Send us a text Ruth and Jaquetta dive into the cult classic "Love & Basketball" as they kick off their summer series examining movies they had to unlearn from, breaking down the film's problematic messages about relationships, identity, and success. • Analyzing the movie in quarters, just like the film's structure • Unlearning identity limitations …

Send us a text When emerging from crisis, we must reorient ourselves to new environments with new mindsets, as the habits and perspectives that sustained us during difficult times may not serve us in seasons of abundance. • The storm truly ends when you change, not when your circumstances do • True forgiveness is an ongoing practice, not a one-time…

Send us a text The second part of our storm series focuses on what to do during moments of crisis, offering practical guidance for navigating through life's most challenging seasons. We share wisdom on how to maintain your sense of self and purpose when everything around you seems to be falling apart. • Stop pretending about your situation and be h…

Send us a text We explore the essential components of a crisis toolkit for millennials and middle adults who are feeling squeezed by life's challenges and uncertainties. • Community is foundational—know who's around you and be aware of what gifts they bring to your life • Being rooted in the same values is different from simply being bonded to othe…

Send us a text The Gardners join us to share their journey as a blended family, revealing how they built a strong foundation through commitment, communication, and adapting to unexpected changes. Ty and Ruth Abigail discuss how their relationship evolved from online dating to creating a unified family, demonstrating that love makes room for the une…

Send us a text The whole Smith family gathers for an intimate, multigenerational discussion about parenting approaches, examining what needs to be preserved and what should be unlearned for the benefit of future generations. • Jacqueline Smith (mother) shares how "more is caught than taught" when it comes to parenting • Rev. Rufus Smith IV (father)…

Send us a text We explore how what comes out of us under pressure directly reveals what we've been filling ourselves with, just as squeezing a lemon produces only lemon juice because that's what's inside it. • Taking inventory of what we consume through our eyes, ears, and bodies determines what will come out when life squeezes us • Our digital foo…

Send us a text Juanita shares her journey as a single mother parenting her now 18-year-old daughter from age four, offering wisdom on co-parenting, building resilience, and evolving from teacher to coach. • Transitioning from a two-parent household to single parenting requires choosing trust with both the co-parent and eventually the child • The sh…

Send us a text Erica Ramsey joins RA to discuss the profound transition from career-focused independence to motherhood and how she's navigating this unexpected journey while maintaining her identity and business. • Success in business doesn't automatically translate to feeling prepared for parenthood • Becoming a mother in the first year of marriag…

Send us a text God is moving us from transactional mindsets to transformational encounters that prepare us not just to receive blessings but to become capable of holding and sharing them. The real test of faith comes not in waiting but in the moment God starts giving us what we've been asking for. • Distinguishing between transactional relationship…

Send us a text Settle in folks! Patrick and Shemika Harrington share their wisdom on navigating the challenging transition from parenting children to parenting adults, discussing the generational differences between Gen X parents and their Gen Z children in today's rapidly changing world. • The difference between commanding children and conversing …

Send us a text Freedom depends not on unlimited choices but on clear boundaries that enable focused attention and meaningful progress. • You cannot focus on something that isn't properly framed • Like picture frames, boundaries help eliminate distractions and highlight what's important • True freedom isn't chaotic—it's responsible, enjoyable and sa…

Send us a text Eric Ballentine, Executive Director of Streets Ministries in Memphis, shares his journey through fatherhood, marriage, and ministry as someone who "jumped off the porch" at age 12 before finding his faith at 25. His powerful story reveals how his past experiences shaped his approach to raising children in a blended family and the les…

Send us a text The time has come to break free from limiting narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of stagnation and disappointment. We must dig deep to identify and extract the thoughts that make us believe nothing will ever change in our lives. • Stop building mental frameworks that support your old life • Understand that the way you speak ab…

Send us a text Hard work isn't enough to become a billionaire or reach your greatest potential - consistency and acquiring new knowledge are the true differentiators that create extraordinary success. • Billionaires don't become billionaires just by working hard - two other factors make the difference • Consistency requires discipline and making de…

Send us a text Gain courage to change your mind and experience more freedom as we explore unlearning what we thought we knew about the church. Our varied experiences reveal the importance of personal faith and community outside the church walls. • Emphasis on personal faith beyond church attendance • Importance of community in living out one’s beli…

Send us a text In this episode, we explore the significance of dreams and the need to unlearn limiting beliefs that hold us back. By reigniting hope and leaning on faith, listeners are encouraged to revisit their aspirations and trust that with God, anything is possible. • Discussing the importance and value of dreams • Examining limiting beliefs a…

Send us a text We welcome Megan back to the podcast for a crucial conversation centered around race. Through personal anecdotes and open dialogue, we explore the complexities and nuances of discussing race among friends from different backgrounds. - The importance of courage in changing perspectives - Creating safe spaces for honest discussions on …

Send us a text This episode delves into the true nature of purpose and its often-misunderstood dimensions. We challenge listeners to distinguish their real purpose from people-pleasing, emphasizing that fulfilling one’s purpose can energize rather than drain. • The importance of purpose is often misunderstood • Central purpose: glorifying God above…

Send us a text The episode dives deeply into the complexities of grief and loss, featuring insights from Joinne Chandler, author of "Life After Loss." Listeners are encouraged to embrace their emotions and understand that grieving is a personal and ongoing journey. • Importance of asking for help during grief • Unlearning the perception that grief …

Send us a text Listeners explore the swift movement of God and the importance of unlearning limiting routines that slow our spiritual and personal growth. This episode encourages an active evaluation of current habits and mindsets to embrace the profound changes God is ready to initiate in our lives. • Discussing the consequences of waiting and dev…

Send us a text In this episode, we explore the complexities of relationships, discussing the valuable lessons learned at the kitchen table and the transformative nature of love. By unlearning outdated beliefs about chemistry, commitment, and conflict, we encourage listeners to engage with their partners in a deeper, more meaningful way. • Discussin…

Send us a text This conversation urges listeners to unlearn the idea that relationships should be easy, focusing instead on the sanctifying power of vulnerability and sacrifice in intimate connections. We discuss compatibility, the importance of personal gaps, and the intricate dance of mutual growth required in meaningful relationships. • Challeng…

Send us a text RA and Jaquetta explore the intricate relationship we have with money and the importance of redefining value over wealth. They share personal anecdotes that reveal common misunderstandings about finances, emphasizing that true fulfillment stems from recognizing one’s intrinsic worth rather than merely chasing higher paychecks. • Disc…

Send us a text This episode embraces the importance of taking time to sharpen our metaphorical axes, acknowledging that productivity improves significantly with a solid foundation of self-care and preparation. We discuss the struggles of managing busy schedules and the impact of neglecting our routines, encouraging listeners to find ways to invest …

Send us a text We explore the crucial process of unlearning harmful emotional lessons ingrained in us from childhood, emphasizing the importance of emotional vulnerability. This episode dives into the impact of societal expectations and the interplay between faith and emotions while encouraging listeners to confront their emotional baggage for true…

Send us a text The episode emphasizes the necessity of unlearning outdated norms that hinder personal growth and freedom. Co-hosts engage in conversation around adapting to changing societal expectations, sharing personal anecdotes, and discussing generational dynamics of normalcy. • Introduce the concept of unlearning from familial teachings • Dis…

Send us a text Kinah Burkes shares her profound journey of emotional growth and the realization of the importance of vulnerability and authenticity. Through candid stories from her past, she reflects on her struggles with emotional immaturity, the pressure of expectations, and the significance of confronting one's personal truths to achieve true fr…

Send us a text This episode emphasizes the importance of embracing change and consciously preparing for 2025. It encourages listeners to discern where to focus their energy and how to maintain hope amidst challenges, highlighting the necessity of both saying yes to what matters and no to distractions. • Preparing your soul for the changes of 2025 •…

Send us a text Our latest episode focuses on the crucial distinction between planning and having a solid vision for personal growth. We explore how falling in love with your future self can transform your approach to resolutions, making it easier to stick with your plans and avoid the commonplace trap of quitting early. • The importance of envision…

Send us a text Have you ever felt the weight of transitioning into a new life stage, especially during the bustling holiday season? Join us as we explore the themes of grace, patience, and hope in navigating these shifts. We share stories and insights on reconciling current realities with past dreams, highlighting the importance of self-compassion …

Send us a text Ever felt like your life is stuck on repeat, especially during the holidays? Join us on this special Freedom Friday episode of the Unlearned Podcast, where we navigate the emotional maze of going home for the holidays. As we approach our two-year celebration, we uncover the tension between our past and present selves, particularly wh…

Send us a text The holidays stir a mix of emotions—nostalgia, joy, and bittersweet moments. In this episode, we reflect on family expectations, life updates, and reconciling our past and present selves. With humor and heart, we tackle societal pressures to achieve milestones, reminding ourselves that true success is personal. Through stories of fam…

Send us a text Ever wondered how birth order influences the dynamics between siblings? Join us in this enlightening episode of the Unlearned Podcast as we introduce our remarkable younger sisters. Together, we unravel the unique challenges and triumphs of sisterhood, sharing personal stories that highlight the blend of humor and depth inherent in s…

Send us a text Dive into the heart of Wicked’s storyline, where Glinda and Elphaba’s journey from foes to friends becomes a metaphor for personal evolution and self-forgiveness. I’ll share my thoughts on how their story speaks volumes about the importance of having the right people at different phases of life, even when it means parting ways. Wheth…

Send us a text Have you ever found yourself running away from your inherent potential, simply because the weight of responsibility seemed too great? Join me on this transformative Freedom Friday episode of the Unlearned Podcast, as I reveal the pivotal moment that made me embrace my role as a leader, a role I had long resisted. Listen in to uncover…

Send us a text Take the Working Genius Assessment! https://www.workinggenius.com/ Unlock the secrets to maximizing your unique talents with us on the UnlearnT Podcast, where we explore the transformative power of the Working Genius Assessment by Patrick Lencioni. We promise you'll gain a fresh perspective on how to harness your strengths to boost t…

Send us a text Confidence isn’t about knowing everything—it's about pushing forward even when you don’t. This idea transformed my journey as a musician, where I discovered that the true essence of confidence lies in embracing uncertainty and acting with intention. Join me, Ruth Abigail, as I share personal stories about the invaluable lessons I lea…

Send us a text Take the True Colors Assessment! https://home.hamptonu.edu/student-affairs/wp-content/uploads/sites/59/2021/11/true_colors_test-for-mentoring-fillable.pdf Unlock the secrets of self-discovery and personal growth with us on the UnLearnT Podcast. Discover how personality assessments, particularly the True Colors assessment, can be a ga…

Send us a text Ever wondered why your resolutions fall flat while other habits stick like glue? Join me as I unravel my personal journey of redefining exercise, embracing the simple yet powerful act of morning walks. This shift unmasked the essential dance between internal commitment and external consistency. Through reflecting on our daily habits—…

Send us a text Imagine stepping into a new job in your late 30s and navigating the intricate maze of workplace dynamics. On this episode of the Alert Podcast, I'm Ruth Abigail, joined by my lively co-host Jaquita, as we unravel the secrets of personal growth through the power of personality assessments. We promise to shed light on how understanding…

Send us a text Have you ever felt weighed down by the pressure to realize your vision on your own? What if embracing collective creativity could lead to greater freedom and fulfillment? Join us on the latest episode of the Unlearned podcast as we challenge the traditional notion of vision ownership. Through personal insights, we explore the journey…

Send us a text We venture into the transformative concept of love languages, popularized by Gary Chapman, and the delightful complexity of how we express and receive love. Personal stories unravel our mixed feelings about gift-giving while highlighting the willingness to embrace and adapt to each other's unique preferences. Whether it's quality tim…

Send us a text As we explore the fine line between knowing oneself and becoming self-absorbed, we confront the potential dangers of personal assessments. It's easy to brandish our results like a shield against the world, expecting others to conform to our self-declared identities. But what if we viewed these insights as a guide to personal growth, …

Send us a text Discover your inner superhero through the transformative power of the StrengthsFinder assessment. Join Jaquita and me as we reveal how uncovering our unique strengths has not only reshaped our careers but also boosted our confidence in the professional realm. By focusing on what we naturally excel at, rather than harping on weaknesse…

Send us a text Have you ever found yourself caught in the whirlwind of life’s demands, feeling like you’re juggling too many balls in the pursuit of personal growth? With honest reflections, I reveal how I reached a point where I needed to intentionally declutter my life, focusing on fewer, more meaningful commitments. It's a journey that's tested …

Send us a text What if understanding your personality could unlock a whole new level of personal growth? Join us as we embark on the second season of the Unlearned Podcast, filled with gratitude and excitement. Ruth Abigail and Jaquita reflect on their 20-year journey of impactful conversations and share personal stories, including Jaquita's shift …

Send us a text Ever found yourself caught in the perfectionist trap, inadvertently micromanaging those around you despite your best intentions? Join me, Ruth Abigail, aka RA, on the Unlearned Podcast for this special Freedom Friday episode, where I unravel the delicate art of balancing leadership and personal growth with the freedom to let others l…

Send us a text What makes a podcast thrive while so many others fall by the wayside? Join me as I welcome seasoned entrepreneur and podcast host Kevin Palmieri to the UnlearnT Podcast. We dive into Kevin's remarkable seven-year journey in podcasting, inspired by his mission to be a guiding light during tough times and his dream of making podcasting…

Send us a text In this episode, you will learn about the two pivotal unlearning points that can add more freedom to your life. First, it’s okay if people don’t show up the way you do—accepting this can be tough, especially under pressure. Second, being committed, dependable, and servant-minded isn't just an innate trait; it’s a skill that can be de…