Ep 235 Your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs)

Boldly Becoming You Podcast

In this episode, we unpack the #1 reason you keep thinking you're the problem when you're not: complex life circumstances and how integrating them instead of ignoring them changes everything about how you work, parent, rest, and relate.

We talk about the patterns we didn’t even know were patterns: Tasha wondering why she could build empires one week and collapse the next, Brandon’s years of overfunctioning while feeling like nothing was ever enough, and the quiet shame spiral of why can’t I just do this thing that almost everyone in our community knows by heart.

We touch on:

• The actual definition of Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) and why this one lens can explain burnout, inconsistency, and the inability to “just push through”

• How masking, overachieving, chronic dysregulation, and trauma conditioning show up differently based on gender, race, disability, and neurodivergence

• Why routines, habits, and productivity hacks fail when they’re not built around your real life and what to do instead

• The real reason you feel guilt when resting and how to stop abandoning yourself in moments of low energy, pain, or overstimulation

• How your relationships (especially with partners, clients, and kids) have to evolve when you start being honest about your capacity

• What happened when Brandon realized he didn’t even want a damn plate and what that metaphor has to do with freedom, caregiving, and rest

This episode includes the 10-finger CLC exercise (to get your Complex Life Circumstance score), and a powerful reminder: you’re not broken…you’re just operating in a world that refuses to account for who you actually are.

Build a life that works with your CLCs instead of against them 👇🏻

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