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028|She’s Upset. You React. And Now It’s Worse. (Here’s What to Do Instead)
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Most men don’t mean to make things worse. They just react... fast. A sharp reply. A shut down. A quick fix that backfires. And suddenly, things are tense again.
In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about one of the most important changes you can make: learning how to stay present instead of reactive when things get hard.
You’ll learn the simple strategy that changes everything in conflict and two tools that help you move from damage control to real connection.
🎙️ She’s Upset. You React. And Now It’s Worse. (Here’s What to Do Instead)
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why your nervous system reacts before your brain can catch up
✅ What to do in that split second between trigger and reaction
✅ The skill most men skip—and why it’s the difference between fighting and connecting
✅ Two winning strategies you can start using today
✅ Why presence matters more than having the perfect words
💡 Key Takeaways:
You don’t have to fix it.
You don’t have to run from it.
You just have to stay present long enough to choose connection over reaction.
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Catch the moment before you react—pause and breathe.
2️⃣ Ask instead of assume: “What do you need right now?”
3️⃣ Practice listening to understand—not to respond.
4️⃣ Speak to make things better, not just to be heard.
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ What’s your go-to reaction when your wife is emotional or upset?
❓ What might change if you added a 3-second pause in that moment?
❓ How would your relationship shift if your first instinct was presence—not defense?
Ready to Take Action?
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It’s a structured course and community built for men like you... men who are done guessing, done coasting, and ready to create a marriage with clarity, strength, and heart.
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