WHAT YOU ARE NOT CHANGING, YOU ARE CHOOSING

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🎙️ UNCHARTED EPISODE 13
WHAT YOU ARE NOT CHANGING, YOU ARE CHOOSING

This one’s personal.

This episode started as a conversation with myself and my psychotherapist. A sentence that wouldn’t leave me alone:

What you are not changing, you are choosing.

I didn’t plan for this podcast to go here when I started it. It was meant to be about trading, business, maybe a few behind-the-scenes truths. But life had other plans. Because what I realised is that the most dangerous charts aren’t the ones we trade, they’re the ones we ignore inside ourselves.

This episode is about the patterns you keep repeating. The relationships, routines, roles, expectations… all the things that quietly chip away at you while you convince yourself “it’s not that bad.”

But here’s the thing: not speaking is still a choice. Staying still is still a direction. Tolerating something that drains you is still an answer. Maybe not a loud one. But loud isn't always honest.

And that’s where this starts. With brutal honesty. With shadow work. With facing the stuff I didn’t want to admit. Things like:

• I let people treat me in ways I’d never accept now
• I stayed too long in things because I wanted to be chosen
• I played small in my own business so someone else could feel big
• I thought being loved would heal me
• I gave more than I had and then blamed them for not noticing I was empty

And I talk about all of that. Not because it’s easy. But because hiding it isn’t helping anyone.

I walk you through the moment it all cracked. A Bitcoin miner gifted to me last Christmas made me realise, even after all these years, people still see the surface, not the person. They don’t know the woman who rebuilt after everything fell apart. The one who paid back what others lost. The one who kept going when no one clapped. The one who cried through trades and still showed up.

I’ve done the work. Therapy. Shadow work. Boundary setting. Ancestry research that connected me to power, but also showed me the silence I was raised in. That silence stops here.

We talk:

• Emotional survival and how it becomes your identity
• Self-leadership and learning to let go of what you wanted them to be
• The cost of staying in things that look good on paper but feel like slow death
• And the moment you decide — not just hope — that it’s time to live differently

And yes, I talk about love. The kind that entered during lockdown. The kind that felt like fate. And how it turned into something that made me question my worth. Because I believed the words — and ignored the behaviour. I thought being seen was the same as being valued. It’s not.

So if you’re here, listening, and thinking, “I’m not sure if I’m choosing this or just stuck in it” then this is the episode for you.

Because sometimes, change doesn’t come from a clear plan. It comes from reaching a point where you simply can’t do it like this anymore.

And that’s where power lives. In the choosing. In the pause. In the messy middle before it all clicks.

So let’s talk about it. Let’s unpack what you’re still choosing and why. And let’s start shifting.

Because future you? She’s watching. She’s not asking you to hustle or perform. She’s just waiting for you to back yourself like you’ve backed everyone else.

Thi

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