Are You Really Sharing or Just Being Defensive?

Dear Dr. Tracy

In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, tackle a communication struggle that so many couples face—understanding why saying "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction" backfires. It’s a fine line, and crossing it can quickly turn a conversation into an argument.

Dr. Tracy shares a personal experience that sparked this discussion, including a thought-provoking comment from one of her social media posts that made her pause and reflect: Was she explaining her perspective, or was she being defensive? From there, she and Greg break down how context, emotional intelligence, and tone shape our responses—and why so many of us misinterpret each other in the heat of the moment.

They also explore:

- The subtle (but crucial) difference between sharing vs. putting up a defensive wall. (e.g., when you say "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction")

- How social media has blurred the lines of healthy communication by over-labeling behaviors.

- Practical strategies to recognize and shift defensiveness in real-time.

- The power of slowing down, validating emotions, and staying connected even in difficult conversations.

This episode will leave you rethinking the way you respond to your partner—and help you approach communication with more clarity and intention. If you've ever struggled with feeling unheard, misunderstood, or frustrated in your relationship, this conversation is a must-listen.

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