The Power of Your Nervous System

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Your nervous system holds the key to transforming your relationships. In this illuminating episode, somatic practitioner Darci Burke explains how childhood experiences shape our attachment styles and why cognitive understanding alone isn't enough for healing.
The conversation begins with a special treat as Brandon and Darci's daughter Graci joins from Hawaii to perform "Paradise" by Stick Figure—a song with profound meaning for Brandon's healing journey. After this beautiful musical interlude, Darci delves into the science of attachment and regulation.
Darci reveals that 80% of communication flows from body to mind, not the reverse, making our physiology the true creator of our psychology. We learn how attachment styles form in early childhood based on caregiver relationships: anxious attachment from predominantly dysregulated caregivers, avoidant attachment when connection wasn't safe, and disorganized attachment from unpredictable safety and danger.
The episode offers hope through understanding that caregivers only need to be regulated 30% of the time to foster secure attachment in children. But the most powerful insight comes in distinguishing between cognitive understanding and embodied healing. The nervous system doesn't understand verbal language—only felt experience—which explains why many remain stuck despite intellectual awareness of their patterns.
For true transformation, Brandon and Darci stress the importance of somatic practices that create safety in the body first. This approach burns away survival energy, creating space for expansion, authenticity, and deeper connection. The conversation concludes with information about their upcoming couples retreat and programs designed to help parents foster secure attachment in their children.
Ready to transform your relationships by healing your nervous system? This episode provides the roadmap to become unstuck from survival patterns and remember your inherent wholeness.