Why Finding Love in LA Feels Impossible, Trauma Bonds and Broken Hearts ft. Jazz - Ep.085

Unattainable Podcast Show

Special thanks to Jazz for being a part of this episode of Unattainable Podcast Show
Zach Evans and Jazz dive deep into the challenging landscape of modern dating, focusing on how LA's culture of abundance creates a disposable attitude toward relationships. Their candid conversation explores how past heartbreak shapes current relationship patterns and defensive mechanisms.
• Dating in LA is exceptionally difficult due to unlimited options creating a "swipe right" mentality
• Promoters are universally considered red flags in the dating scene
• Model houses where women live rent-free in exchange for club appearances create unhealthy dynamics
• Most relationships follow a pattern: initial excitement, disillusionment, then either growth or repetition
• Both men and women build emotional walls after being hurt, making vulnerability difficult
• The tension between being a "nice guy" versus adopting toxic traits to avoid heartbreak
• Emotional unavailability stems from past trauma but prevents genuine connection
• Modern relationship dynamics are complicated by conflicting social messages about gender roles
• Personal growth requires confronting emotions rather than suppressing them
• Therapy can be valuable but finding the right therapist is challenging
Thank you all for listening! We've been experiencing amazing growth these past few weeks. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to follow us for more unfiltered conversations about relationships and dating.
Your feedback means the world to us, so don't hesitate to reach out!
PLEASE SUBSCRIBE AND LIKE
Stay updated on every new exciting and unique episode filled with conversations and stories you have not heard ever before.
Brand New Episode every Monday at 7pm PST
Listen on ANY Podcast Streaming Service
Apple Podcast: https://smarturl.it/UnattainableApple
Spotify: https://smarturl.it/UnattainableSpotify
Google: https://smarturl.it/UnattainableGoogle
Amazon: https://smarturl.it/UnattainableAmazon
AND MANY MORE
Follow /Subscribe on
instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unattainableShow
Twitter: https://twitter.com/unattainableshw
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unattainableShow
Youtube: https://smarturl.it/UnattainableYoutube
Thank you for watching :)

Chapters

1. Intro and Meeting Jazz (00:00:00)

2. Toxic Dating Culture in LA (00:05:43)

3. Dating Red Flags and Nightlife (00:14:15)

4. Dating Preferences and Personality Types (00:23:18)

5. The Challenges of Modern Relationships (00:33:52)

6. Past Heartbreak and Character Development (00:45:48)

7. Confronting Emotional Walls and Trauma (00:55:34)

8. Substance Use and Mental Health (01:08:25)

9. Closing Thoughts on Therapy (01:16:12)