Not Good Enough: Healing Core Beliefs and Anxiety
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What if the inner voice telling you "I'm not good enough" isn't just an occasional thought, but a core belief driving everything you do? Sabrina Troback, registered counselor and author of "Not Good Enough," reveals how these deeply-held beliefs form through generations of family patterns and personal experiences—sometimes even before birth.
After two decades teaching children with learning disabilities, Sabrina discovered her true calling helping clients understand and challenge their core beliefs. Her approach dives beneath surface behaviors to address the fundamental feeling of unworthiness that fuels anxiety, self-doubt, and disconnection. As she explains, "That core belief is kind of that inner voice that drives everything that we do... for a lot of people who have had trauma throughout their life, often that core belief is feeling not good enough, not important, not valued."
The conversation illuminates how trauma passes through families in surprising ways. Even well-intentioned parents who avoid harmful behaviors like addiction can transmit the same "not good enough" message through impatience, anger, or emotional unavailability. This generational transmission explains why similar feelings of unworthiness persist despite outwardly different family environments.
Sabrina offers practical wisdom for those struggling with anxiety, explaining that most people only recognize anxiety symptoms when they're already overwhelming. Her book provides tools to identify subtle early signs—sweaty palms, jaw clenching, shoulder tension—and address anxiety before it escalates. She also shares transformative strategies like making specific plans for anxiety-triggering situations, which builds confidence in your ability to handle challenges.
Whether you're wrestling with past trauma or simply feeling perpetually inadequate, this episode provides compassionate insight into how these patterns form and practical steps toward healing. As Sabrina reminds us, "Evolution, not revolution." Small, sustainable changes create lasting transformation in how we view ourselves and engage with the world.
Chapters
1. Introduction to Trauma Talks (00:00:00)
2. Meet Sabrina Troback (00:00:39)
3. Understanding Core Beliefs (00:08:36)
4. The Book: Not Good Enough (00:14:52)
5. What Is Trauma? (00:21:56)
6. Dealing With Emotions (00:25:22)
7. Bringing Yourself Back to Present (00:31:25)
8. Making Plans to Manage Anxiety (00:37:03)
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