Ep 100 - How trauma lives in your cells and transforms your fertility journey with Nicole Lange

What I Wish I Knew beyond Pregnancy Loss

A Milestone Celebration & Deep Dive into Somatic Healing

We pause to honour a profound milestone—our 100th episode together.

What began as a simple knowing that conversations about pregnancy loss needed to happen has blossomed into a global movement, rippling through practitioners, bereaved parents, and healthcare providers worldwide.

Your downloads, shares, voice messages, and whispered recommendations to friends have transformed how we understand and support reproductive trauma.

Thank you for proving that these conversations matter, that this work matters, and for being the gentle revolutionaries changing everything, one listen at a time.

Now, we dive deep with Nicole Lange, acupuncturist and founder of Life Healing Life, who illuminates the intricate dance between trauma, nervous system regulation, and reproductive health.

Nicole's revolutionary "nursery, house, neighborhood" methodology reveals why treating fertility in isolation—without addressing the whole person—creates unnecessary suffering and compounds trauma.

From her own journey through assault and psychiatric hospitalization to becoming a pioneer in integrated reproductive care, Nicole demonstrates how Western medicine's mind-body split has left us treating symptoms while ignoring the foundation. Her approach bridges ancient wisdom with cutting-edge science, showing how trauma literally lives in our cells and why cognitive therapy alone cannot heal what the body remembers.

This episode explores the profound truth that our bodies scan for safety four times per second, and how chronic stress rewires our entire system away from reproduction and toward survival. Nicole shares practical somatic tools that speak directly to the nervous system—from acupuncture and breathwork to simple practices like humming and feeling your feet in your shoes.

We dive deep into generational trauma, examining how the nervous system patterns of our parents and grandparents live on in our cells, affecting our children before they're even conceived. Yet this isn't a story of doom—it's one of profound possibility and choice. As Nicole beautifully explains, healing trauma isn't about perfection; it's about creating enough moments of safety and regulation to shift the equation.

This conversation will transform how you understand the connection between your inner world and your fertility journey. It's an invitation to see pregnancy loss not as personal failure, but as the body's profound wisdom in action—and to approach healing from a place of deep compassion rather than relentless optimization.

Key Topics Covered:

• The "nursery, house, neighborhood" approach to fertility care
• How trauma lives in the body and affects reproductive function
• The four-times-per-second nervous system scan for safety
• Generational trauma and epigenetic inheritance
• Somatic practices that regulate the nervous system
• Why cognitive therapy alone isn't enough for trauma healing
• The difference between fertility optimization and holistic wellness
• Reframing pregnancy loss through the lens of body wisdom

To Connect with Nicole:

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thebabyyouwant

Website: https://www.lifehealinglife.com/

FB/IG Pages (mostly serve as archives of info to share)

https://www.facebook.com/lifehealinglife/ https://www.facebook.com/lhlgriefandloss/ https://www.facebook.com/lhllifewithoutbaby/ https://www.facebook.com/lhlpregnancyandparenting/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/thebabyyouwantofficial/

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Sharna Southan Pregnancy Loss Practitioner & Trauma informed Coach

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Sending you so much love and light on your healing journey. 💛