140. Am I Going Crazy? Real Words from the Betrayed

After the Affair

Betrayal leaves behind more than heartbreak, it leaves questions that echo in your mind day and night.

“Was it real?”

“Did I miss the signs?”

“Is this my fault?”

“Will I ever trust again?”

In this episode, I, Luke Shillings, walk you through the most common thoughts and questions that come up in the aftermath of infidelity, based on real conversations from hundreds of discovery calls and coaching sessions.

Whether you're feeling stuck in self-doubt, unsure what to believe, or just desperate to feel normal again, this episode is for you. We’ll explore where these thoughts come from, why they’re so persistent, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust, not just in your partner, but in yourself.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• You weren’t “stupid” for not seeing it, you were committed.
• Betrayal shakes your trust in them and in your own perception.
• Feeling hurt without proof doesn’t make you paranoid; it makes you aware.
• Emotional safety is rebuilt slowly, and your body decides what safe feels like.
• You’re not just mourning the relationship, you’re mourning who you were in it.
• Coaching helps you hear yourself again beneath the panic and pain

What’s the question that’s been haunting you most since the betrayal?

Let’s talk about it. Message me on Instagram or share anonymously in the group, because you’re not the only one asking.

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