When Your Parents' Choices Define Your Life Path, You Can Choose Differently

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Every family story begins with choices—ones we make and ones made for us. In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the three pivotal conversations I had with my father that shaped my understanding of abandonment, forgiveness, and the power to change destructive family patterns.
Born in Colombia to a young mother and a police officer father who disappeared from my life when I was just three years old, I carried the weight of parental absence throughout my childhood. The few memories I have—a motorcycle ride, a painful phone call where he refused to let me live with him—became cornerstone moments in my understanding of my own worth and lovability.
When my mother remarried in America, I briefly experienced what felt like a complete family, only to have it shattered by domestic violence and trauma that triggered lasting mental health struggles. These experiences created a narrative that I wasn't worthy of love, affecting every relationship I formed.
The most powerful moment came decades later when I tracked down my biological father and confronted him with the question that had haunted me my entire life: why didn't he fight for me? His answer—that he was scared and didn't know how to be a father—revealed something profound about generational patterns. While he blamed his own upbringing for his failures, I realized we all have choices regardless of what examples we've been given.
This revelation became my turning point. Rather than perpetuating cycles of trauma and absence with my own children, I chose differently. Not because I naturally knew how to be a better parent, but because I made an intentional decision to break the pattern.
The power to change your family's story isn't about blaming your past or staying stuck in a victim mentality—it's about recognizing that regardless of what happened to you, you have the agency to choose differently. Listen in for a raw, honest conversation about healing, forgiveness, and the courage to create a new legacy for yourself and those you love.
Are you ready to break free from the choices others made for you and write a new chapter for your family?

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Chapters

1. Episode Introduction (00:00:00)

2. Three Important Conversations (00:08:13)

3. ] Reconnecting with My Father (00:21:04)

4. Background: Family in Colombia (00:24:32)

5. ] The Confrontation and Truth (00:27:00)

6. ] Breaking Generational Curses (00:33:40)

7. ] Prayer and Final Thoughts (00:37:49)