388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain

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388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain

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392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits) 24:54

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Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar? In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43 17:42

14 days ago17:42

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After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have . That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress. In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty. For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot 14:56

21 days ago14:56

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Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they’re holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It’s simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself. Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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389. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You) (Greatest Hits) 16:09

28 days ago16:09

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What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking the way society trains women and marginalized people to fear their own greatness. We’re taught that wanting more—more impact, more growth, more self-expression—is selfish or arrogant. And in times like these, when the world feels like it’s sliding backward, that message gets even louder: stay quiet, don’t make waves, be content with “good enough.” But now is exactly when we need to lean into our power. Tune in to learn why being extraordinary has nothing to do with fame or visibility—and everything to do with how deeply you commit to your values, your purpose, and your own full expression. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/389 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain 16:16

5 weeks ago16:16

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Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to wrap my brain around long-term thinking when everything—politics, the economy, even basic social norms—feels like it’s shifting under our feet. So in this episode, I’m sharing how I’m navigating this moment—and offering a mindset shift that can help you move forward with clarity, even when the future looks like a big ol’ question mark. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/388 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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387. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Greatest Hits) 20:10

6 weeks ago20:10

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Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny new thought that doesn’t quite feel believable, you already know it doesn’t work that way. In this episode, I’m breaking down why belief—not just thought—is what really drives change, and how to climb the ladder in a way your brain can actually follow. This work takes patience and persistence, but the payoff is huge. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/387 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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386. Defying Ageist Stereotypes: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt 31:20

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Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background, but what if it’s actually the perfect time to dream bigger , take more risks, and redefine what’s possible for ourselves? This week, Master Certified Life Coach Susan Hyatt is back to talk about making courageous changes—at any age. She’s sharing her own wild decision to sail around the world (with six pets, no less!) and calling out the limiting beliefs that keep women from going after their biggest dreams. Whether you're looking to switch careers, take up a new hobby, or embark on an adventure, this episode is your sign to go for it! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/386 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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385. How to Cope When You Don’t Feel Ok 16:19

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Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natural for your brain to spiral. But staying stuck in that disoriented, doom-scrolling state isn’t actually helping you feel safer—it’s just keeping you trapped in stress and anxiety. In this episode, I break down why your brain wants to keep obsessively checking the news and why that strategy never really helps. Plus, I’ll share one powerful mindset shift that can help you navigate this unsettling time. Tune in to learn how to make this shift and find a little more peace—no matter what’s happening around you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/385 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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384. The Logical Case for Positive Thinking with Oliver Burkeman 35:38

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Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect , then you’d finally feel at peace? What if the real secret to feeling more fulfilled was actually letting go of that control? This week, I’m joined by Oliver Burkeman, author of 4,000 Weeks, to talk about why embracing our limits—not fighting them—is the key to a more meaningful life. Oliver and I dive into our culture’s obsession with productivity and perfection, why it actually makes us more anxious, and how to stop chasing an impossible standard and start spending your precious time in a way that actually matters. If you’re ready to stop feeling like life is a never-ending to-do list, this episode is for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/384 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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383. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Greatest Hits) 27:44

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Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we find ourselves doom-scrolling, consuming bad news like it’s our job, and wondering why we feel so anxious and exhausted. Is obsessively staying informed actually helping you—or just keeping you stuck? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how to rewire your brain’s alarm system, recognize when “being informed” is just people-pleasing in disguise, and refocus on your actual sphere of influence—so you can take meaningful action without burning yourself out. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/383 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for someone to tell you what to do or how to respond? Women are taught from birth that we’re too emotional, too irrational, too incapable of figuring things out on our own—especially when things get tough. But that conditioning is total BS, and it’s costing us our agency, autonomy, and ability to take action. In this short but powerful episode, I’m breaking down why it’s crucial to trust yourself, how to develop self-efficacy even when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and why waiting for permission or direction is the biggest thing holding you back. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/382 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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381. Be Your Own Partner: A Conversation About Singleness and Mindset with Meghan Keane 40:39

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Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between? This week, I’m joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR’s Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner , to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk about how to identify your values, manage your thoughts and emotions, and create meaningful, nourishing connections—with yourself and others. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/381 Mentioned in this episode: Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training Safety Training…

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