Field Report-Metabolizing Endings (Unedited) Work Life Play With Aaron McHugh podcast

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Rilke says, "Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer."

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Field Report-Sustained Peak Performance (Unedited) 14:18

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On the road to impossible, how to sustain our ability to create impact and performance.

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Field Report-Usefulness (Unedited) 6:04

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Confusing our worth our usefulness.

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Field Report-Prayers (Unedited) 3:58

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The words we speak are our prayers.

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I Am From-Sabbath Poem 6:08

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Inspired from George Ella Lyon's "How to write a poem" exploring the question, where am I from?

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Field Report-Exuberant Joy Via Ferrata (Unedited) 1:51

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Finding ecstatic joy in life's adventures.

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Field Report-Snowmass Peak Zone 2 Living (Unedited) 8:38

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Updates on the thorns, buds, and roses of life.

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Field Report-The Outlaw is the Radical (Unedited) 4:45

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Be human and remind everyone else of their humanity.

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Field Report-Strenuous Wholeness (Unedited) 5:14

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The hard but rewarding effort to live fully and authentically, integrating all parts of yourself amidst life's challenges.

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Field Report-Hard with Heart Forward (Unedited) 8:40

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Doing hard things with heart is the only way.

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Analog Mode-Sabbath Poem 3:07

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A sabbath poem reflection about a trip in the San Juan Mountains of Colorado.

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Field Report-Firsts (Unedited) 5:32

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Firsts are challenging, exhilarating, and draining.

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Field Report-To Be Believed In (Unedited) 3:51

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The importance of believing in others and telling them.

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Field Report-Start Here Introduction 3:12

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Unedited recordings from the front lines of my journey. Sixteen months ago, I took on a new, all-consuming career assignment—amazing and demanding every bit of me. Along the way, I’ve cataloged ideas, insights, and transformational stories to share. Welcome to Field Reports : raw, real, and simple adventure updates. Keep going, friends. Aaron…

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Why I Believe Work Life Balance is a Myth 12:39

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Let go of work-life balance and embrace the unforced rhythms of a fully integrated life. I used to think that work-life balance was achievable. Now I believe it is a myth. No matter how hard I tried, I could never achieve this perfect moment of everything in my life working in perfect Zen harmony and balance. I felt so exhausted trying to stay in balance The way forward isn’t exhaustion. It isn’t juggling, stretching, or herculean gymnastic efforts to come through for others while ignoring yourself. The way forward is an integrated, wholehearted life. The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor, and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him, he’s always doing both.” -James Michener Here’s why I wasn’t able to achieve balance After the death of our daughter Hadley in 2011, I found myself desperately trying to hold my life together. My marriage was suffering. My kids needed their dad. And my already intense corporate career as an executive was only getting more complicated as responsibilities and promotions kept coming my way. Our sweet daughter Hadley crossing over to eternity I was burning out but didn’t admit it. Anybody else could see the signs a mile away. I was so focused on what was right in front of me that when it finally hit-I was utterly blindsided. And the solution was nothing short of a complete do-over—a “reboot,” as we called it. We sold our house and everything, down to the last fork. We spent the summer serving at a Young Life camp, finding a new normal. Ringing in the Opening Day Trading bell at the London Stock Exchange, but wondering what’s it all for? It wasn’t easy. It took brutal months of inner work, therapy programs, tears, and facing the old stories that no longer served us. Stories like “I have to do it all” and “I can’t trust anybody else to get it done.” But out of that, we emerged with a new vision for our life—a new story-A life filled with excitement, ambition, love, rest, forgiveness, and hope. As we began this journey creating a new life I realized my software executive career no longer aligned with the person I had become. For so long, I had tried to find the fabled work-life balance. The problem was I didn’t want my life to be compartmentalized anymore, with each area staying separate from the other. I wanted it all integrated into one wild, beautiful mess. Once I stopped trying to achieve work-life balance, I discovered a third-way rhythm, “a repeated pattern of movement” where work, life, play, relationships, rest, finances, friendships, and adventure could co-exist within my experience of each day. I began to experience my life as a complete whole where every valuable aspect was connected and worked together. I discovered more of God’s presence and meaning in ways I had never noticed. It radically transformed my life for the better-my mission now is to share that discovery with as many people as possible (like you). Aligning the work I do, with who I’d become Ultimately I left my corporate executive career behind. After eight months of living off of savings, pursuing work that fit the person I had become, and taking our checking account down to $1500, I discovered a new career doing work that I truly loved. That fit within this new integrated life we were architecting. (Fun fact, my first client meeting in my new career as an executive leadership coach happened less than 1 mile from where I resigned from my old gig just months before. Talk about coming full circle.) Taking an inventory of the assets of my life. Dashboard lights from Green (going great), Yellow (watch this), to Red (needs attention now) Loosening our grip on balance My story isn’t about making millions, retiring early, or living a carefree “work 2 hours a week” lifestyle. That’s all great, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. Like you, I still work a full-time, 40-50 hour work week. I’m talking about loosening our grip on perfection and balance by living a more meaningful, fulfilled, and wholly integrated life in your current environment- In the career, relationships, and body you’re in-resulting in a life full of adventure and meaning. I’ve discovered another way to operate in the world. I am at choice. I no longer live under the “shoulds” and “ought to’s” of my creation or the expectations of others. Fully alive and without knowing where it’s all heading. Trusting this is the way forward. Living a life true to myself Three closing wisdom invitations, starting with “If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.” I believe you see this within your experience. Bronnie Ware is a palliative care provider and author The Top Five Regrets the Dying . She captured her results over years of sharing the last weeks and days with her patients who’d moved home from the hospital to die. In their final conversations, the patients discussed any regrets they had or anything they wished they would have done differently. Here’s what she heard. Take a good listen, keeping in mind work-life balance vs. wholehearted living. The Top Five: 1) I wish I’d dared to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2) I wish I’d not worked so hard. 3) I wish I’d dared to express my feelings. 4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5) I wish that I had let myself be happier. Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best with your own life. -Saint Paul I used to think that work-life balance was achievable. Now I believe it’s a myth. Let go of work-life balance and embrace the unforced rhythms of a fully integrated life. Embrace the mess, the beauty-the imperfection of integration. Today, I coach global executive leaders on how to be more effective. It starts with being more human. And now, here is the invitation for us all: -To do your best work -To become wholehearted -To play and live adventurously Will you accept it? I hope you do. Let’s navigate a well-lived life together. Keep going -Aaron…

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Friendship-The Journey Impossible Alone 25:38

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Today, I'm in the interview seat again. Today's topic Friendship and the journey of life impossible to accomplish alone. (Carl Richards) Greetings from the Joy Bus. My name's Carl Richards, and I am your host today of the Work Life Play podcast. I've taken over from Aaron. It was an invitation, but I fully accepted the invitation to interview Aaron somewhere around. We're, we're talking ten years now. Aaron: Ten years. Carl Richards: And 200+ some-odd episodes. So, Aaron, welcome to the show. Aaron: Thank you. I like it. We're in the Joybus. Carl's in the seat you always held for the guests, but you are interviewing me this time. Carl Richards: What would I like to start on? It strikes me, and this is a strange place to start, but I'm going to go there anyway. Talk to me about friendship a bit. I want to pull in David Whyte's poem on friendship. David writes, "The ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement neither of the other nor the self. The ultimate touchstone is witness the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another. To have walked with them, to have believed in them. And sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span on a journey impossible to accomplish alone." Show notes: https://www.aaronmchugh.com/podcast/friendship-the-journey-impossible-alone/ Keep going, Aaron…

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A Decade of Work Life Play Anniversary Edition 57:22

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In this decade anniversary celebration episode, Morgan Snyder is in the studio to interview me. For me, though, Work Life Play has no periods, no exclamation marks, no hyphens in between. It's all one integrated together story. It's taken me 10 years to articulate what it is I've been chasing the whole time. Enjoy this friends and Keep Going- Aaron Work Life Play Merch available here.…

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Working Vacations: Why we do it and how to stop 6:42

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Friends, I released ten new podcast episodes to celebrate my Decade Anniversary of Work Life Play. I'm proud to share these little gems with you. I know they will help you live more fully in your adventure, explore a well-lived life and find more meaning in your daily experience. A decade agoI began podcasting in 2012 with borrowed equipment, no training, with a simple idea "I wanted to explore." I experimented with one tiny step, then the next. Back then, there was no map to How to Podcast. With trust and boldness, I booked my first two guests before I knew how to record or publish an episode. I should have shared this with my guests. Ha! Compelled to explore beyond the map of my life experiences, expand my mind and heart, and curate stories of good humans. That's as far as I knew. With hindsight's wisdom, I borrow Parker Palmer's explanation for "Why did you do it?" "This is something I can't NOT do, for reasons I'm unable to explain to anyone else and don't fully understand myself, but that are nonetheless compelling." You're listening to a decade of exploration. The fruits are beyond just inspiration, but transformation for myself and many of you. Enjoy, experiment, and keep going. It's worth it. -Aaron Episode: Working Vacations: Why we do it and how to stop I received a desperate email that read, "I'm in leadership, working crazy hours, working through my vacation last week instead of resting, and the story goes on." The gravitational pull is to always be connected, always available, and always responding- even on vacation. I've done it too-taken calls on the beach while the kids swam, squeezed in a few emails before breakfast, dialed into a "quick" call during dinner, returning seven days later, tired and frustrated. Why do we struggle to step away, trusting that others can and will find their path to good outcomes? Reminds me of the children's book, "If You Give A Pig a Pancake" A cautionary tale of saying yes once, the Pig never relents from her requests. Excerpt from the book If you give a pig a pancake, she'll want some syrup to go with it. Pig: May I please have some syrup? When she gets all sticky, she'll want to take a bath. Pig: May I please have some bubbles and a toy? When you give her your rubber duck, she'll feel homesick. Book by Laura Numeroff Your working vacation and The Pig Sticking with our Pig and a pancake analogy, here's the version of the story you're familiar with from your most recent holiday break. The new requests are like the Pig-never fully satisfied. (Sunday night email) If you can join the call on Tuesday morning at 630am, I promise it will be a quick one. (Monday text) After the call, May I please also receive a written summary and go ahead and put it into a few PPT pages? (Tuesday email & text) There is an RFP we're working on that just came in-quick deadline. I would love for you to answer just a few questions on pages 12-28. Do you mind? It would be super helpful-its due before you return from holiday. (Wednesday email) May I please have only two more hours of your attention, during that family dinner you'd planned, the RFP client has a Q&A-the only time everyone is available. You can make it, right? -You get the picture. It's not a vacation. It's what my friend calls "PTO-Pretend Time Off". "If you don't prioritize your life, someone else will." -Greg McKeown, Essentialism Here's my advice for how to enable real rest In the modern world, rest is vital to replenish the nutrients in our creative engines. Prioritize your rest and recovery. Operationalize your values with better choices. Take responsibility and do your creative best with your own life. In your absence, trust that others will step up and in to solve the challenges of the day. For your next holiday, borrow my out-of-office auto-responder. Here's the one I use, (Thanks Well-being thought leader Jen Fisher for the inspiration) "I will be out of the office on vacation with my family beginning Monday, July 3rd, returning July 17th. I and my devices will be resting, replenishing my creative engine. I look forward to responding upon my return." Out of Office autoresponder Recover your life and enable yourself a real rest. You can do this. Keep going- Aaron Work Life Play Merch available here…

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Reach for the stuff that's real 4:39

3 years ago4:39