Unmasking Perfectionism: The Hidden Link Between Stress and the Need to Be Perfect

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Is Your Perfectionism Really Just a Stress Response?
In this episode of The Empowered Educator Podcast, we uncover the hidden connection between perfectionism and your brain’s stress response system — especially for educators. Learn why perfectionism isn’t a personal flaw, but a learned survival strategy rooted in fear, fawn mode, and a nervous system trying to keep you safe.

You’ll discover:

• How perfectionism acts as protective armor against failure, rejection, and shame
• The neuroscience of stress: how your amygdala triggers fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses
• Why perfectionism often shows up in “fawn mode” — over-accommodating, over-achieving, and over-functioning
• How school systems unintentionally reinforce perfectionism through rewards and rankings
• Why students need regulated, not perfect, teachers — and how authenticity creates deeper classroom impact
• Tools and practices to rewire your brain for calm, confidence, and compassion
• How self-compassion builds new neural pathways and helps you reclaim your joy

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Stay empowered,
Jen

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Chapters

1. Introducing Teaching Without Burnout (00:00:00)

2. Perfectionism as Protection (00:01:00)

3. The Neuroscience of Perfectionism (00:02:30)

4. How Schools Reward Perfectionist Culture (00:05:14)

5. Breaking Free From Perfect Teacher Syndrome (00:08:12)

6. Visualization Practice for Self-Compassion (00:12:48)

7. Closing Thoughts and Teacher Appreciation (00:14:26)