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55: You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship...You want THIS:
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You don’t actually want a relationship.
Not really. Not in the way you think.
You don’t want someone just to text you good morning…
or cuddle you at night…
or talk about the future 🛏📱💍
You think that’s the dream.
But underneath all of it?
You’re chasing a very different outcome - one you don’t always realize.
You want to finally feel SAFE.
You want to finally feel CHOSEN - like you’re ENOUGH.
You want to stop second-guessing yourself every time they pull away.
You want to stop living on edge... waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You want to feel like YOU make sense - like you're not "too much" or "too needy."
Because what you're really craving is:
emotional regulation
internal validation
a steady nervous system
a love that doesn’t feel like a high-stakes performance
a break from feeling like you always have to earn love
Your anxious attachment isn’t just looking for a partner.
It’s looking for RELIEF.
It’s looking for SAFETY.
It’s looking for HOME.
And if you're thinking, "Wait... that’s me"
Don’t just take my word for it 🔍
Listen now to understand what you’re TRULY looking for...
and most importantly, get the step-by-step action plan to finally give it to yourself 🗝️
CHAPTERS:
00:00 You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship... You want THIS:
02:30 The Real Chase - You’re After a Feeling
04:35 Why It’s Never Enough (Until You Give It to Yourself)
05:46 Why you treat your partner as your Parent
09:17 THE SOLUTION: What Are You REALLY Trying to Get From Your Partner?
12:16 How to Work with me
14:46 PART 02: Your Action Plan
15:41 How to feel worthy
16:59 How to feel Chosen
19:55 How to feel emotionally safe
21:25 How to feel more connected
23:48 How to feel reassured
24:14 Extend This Love Beyond Yourself
26:48 REMEMBER THIS...
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♥️ YOUTUBE:
(4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)
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