031|Why You’re Great with Clients, Co-Workers, and Strangers—but Struggle with Your Wife

Better Husband

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Ever notice how you can be calm, patient, and composed with coworkers, clients, or even strangers—
But with your wife… you shut down, snap back, or feel like you’re failing?

You’re not alone.
In fact, the truth is: you already know how to be relational.

You do it every day—at work, in your community, with your team.
This episode is about learning to bring those same relational skills home.

You’ll hear how I learned this lesson as a firefighter, what it’s meant for my own marriage, and how one simple shift can help you reconnect, lead better, and build a marriage that lasts.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why the skills you use at work are more transferable than you think
✅ How to recognize your strengths—and bring them into your marriage
✅ What stops men from showing up relationally at home
✅ The difference between professional skills and relational skills
✅ One practical exercise to help you close the gap
✅ Real-life stories of transformation from my clients and my own journey

💡 Key Takeaway:

You don’t need to become someone else.
You just need to bring the best parts of who you already are… into the relationship that matters most.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:

1️⃣ Reflect on a time when you showed up well relationally at work or in life
2️⃣ Write down the specific skills you used—calm, empathy, patience, clarity
3️⃣ In your next hard moment at home, choose one of those skills and use it
4️⃣ Afterwards, check in with yourself: How did it feel? What shifted?

🧠 Reflection Questions:

❓ Where are you already relational in your life?
❓ What stops you from showing up like that at home?
❓ What skill can you bring into your marriage starting today?

Ready to Take Action?

If you’re serious about showing up differently in your marriage, Better Husband Academy is your next step.

It’s a structured course and community built for men like you... men who are done guessing, done coasting, and ready to create a marriage with clarity, strength, and heart.

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Chapters

1. Why You’re Relational Everywhere—Except at Home (00:00:00)

2. What Is Skills Transference (And Why It Matters for Your Marriage) (00:00:50)

3. From Firehouse to Front Door: When I Couldn’t Bring My Best Self Home (00:02:19)

4. The Skills You Already Use—And How to Bring Them Home (00:04:13)

5. Why It’s So Hard to Be as Kind to Your Wife as You Are to Strangers (00:05:37)

6. What NOT to Bring Home From Work (00:07:31)

7. A 3-Step Exercise to Spot and Use Your Real Strengths at Home (00:08:57)

8. Bringing It Home: A Simple Weekly Practice to Lead with Strength (00:11:53)

9. Client Breakthrough: From Business Presence to Intimate Connection (00:13:06)

10. Final Takeaway: You Already Know What to Do—Now Bring It Home (00:14:33)