53. Facing Down a Stonewall: Standing up for Financial Fairness

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Financial autonomy is crucial to everyone's wellbeing, but what happens when one partner refuses to engage in conversations about money? We explore the dynamics of financial stonewalling and share practical strategies for taking ownership of your adult responsibilities.
• Financial issues can become control mechanisms when one partner refuses to engage in good faith
• Both men and women have been socialized to question women's financial abilities and understanding
• Red flags include: lack of access to accounts, asking for money like an allowance, monitored spending, refusal to share information
• Religious contexts often use spiritual language to validate financial dependence and lack of autonomy
• Taking steps toward financial independence isn't being sneaky—it's being smart
• Running your credit report helps identify accounts in your name you may not be aware of
• Opening your own bank account provides security and independence
• Understanding your own values helps guide decision-making when faced with resistance
• Having financial options doesn't mean planning to leave—it means staying by choice, not necessity
• A financially independent woman isn't a threat—she's simply someone who refuses to be stuck
Join us next time to discuss practical ways a stay-at-home parent can build financial autonomy--beyond the obvious ways like winning the lottery!

Resources We Mentioned in the Show (or should have)

Terry Real Homepage

What is Financial Abuse? (The Hotline)

Values Clarification

Learn about your credit report and how to get a copy (USAGov)

Your Money Matters: A Guide to Financial Independence for Women

Financial Literacy for Women

Financial Freedom: Women, Money, and Domestic Abuse

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Chapters

1. Introduction to Financial Autonomy (00:00:00)

2. Identifying Red Flags in Financial Control (00:06:47)

3. When Partners Stonewall Financial Conversations (00:12:31)

4. Spiritual Manipulation in Financial Relationships (00:18:09)

5. Practical Steps Toward Financial Independence (00:22:24)

6. Navigating Guilt and Trust Issues (00:36:04)

7. Partnership vs. Financial Dependency (00:43:22)

8. Looking Ahead and Closing Thoughts (00:44:42)