Why Community and Connection Matter in Raising Resilient Kids with Doug Bolton

Where Parents Talk: Evidence-based Expert Advice on Raising Kids Today

In this episode of the Where Parents Talk podcast, host Lianne Castelino is joined by Doug Bolton, clinical psychologist, educator, and author, for an in-depth conversation on the complex realities of parenting in today’s world.

Bolton sheds light on the rising rates of youth anxiety and stress—and how well-meaning parental behaviours can sometimes contribute to these challenges.

The discussion explores the critical role of emotional regulation, the value of community, and the importance of prioritizing connection over competition.

The conversation also examines the influence of digital culture, device use, and social media on youth relationships and the evolving understanding of consent.

Bolton offers insights to help parents navigate the delicate balance between discipline, open communication, and fostering independence—all in support of their children’s emotional and mental well-being.

Takeaways:

• The unprecedented levels of anxiety and depression in youth today can be partly attributed to the pressures of academic achievement and the competitive nature of modern schooling.
• Effective parenting requires a focus on emotional regulation and building connected relationships rather than relying on traditional incentives and punishments.
• Creating a sense of belonging within communities is crucial for children's mental health, serving as a buffer against stress and trauma.
• Parents must prioritize their own emotional health to model and encourage resilience and coping skills in their children.
• The impact of social media and device usage on children's mental health is significant, underscoring the need for open communication and understanding around consent and relationships.
• Encouraging independence in children is vital, but it should be balanced with the need for support and guidance to navigate the challenges of adolescence.

Links referenced in this episode:

• whereparents talk.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

• North Shore Academy
• Robert Wood Johnson Foundation
• Baby Einstein
• Dan Pink
• Bruce Perry
• Stuart Shanker
• Ross Green
• Stuart Ablon
• Teresa Barker
• Susie Wise

This podcast is for parents, guardians, teachers and caregivers to learn proven strategies and trusted tips on raising kids, teens and young adults based on science, evidenced and lived experience.

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