Grieving the Life You Deserved: Healing From a Toxic Parent

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents

In this episode, I talk about the complicated grief that surfaces once we begin setting boundaries and creating distance from toxic, narcissistic, or emotionally immature parents.

I share what it looked like in my own life— the emotional toll of being a parentified child, and why our healing journey often involves mourning the milestones we missed while we were just trying to survive.

This conversation is especially for those who feel behind in life, who struggle with guilt for being sad about the past, or who just need to hear that it’s okay to grieve what should have been. Because healing from a toxic parent doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt—it means being honest with our reality, making space for that pain, and still choosing to move forward.

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother she suspects had NPD with BPD traits. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
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Chapters

1. Grieving the Life You Deserved: Healing From a Toxic Parent (00:00:00)

2. Welcome and Previous Episode Feedback (00:00:14)

3. New Boundaries Helper GPT Tool (00:01:23)

4. The Grief of Missing Milestones (00:03:28)

5. Being Behind Yet Ahead (00:06:27)

6. Permission to Grieve What Was Lost (00:10:52)

7. Finding Fulfillment Moving Forward (00:15:21)