S3 Episode 01 Reed Amber Recovering Loudly … Habitual Drug Use, Hard Truths, and Healing

We Recover Loudly – Unfiltered Stories, Unapologetic Recovery

In this unflinchingly honest episode of the new season of We Recover Loudly, Shell is joined by the phenomenal Reed Amber Thomas-Litman—sex worker, content creator, podcast host (Come Curious), and fierce mental health advocate. Together, they explore the messy, meaningful, and often misunderstood paths to healing.
Reed opens up about navigating habitual drug use, her journey through addiction and recovery, and the power of embracing vulnerability in public. From sex work stigma and neurodivergence to sober intimacy and coping without substances, this conversation dives deep into the intersections of identity, empowerment, and self-discovery. Expect laughter, truth bombs, and a lot of heart.
Whether you're on your own recovery path, questioning your habits, or just craving real talk from real people—this episode is a must-listen.
Connect with Reed -
@reedamberx
@comecurious
For more information on We Recover Loudly and to reach out for speaking engagements or support email [email protected]

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www.werecoverloudly.com

Chapters

1. Welcome & Introduction Shell introduces Reed and her work with Come Curious, discussing her impact on destigmatizing sex, shame, and empowerment. (00:00:00)

2. The Power of Vulnerability Online Reed reflects on her emotional posts, the challenges of mental health disclosure, and finding strength in openness. (00:04:20)

3. Social Media: Empowerment or Addiction? A raw discussion on how social platforms affect mental health, neurodivergence, and community building. (00:08:45)

4. Modeling, Sex Work & Breaking the Stigma Reed shares her journey through the sex industry, embracing her identity, and rejecting society’s judgment. (00:14:20)

5. ADHD, Neurodivergence & Sex Work Connecting the dots between ADHD, risk-taking, polyamory, and why the sex industry often becomes a haven for neurodivergent folks. (00:23:00)

6. Rejection Sensitivity & Intimacy Challenges Navigating relationships, self-worth, and emotional triggers while building sober intimacy. (00:30:58)

7. The Role of Drugs & Alcohol in the Industry Reed opens up about the normalization of substance use in sex work—and why she chose to get sober. (00:38:11)

8. 11 Months Sober: What It Took Reed’s rock bottom, her recovery turning point, and why sobriety wasn’t instant—but necessary. (00:45:35)

9. Cocaine, ADHD & False Calm The misunderstood relationship between stimulants, neurodivergence, and dopamine-chasing behaviors. (00:53:50)

10. Healing Through Therapy & Community How recovery isn’t just about abstinence—it’s therapy, nutrition, connection, and spiritual (or not) exploration. (01:01:40)