021 Mid Year Reset + Review | goals, reflections + WORKSHEET How to Do a Mid-Year Reset ☀️ How to get your life back on track: The Reset Method Contact Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Instagram: Toolkitforour20s…

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8. Decode Dating Apps: Is True Love Just a Swipe Away? 38:16

2 years ago38:16

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On dating apps, we may become easier to meet, but we are not any easier to love. What determines which profiles we see? What type of profiles get more likes? How to do you decide who to match and who to date? How we can stay safe in dating? And do people find true love there and how? The perfect person does not exist. It is the relationship you create that makes them perfect. Timestamps: [02:30] Story of a fake popular girl [03:20] You are actually scored on dating apps [05:44] Give people a chance and also give yourself a chance [07:30] $40,000 for one inch in height [08:53] Say yes maybe [10:02] Admit, you don’t know what you want [13:25] More is less [14:10] Dating apps or slot machines? [16:10] How to improve your profile and communication [24:38] Meet in real life ASAP [27:20] Dating apps are more dangerous than we think and how to cope [35:45] You’re whole and may you find the love of your life Contact: Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Resources: I Found Out My Secret Internal Tinder Rating And Now I Wish I Hadn’t Romancing the algorithm: The data science of dating apps： https://atelier.net/insights/romancing-algorithm-data-science-dating-apps Dating App Revenue and Usage Statistics (2023) https://www.businessofapps.com/data/dating-app-market/#:~:text=Usage The Science of Online Dating | Bella Glanville | TEDxPCL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPlKNQPVNQI The Art of Online Dating | Sarey Ruden | TEDxDetroit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vbwbjY4rgA Online love & infidelity. We're in the game, what are the rules? | Michelle Drouin | TEDxNaperville: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQGjAp4GXU4 The Beautiful Truth About Online Dating | Arum Kang & Dawoon Kang | TEDxUCDavisSF: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mRWPqwyukGY How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps | Christina Wallace: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jZHw7Wf0v0 How I hacked online dating | Amy Webb: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6wG_sAdP0U Planet Sex: The science of dating apps: https://www.notion.so/Why-we-are-addicted-to-dating-apps-And-stays-single-29916381ef2f4a9b95c21d2086fbdbfc?pvs=4#71b6cbf3e9cd47d486a45707793659bf Digital dating: why you should say yes to maybe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euJmlXgMQUM The Art of Online Dating | Sarey Ruden | TEDxDetroit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vbwbjY4rgA What Dating Apps and Algorithms Don’t Tell You! | Violet Lim | TEDxNTU: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WQ5X9s34A8…

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7. How to break up with your phone? 15 tips to take back control of your life 34:49

2 years ago34:49

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What’s your screen time today? Do you feel happier after checking your phone? What else can you do with that time? What do you want to pay attention to in your life? In this episode, you’ll discover how phones and apps are designed to be addictive, and learn how the time we spend on them damages our abilities to focus, think deeply, and form new memories. You’ll then make customised changes to your settings, apps, environment, and mindset that will ultimately enable you to take back control of your life. Intention prompt I’ve always loved to … I’ve always wanted to … When I was a kid, I was fascinated by … If I had more time, I would like to … Some activities that I know put me into flow are … People I would like to spend more time with include … Check-in prompt What parts of your relationship with your phone are going well? What things about your relationship with your phone do you want to change? What’s one thing you could do to start? What are you doing - or could do - to strengthen your focus? What are your goals for the next 30 days? What fun plans could you make to spend time with people you care about? Have your reinstalled any of the apps that you previously deleted, let you phone back into your bedroom, or turned notifications back on? If so, does it feel like the right decisions? What do you want to pay attention to in your life? Timestamps [03:58] how to tell you use your phone too much [04:50] how phones alters our brain, impair memory, attention and creativity [14:08] it’s not all fault: how phone brain hacks us [20:35] leverage technology to fight technology [28:22] if you don’t shape your environment, your environment will shape you [31: 50] make our new habits stay Get in touch Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Resources How to break up with your phone Willpower doesn’t work Keep going Could you live without a smartphone? | Anastasia Dedyukhina | TEDxWandsworth: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNQujCwCu88 Phone Addiction: Warning Signs And Treatment: https://www.addictioncenter.com/drugs/phone-addiction/ 7 Things To Know if You Think You're Addicted to Your Phone: https://www.health.com/condition/anxiety/cell-phone-addiction Smartphone compulsion test: https://virtual-addiction.com/smartphone-compulsion-test/ The Optimal iPhone Settings and Best Apps for Productivity, Focus, and Health: https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-set-up-your-iphone-for-productivity-focus-and-your-own-longevity-bb27a68cc3d8#2377 The darkly soothing compulsion of 'doomscrolling': https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210226-the-darkly-soothing-compulsion-of-doomscrolling 6 Ways to Overcome Your Mindless Scrolling Habit: https://www.makeuseof.com/ways-to-overcome-mindless-scrolling-habit/ Nothing Beneficial Comes From Mindless Scrolling: https://www.howtogeek.com/777940/nothing-beneficial-comes-from-mindless-scrolling/…

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6. How to embrace living alone? Tranquility is the new luxury 27:35

2 years ago27:35

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Tranquility is the new luxury, and living alone is one of the most worthwhile experience. Yet, how to be comfortable living alone? If you’re living alone for the first time or seasoned in living solo and in need of a confidence boost; or even if you’re living alone, loving it and like to be reminded, you’ve come to the right episode. Timestamps [02:18] Personal living alone experience [04:30] Create your dream space: a manifestation of your inner world [07:09] Know yourself: the most important relationship is the one with yourself [11:18] Strengthen your relationship: living alone actually help you build stronger relationships [15:01] Stay safe: always the top 1 priority [18:14] Structure your day: don’t follow a routine for the sake of having a routine [24:14] Take care of yourself: our body keeps the score Remember, you're not alone in this journey. We're here to help. And if you've enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving us a review. We'd really appreciate it. See you next time! Tune in to our "Toolkit for Our 20s" podcast as we help you navigate the ups and downs of living alone in your 20s, a time of exploration, growth, and self-discovery. Get in touch: Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com Resources How to Be Comfortable Being Alone | Robin Sharma 7 WAYS TO LIVE ALONE | How To Deal With Loneliness | Naturally Negeen **Living Alone for 5 Years | Pros & Cons, Experience & Advice | Kalyn's Coffee Talks & Flows 12 Ways to Embrace Living Alone: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-live-alone 10 Reasons Why Living Alone Can Be Good For You: https://wearesololiving.com/10-reasons-why-living-alone-can-be-good-for-you/…

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5. How to actually get things done? Battle procrastination not with self-control 23:34

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Do you keep putting things off although you have to do it some time anyway? Do you keep avoiding work with a ton of fancy reasons (excuses)? Do you behave like a normal human being and procrastinate? I know I do, and that’s why I did all these research to try to understand how to cope with procrastination, both the short-term ones and long-term ones. Drawing on the TED Talk "Inside the mind of a master procrastinator" by Tim Urban, we discuss two main types of procrastination: Timestamps [05:13] Short-term procrastination Willpower doesn’t work, but the following techniques do. Keep experimenting until you find the ones that suit you the best [07:43] Brain dump [08:58] 2-min rule [11:47] Set the bar low [13:28] Break it down into small chunks [13:54] Optimise your environment [14:42] Self-imposed deadline [15:41] Timeblocking /pomodoro [17:06] Take after your well-being [17:44] Stop working [18:50] Long-term procrastination We never take actions because of one thing. And that thing, is just, so, boring. References Tim Urban: Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | TED Mel Robbins: How to stop screwing yourself over | TED Keep Going - Book by Austin Kleon Getting Things Done - Book by David Allen Atomic Habits - Book by James Clear Willpower Doesn't Work - Book by Benjamin Hardy Big Magic - Book by Elizabeth Gilbert Procrastination – 7 Steps to Cure (Youtube) Why you procrastinate even when it feels bad (Youtube) Avoiding procrastination in 3, 2, 1: Learn about the 2-minute rule Using Brain Dumping to Manage Your Mental Health Big Magic Getting things done Pomodoro Technique Contact me Email: sijiashen1998@gmail.com…

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4. How to befriend anxiety? The world is bigger than our worry 14:02

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Do you feel anxious today? Good, it means you’re alive and you’re not a psycopath. Today's questions are Why we feel anxious and how to befriend anxiety? [02:18] 5 types of anxiety [05:59] We need anxiety, just as we need laughter and tears and friends and family. [06:25] How to befriend anxiety [09:31] Biased mental patterns that cause anxiety [12:18 ] The world is bigger than our worry Thanks for joining me this week on the "Questions in 20s" podcast. Make sure to catch the next episode where we'll continue asking and answering questions about our quarter-life. Get in touch: sijiashen1998@gmail.com…

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2. How to stop the sound in your mind? Cure overthinking today 16:32

2 years ago16:32

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Is there always a voice in your head? Is the voice inside your head creating confusion, doubt, or fear? Welcome to today’s episode and explore overthinking, its causes, and shares practical steps to dial down the volume of the nagging voice in your mind. A quieter mind, a happier life. [01:23] Overthinking is when what you think gets in the way of what you want. [02:23] Step 1: how to identify the sound? ask these 3 questions [08:35]Step 2: how to turn down the sound? 3 little things to do [12:51]Step 3: how to transform the sound? In this episode, we delve deep into our inner dialogues and thought processes that often hold us back from taking action. We explore practical strategies to overcome overthinking and encourage compassionate self-talk, helping you regain control over your mind. References: Get in touch: Email me: s ijiashen1998@gmail.com…

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3. How to make the right decision? Or maybe there isn't one 15:19

2 years ago15:19

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Why is it so hard to make decisions in our 20s? Do you feel like you need to weigh every side of the option before choosing one? Do you feel anxious of making the wrong decision? Do you procrastinate making a decision at all? What if i say, there is no right decisions in your 20s? Here’s why [03:06]Things Change, So Do You [06:10] Decisions are Colorful [08:41 ] Making A Decision is Already A Good Decision [12:42 ] You Can Always Choose Again References The Defining Decade by Meg Jay Quarterlife Crisis by Alexandra Robbins and Abby Wilner The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Follow this podcast for more content like this, and join me on the next episode as we continue tackling the big questions in our 20s. Thank you for spending time with me, this is Kitty from Questions in 20s together. See you in the next episode! Get in touch: Email me: s ijiashen1998@gmail.com…

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1. Why 20s is so hard? Quarterlife crisis is real 10:09

2 years ago10:09