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"Yelling is not a consequence. It's the avoidance of a consequence." - Gary Edelstein Gary Edelstein, a seasoned psychotherapist specializing in neuropsychology and family systems, is dedicated to advancing a collaborative co-parenting model. He underscores the importance of maintaining a unified front in parenting, particularly when children experience emotional, psychological, or neurodevelopmental challenges. Edelstein advocates for parents to establish consistent discipline rules across households' post-divorce, which he believes can prevent the polarization of parental perspectives and reduce conflict. By promoting collaboration based on neurocognitive principles, Edelstein aims to lower the emotional tone in households and support healthier relationships, ultimately benefiting the children's well-being. Key Takeaways ->Establishing a collaborative co-parenting relationship is crucial to prevent parental conflict and minimize the negative impact of divorce on children. ->Consistency in setting limits and discipline rules across both households is key to reducing disagreements and promoting a neutral authority for children. ->Parental conflict during divorce can intensify children's feelings of guilt and responsibility, making the divorce process even more difficult for them. ->Proactive parenting involves setting clear expectations, consequences, and rules in advance to address problematic behaviors without escalating emotional outbursts. ->Lowering the emotional tone in the household and implementing consequences for negative behaviors can aid in effective conflict management and strengthen family bonds. Connect with Gary J. Edelstein https://npiprofile.com/npi/1518003177 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/gary-j-edelstein-brewster-ny/134476?msockid=3bb72f09a5256ac538a43db7a43c6be1 Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/
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"Yelling is not a consequence. It's the avoidance of a consequence." - Gary Edelstein Gary Edelstein, a seasoned psychotherapist specializing in neuropsychology and family systems, is dedicated to advancing a collaborative co-parenting model. He underscores the importance of maintaining a unified front in parenting, particularly when children experience emotional, psychological, or neurodevelopmental challenges. Edelstein advocates for parents to establish consistent discipline rules across households' post-divorce, which he believes can prevent the polarization of parental perspectives and reduce conflict. By promoting collaboration based on neurocognitive principles, Edelstein aims to lower the emotional tone in households and support healthier relationships, ultimately benefiting the children's well-being. Key Takeaways ->Establishing a collaborative co-parenting relationship is crucial to prevent parental conflict and minimize the negative impact of divorce on children. ->Consistency in setting limits and discipline rules across both households is key to reducing disagreements and promoting a neutral authority for children. ->Parental conflict during divorce can intensify children's feelings of guilt and responsibility, making the divorce process even more difficult for them. ->Proactive parenting involves setting clear expectations, consequences, and rules in advance to address problematic behaviors without escalating emotional outbursts. ->Lowering the emotional tone in the household and implementing consequences for negative behaviors can aid in effective conflict management and strengthen family bonds. Connect with Gary J. Edelstein https://npiprofile.com/npi/1518003177 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/gary-j-edelstein-brewster-ny/134476?msockid=3bb72f09a5256ac538a43db7a43c6be1 Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/
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1 Shifting Internal Narratives for Constructive Self-Perception - with Dr. Sean Condon 29:48
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"People lose sight of the fact that they're human beings, and it's not always easy." - Dr. Sean Condon Dr. Sean Condon, a seasoned clinical psychologist with over two decades of experience, is renowned for his adeptness in helping individuals navigate anxiety, relationship challenges, and major life transitions such as divorce. As the founder of the Flatiron Center for Psychotherapy, Dr. Condon utilizes a warm yet direct style, advocating for an integrative therapeutic approach that views divorce not as a failure, but rather as a complex transition where both parties are doing their best. He emphasizes the necessity of confronting and understanding the inherent pain of divorce as a pivotal step toward healing, believing that therapy provides a crucial space for growth, support, and compassion. Through his lens, the therapeutic process post-divorce is an opportunity for self-discovery, where individuals can transform feelings of shame and self-blame into acceptance and optimism, fostering a renewed perspective on life. Key Takeaways ->Healing and growth after divorce can lead to personal development and a deeper understanding of oneself. ->Acknowledging and processing pain post-divorce is crucial for personal growth. ->Therapy plays a significant role in helping individuals navigate emotional challenges during divorce recovery. ->Self-reflection during divorce is essential for personal growth, understanding emotions, values, and priorities. ->Personality traits and patterns have a notable impact on relationships and the divorce experience, requiring tailored therapy interventions. Connect with Sean Condon: https://drseancondon.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/sean-condon-284a554/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Reconnecting After a Breakup: Building Healthy Relationships - with Kimia Moghadam 28:17
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"That it's a journey, allow yourself time, allow yourself the grace and whatever that you need and set intentions for why you are trying to reconnect with certain people." - Kimia Moghadam Kimia Moghadam, a licensed mental health counselor and clinical director at My Therapy NYC, is dedicated to helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of relationships, particularly when facing the challenges of leaving them. She emphasizes the multifaceted nature of this decision, taking into account cultural norms, financial dependencies, and emotional vulnerabilities that can make it daunting. Moghadam encourages individuals to seek support from their community, friends, and family, recognizing the value of a strong support system in such times. By fostering open communication and advocating for personal needs, she helps clients reconnect with themselves, approach new relationships with patience and self-compassion, and ultimately prioritize their own well-being. Key Takeaways ->Kimia Moghadam emphasizes relational, compassionate, and honest approach in therapy sessions for couples navigating separation and divorce. ->Creating a safe and trusting environment for clients using humor and compassion to facilitate difficult conversations. ->Encouraging clients to address issues and communicate effectively in sessions, holding them accountable for their words and actions. ->Importance of acknowledging evolving identities after divorce and finding ways to empower these identities in new ways. ->Seeking support, allowing time and grace needed for rediscovering identity post-divorce. Connect with Kimia Moghadam https://mytherapynyc.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimia-moghadam-lmhc-d-487784122/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Establishing Clear Expectations and Consequences for Proactive Parenting - with Gary J. Edelstein 32:36
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"Yelling is not a consequence. It's the avoidance of a consequence." - Gary Edelstein Gary Edelstein, a seasoned psychotherapist specializing in neuropsychology and family systems, is dedicated to advancing a collaborative co-parenting model. He underscores the importance of maintaining a unified front in parenting, particularly when children experience emotional, psychological, or neurodevelopmental challenges. Edelstein advocates for parents to establish consistent discipline rules across households' post-divorce, which he believes can prevent the polarization of parental perspectives and reduce conflict. By promoting collaboration based on neurocognitive principles, Edelstein aims to lower the emotional tone in households and support healthier relationships, ultimately benefiting the children's well-being. Key Takeaways ->Establishing a collaborative co-parenting relationship is crucial to prevent parental conflict and minimize the negative impact of divorce on children. ->Consistency in setting limits and discipline rules across both households is key to reducing disagreements and promoting a neutral authority for children. ->Parental conflict during divorce can intensify children's feelings of guilt and responsibility, making the divorce process even more difficult for them. ->Proactive parenting involves setting clear expectations, consequences, and rules in advance to address problematic behaviors without escalating emotional outbursts. ->Lowering the emotional tone in the household and implementing consequences for negative behaviors can aid in effective conflict management and strengthen family bonds. Connect with Gary J. Edelstein https://npiprofile.com/npi/1518003177 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/gary-j-edelstein-brewster-ny/134476?msockid=3bb72f09a5256ac538a43db7a43c6be1 Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Understanding Root Causes: Key to Successful Divorce Mediation - with Avi Kahan 36:03
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"You don't get divorced from your spouse. It doesn't exist. It's a made-up word. You commit to a new relationship with them." - Avi Kahan Avi Kahan, a distinguished mediator and founder of the non-profit Vad Hadin Vahora, is renowned for his innovative approach to divorce proceedings, integrating halakhic principles with civil law to offer comprehensive conflict resolution. With a background in finance and law, he expertly navigates the complexities of money, ethics, and family dynamics, promoting mediation over litigation to transform traditional divorce processes. Kahan believes that many mediators act merely as facilitators who know the divorce system, rather than genuinely resolving conflicts, and advocates for a deeper form of mediation that focuses on understanding underlying conflicts and crafting third solutions acceptable to both parties. Envisioning a future where divorce is seen as a positive transition rather than a war, Kahan emphasizes the importance of viewing divorce as a means of improving relationships, ultimately fostering an environment where couples can co-parent amicably without the animosity of court battles. Key Takeaways ->Mediation in divorce is essential for fair resolutions despite challenges compared to traditional litigation. ->Understanding conflict and finding mutually acceptable solutions is crucial in true mediation. ->Effective mediation can navigate complex family dynamics and ethical considerations for a more amicable separation process. ->Unresolved conflict and breakdowns in communication often lead to divorce. ->Real mediation aims to address underlying conflict dynamics and real problems in divorces. ->Divorce should be viewed as a positive step towards a new beginning, shifting societal perspective. ->Prioritizing children's well-being during divorce is crucial for minimizing emotional and psychological impact. Connect with Avi Kahan https://hadin.org/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/avi-kahan-428aba169/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Structured Communication Methods for Healing Relationships Post-Divorce - with Trisha Sanders 32:57
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"Mirroring slows down the communication process. It really helps us to be able to tune in and listen in addition to be able to hear the information." - Trisha Sanders Trisha Sanders is a licensed clinical social worker with nearly twenty years of experience, specializing in guiding families through the challenging transitions associated with divorce. Recognized for her expertise in expressive therapies and imago relationship therapy, Sanders places a strong emphasis on the development of emotional intelligence and effective communication as essential tools for healing and strengthening relationships. She underscores the importance of these skills in divorce, particularly when co-parenting, as they help address the trauma and loss of control that often accompany such life changes. Through her work on platforms like wholefamilynj.com and her Instagram account, Sanders advocates for strategies that foster a supportive environment, enabling families to navigate the complexities of divorce with empathy and understanding. Key Takeaways ->Utilizing play therapy and storybooks is crucial for effectively communicating with children about divorce. ->Maintaining boundaries, avoiding negativity, and fostering open communication with children is important during divorce. ->Emotional intelligence and effective communication are key in healing and strengthening relationships during and after divorce. ->Structured communication techniques like mirroring, empathy, and validation are crucial in high-tension situations like divorce. ->Learning skills to deal with difficult personalities is valuable for personal growth, particularly for young children and teenagers. ->Effective communication strategies, such as mirroring and validation, are crucial during divorce to avoid criticism and conflict. Connect with Trisha Sanders: https://www.wholefamilynj.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-sanders-lcsw07652/ https://www.instagram.com/trish.sanders.lcsw/ https://www.facebook.com/wholefamilynj/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Divorce Settlements: Balancing Emotions with Financial Realities - with Jeff Landers 34:49
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"Well, I guess it's important to know what's important to the spouse that you're divorcing and for them to know what's important to you so you could have a win-win situation." - Jeff Landers Jeff Landers is a distinguished expert with over 40 years of experience in real estate, mortgages, and the financial intricacies of divorce, renowned for his guidance in navigating the complex financial challenges of ending a marriage. He emphasizes the crucial importance of being financially involved in household matters before a divorce to avoid complications and advises individuals to prioritize financial over emotional decisions during the process. Landers advocates for the engagement of specialized financial advisors with experience in divorce, recommending tools like Broker Check to assess their credibility and expertise. By highlighting the need for proactive and strategic financial planning, Landers aims to prevent common pitfalls and ensure a stable future for those going through a divorce, advocating for decisions that avoid long-term regrets and secure financial independence. Key Takeaways: ->Involvement in household finances during divorce is crucial to avoid complications and unknown financial details. ->Emotional decisions during divorce can have long-term financial consequences, highlighting the importance of thinking financially. ->Divorce settlements are ultimately about money and ensuring financial security for the future. Financial advisors can help ensure that divorce settlements lead to financial success in the future. ->Asset division in divorce involves strategies to help individuals attain a favorable settlement based on their goals and trade-offs. ->Setting up a divorce settlement for financial success involves seeking guidance from a financial advisor and managing expenses carefully. Connect with Jeff Landers: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jefflanders/ https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/ https://a.co/d/bBmQcPd Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Market Trends and Property Conditions: Crucial Considerations in Divorce - with Nikki Beauchamp 32:58
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"There's a whole grief process that starts all over again when you make that final decision to sell that property. And that's hard for people." - Nikki Beauchamp Nikki Beauchamp, a seasoned Manhattan-based real estate expert with over two decades of experience at Sotheby's International Realty, provides invaluable guidance at the intersection of divorce and property transactions. With a keen focus on personal goals rather than general market trends, Nikki emphasizes the necessity of seeking advice from a trusted professional to navigate the complexities of the real estate market during a divorce. She advocates for open communication and regular assessment of real estate portfolios to make informed decisions, highlighting the importance of addressing these matters early in the divorce process. By offering nuanced insights and tailored solutions, Nikki Beauchamp fosters a supportive environment for divorcing couples, ensuring a smooth and positive transition with her empathetic and data-driven approach. Key Takeaways ->Valuation of marital properties during divorce can be complex, considering children's needs, emotional attachment, market trends, renovation needs, and staging considerations. ->Property buyouts in divorce, especially in New York City, involve challenges related to financial resources, refinancing, cooperative housing requirements, credit challenges, liquidity issues, and lifestyle changes post-divorce. ->Selling a home during divorce can be emotionally challenging due to attachment and grief, especially when children are involved, requiring careful consideration of emotional ties, family dynamics, and financial concerns. ->Consider current market trends and property conditions in divorce cases to avoid overvaluing homes due to emotional attachments, emphasizing the importance of aligning personal circumstances with market dynamics. ->Real estate agents play a crucial role in working with divorcing couples, providing trust, comfort, and a neutral resource to guide couples smoothly through the real estate process, alleviating misunderstandings and ensuring a positive experience for both parties. Connect with Nikki Beauchamp: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolebeauchamp/ https://www.nicolebeauchamp.com/ https://www.instagram.com/nikkibeauchamp Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Establishing Boundaries and Co-Parenting in Divorce - with Jessica McCarthy PSY.D. 34:30
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"Divorce will get you out of one situation. It will not guarantee, though, a happy ending in the next." - Jessica McCarthy Dr. Jessica McCarthy, a renowned clinical and school psychologist from New Jersey, is celebrated for her expertise in supporting women through life transitions, including divorce. As the founder of Elements Psychological Services, she adopts a no-nonsense approach to simplify complex psychological concepts, making her a respected figure in both clinical and media landscapes. Dr. McCarthy views divorce as an opportunity to start anew rather than an assured path to happiness, urging individuals to engage in self-reflection and learn from past experiences to avoid repeating old patterns. She advocates for intentional living by setting clear boundaries and focusing on self-discovery, empowering her clients to craft a fulfilling and purposeful new chapter in their lives after divorce. Key Takeaways ->Healing after divorce requires time and support to prioritize personal well-being. ->Divorce can lead to personal growth and self-discovery by focusing on self-investment. ->Establishing new boundaries and parameters is crucial in post-divorce relationships. ->Co-parenting after divorce requires setting boundaries, clear communication, and prioritizing children's needs. ->Setting boundaries in communication with ex-partners post-divorce is essential for healthy dynamics. ->Maintaining consistency and structure for children of divorce is crucial for their well-being. Connect with Jessica McCarthy: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-a-mccarthy-psy-d-795b333/ https://elementspsych.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 The Role of Parents in Teaching Money Management - with Ed Vargo 38:00
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"If you don't know about the money, you don't have control over the money or access to the money." Ed Vargo, the founder of Burning River Advisory Group and Enlighten Her, is a fervent advocate for financial literacy, particularly focusing on empowering women. Inspired by his immigrant mother's struggles with financial independence, Ed has dedicated his career to providing compassionate financial guidance to help women achieve equality through financial strength. He emphasizes the significance of teaching financial literacy from a young age, advocating for parents to model positive financial behaviors for their children and encouraging open discussions about money within families. Vargo also highlights the impact of financial misunderstandings on relationships, especially during divorce, underscoring the importance of assembling a knowledgeable support team and fostering financial education to promote harmony and independence. Key Takeaways: ->Ed Vargo emphasizes teaching children about money management from a positive perspective and modeling good money behavior. ->Communication about money values and decisions is crucial in relationships to avoid disharmony and resentment. ->Open dialogue about money in relationships can prevent conflicts and build financial harmony. ->Educating oneself about family finances, especially during divorce, is essential to avoid being at a disadvantage. ->Enlighten Her offers resources like white papers on money myths and steps to take during divorce to empower women in managing their finances. ->Early intervention in divorce proceedings is crucial to avoid post-settlement regrets and make informed decisions. ->Enlighten Her aims to empower women to take control of their finances and make informed decisions, especially during major life events like divorce. Connect with Ed Vargo: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joe-zweben-17676434a/ https://www.instagram.com/joezweben_/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Positive Impact of Co-Parenting on Emotional Growth - with Joseph Zweben 28:34
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"If your parents and you are just going to look at the negative side only and just keep making it worse for yourself, it's never going to get better." -Joseph Zweben- Joseph Zweben, a student at Pace University, is a testament to the positive impact of cooperative parenting during challenging times like divorce. Having personally experienced the benefits of his parents' collaborative efforts, Joseph emphasizes how their open communication and conflict-free environment allowed him and his brother to thrive academically and athletically. This nurturing approach not only bolstered his emotional well-being but also sparked his passion for helping others facing similar challenges, as demonstrated through his volunteer work with organizations such as Top Soccer and Best Buddies. Joseph's story underscores the potential for resilience and growth in children when parents prioritize a supportive and stable environment, even amidst the complexities of divorce. Key Takeaways: ->The positive impact of cooperative parenting during and after divorce on children's adaptation and mental well-being ->The value of empathy, support, and effective communication in navigating tough situations, as learned through personal experiences ->Maintaining a sense of normalcy for children during family celebrations, birthdays, and holidays post-divorce ->The enduring unity within divorced families and the importance of open communication and adaptability in family relationships post-separation ->Reassuring children during divorce to prevent them from blaming themselves and minimizing the negative impact on their well-being ->The emotional intelligence growth and ability to help others influenced by watching parents co-parent Connect with Joseph Zweben: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joe-zweben-17676434a/ https://www.instagram.com/joezweben_/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Avoiding Pitfalls: Family Home, Financial Models, and Individual Goals - with Melissa Murphy Pavone 28:43
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"You really want to know what your priorities are and then you want to know what your spouse's priorities are, because they might be different." - Melissa Murphy Pavone Melissa Murphy Pavone is a seasoned certified financial planner and divorce financial analyst, whose 18 years of experience in the field are deeply influenced by her personal experiences as a child of divorce. She founded Mindful Divorce Partners to guide clients through the intricate financial challenges of divorce with clarity and assurance. Melissa stresses the importance of proactive and holistic financial planning, focusing on understanding settlement options, tax implications, and the long-term effects of financial decisions, especially when children are involved. Her approach goes beyond mere numbers, helping clients design balanced and sustainable financial plans that align with their future goals and risk tolerance, while avoiding common pitfalls such as retaining the family home without considering its long-term financial impact. Key Takeaways: ->Working with a financial planner post-divorce is crucial for navigating the transition to saving for oneself, contributing to retirement, and bridging the financial gap left by alimony and child support. ->Understanding priorities in financial assets during divorce negotiations is key to ensuring a fair and balanced outcome, particularly when children are involved. ->Having a financial planner as a supportive ally can provide guidance tailored to risk tolerance and financial goals for a secure future post-divorce. ->Offering fee-for-service and assets under management advisory models allows financial advisors to tailor their services to best suit individual circumstances and goals, especially in divorce scenarios. ->Educating clients on the importance of having an emergency fund and considering tax implications is crucial in making informed decisions about the family residence in divorce settlements. Connect with Melissa Murphy Pavone: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissamurphypavone/ https://mindfulfinancialpartners.com/about/ https://mindfulfinancialpartners.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ https://miller-law.com/…
1 Recovery and Transformation: The Potential for Positive Change Post-Divorce - with Justine Carino 34:28
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"In divorce we grieve the marriage, we grieve the life we once had with our partner and what that looked like. We grieve that stability." - Justine Carino Justine Carino, a licensed mental health counselor with over 12 years of experience, is a prominent voice in understanding the psychological impact of divorce. Specializing in anxiety and depression, she highlights the critical role therapy plays in navigating the emotional complexities of this life-altering event. Through her practice and her podcast, "Thoughts from the Couch," Justine emphasizes the importance of therapy in guiding individuals through the stages of grief, helping them rebuild their identities, and fostering personal growth. Her compassionate insights, featured in major media outlets like Cosmopolitan and the Huffington Post, reassure those experiencing divorce that with the right support, happiness and transformation are attainable outcomes. Key Takeaways: ->Divorce can bring about a range of emotional challenges similar to the stages of grief. ->Therapy is essential in assisting individuals going through divorce. ->Establishing clear boundaries is essential for preserving relationships during divorce. ->Common misconceptions about divorce recovery can be disproven. ->Individuals experience an identity shift post-divorce. ->Many individuals eventually consider dating post-divorce. Connect with Justine Carino: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justine-carino-lmhc-39a84615b/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/…
1 Investing in Yourself: Acquiring Skills for Career Re-Entry - with Jody D'agostini 30:11
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhy is emotional well-being important in financial planning post-divorce? Jody D'Agostini is a renowned financial strategist and certified divorce financial analyst with nearly two decades of experience, specializing in helping individuals navigate the financial intricacies of divorce at Falcon Financial Group in Morristown. Transitioning from a career as a physician's assistant, Jody has dedicated her practice to empowering clients, particularly women, by educating them on financial literacy and the importance of informed decision-making. Her approach emphasizes personalized, holistic financial planning that considers each client's unique life stressors and priorities, with a focus on setting them up for long-term success rather than short-term gain. Jody advocates for a balanced mindset during divorce, advising clients to meet their needs while minimizing emotional and financial strain, and is committed to fostering financial stability and growth through tools like collaborative law and career re-evaluation. Key Takeaways: ->Financial planning during divorce is crucial for making informed decisions and preparing for sudden financial changes. ->Tailoring financial plans for success and using software to project future outcomes can provide individuals with a sense of control and security post-divorce. ->Emotional impact of divorce, including anxiety and disorientation, requires a holistic approach to financial planning for stability and well-being. ->Supporting individuals in overcoming career challenges and pursuing fulfilling career paths after divorce is essential for building a brighter future. ->Lawyers play a crucial role in divorce proceedings by providing legal guidance, negotiating settlements, and ensuring compliance with legal precedents. ->Creating a budget, assessing income sources, setting financial goals, and adjusting investments post-divorce are essential for establishing a stable financial future. Connect with Jody D'agostini: https://www.thefalconfinancialgroup.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/jody-d-agostini/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://miller-law.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/ New boost…
1 Harnessing the Unseen: Finding Clarity in Emotional Exploration - with Deborah Lukovich 33:42
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"Depth psychology is a more spiritual approach, a psychospiritual approach to understanding yourself more deeply." - Deborah Lukovich Dr. Deborah Lukovich is a renowned depth psychologist who offers a unique perspective on navigating the complexities of divorce by delving into the unconscious mind. With a belief that up to 90% of our actions and decisions are influenced by hidden forces, she emphasizes the importance of uncovering these unconscious patterns and behaviors that shape relationships. Through her book "Your Soul is Talking, Are You Listening?" and her engaging podcast and blog, Dr. Lukovich provides valuable insights into the unseen dynamics and hidden agendas that often go unnoticed during the tumultuous process of divorce. By guiding individuals to explore the depths of their psyche, Lukovich aims to foster a deeper understanding of personal and relational dynamics, ultimately aiding clients in transforming their relationship patterns and preventing past experiences from dictating future connections. Key Takeaways: -Depth Psychology focuses on uncovering hidden aspects of the unconscious mind to promote personal growth and transformation. -Anger during divorce can be connected to past experiences and emotions, influencing individuals' reactions and behaviors. -Dr. Lukovich shares her personal journey through divorce and highlights the importance of understanding the unconscious mind in life transitions. -Relationship complexes involve patterns of thinking and behaving that impact interactions, hinder personal growth, and can lead to misunderstandings. -Effective communication in relationships requires honesty, vulnerability, and creating a safe space for open dialogue. -Unconscious fears and thoughts often hinder honest communication, emphasizing the importance of tools like 'Start with Hearts' to manage emotions and promote authenticity. Connect with Deborah Lukovich: https://www.deborahlukovich.com/ https://www.facebook.com/dlukovich https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-lukovich-phd-5322953/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/…
1 Challenges of Nesting: Sharing Living Space Post-Divorce - With Lisa Herrick 28:08
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"Kids have large antenna on their heads that you can't see, but they're always scanning for information, and that is information that is picked up very easily." - Lisa Herrick Dr. Lisa Herrick, a renowned family therapist and collaborative divorce coach, has nearly twenty years of experience guiding families in the Washington, D.C. area through the complex transition period of separation and divorce. She emphasizes that this transition varies greatly among individuals, depending on their resilience and specific circumstances, and underscores the importance of allowing adequate time for adjustment, adaptation, and recovery. Dr. Herrick advocates for honest and respectful communication between co-parents, particularly when introducing new partners to children, to minimize confusion and build trust. Drawing from personal experience, she highlights the intricate dynamics involved in shared family activities post-divorce, such as spending holidays together, and the necessity of preparing new partners for their roles within a blended family to foster a healthy and harmonious environment. Key Takeaways: • The period of time required for individuals and families to adjust, adapt, and recover from separation and divorce is crucial. • Nesting during divorce involves sharing living space, household responsibilities, and potential implications for future relationships. • It is important to go slow when introducing children to new romantic partners after divorce. • Lisa Herrick emphasizes the importance of preparing new partners for interactions with children and ex-spouses in blended families. • Lisa and Katherine emphasize the benefits of waiting for the right moment to introduce shared holidays and dinners in a blended family. Connect with Lisa Herrick: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-herrick-009a6128/ https://lisaherrick.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/…
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1 The Benefits of Bird Nesting for Children's Stability - with Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D. 27:37
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked"The key is that it keeps the children stable. It keeps their routines consistent. There's a lot less upheaval and chaos for the children. It's a very child centered approach to separation and divorce." - Ann Gold Buscho Ann Gold Buscho, a licensed clinical psychologist, is renowned for her expertise in family dynamics surrounding divorce, with a particular emphasis on child-centered solutions. As the author of "The Parents Guide to Bird Nesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce," she advocates for bird nesting as a strategy to mitigate the negative impacts of divorce on children by ensuring stability and consistency in their environment. Buscho underscores the importance of prioritizing children's welfare by setting aside personal conflicts and fostering effective co-parenting through open communication and collaboration. Her work offers practical tools and guidance to help parents navigate the complexities of bird nesting, including addressing financial and logistical considerations, to create a harmonious and supportive arrangement for their children. Key Takeaways: • Bird nesting is a child-centered approach to divorce that provides stability and consistency for children. • Financial and logistical considerations are crucial when implementing a bird nesting arrangement. • Short-term nesting can have a positive impact on children by offering a stable transition during separation. • Having clear agreements in place for nesting arrangements is essential for co-parenting success. • Establishing a clear budget and separate accounts for nesting expenses is crucial for financial stability. Connect with Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D.: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-buscho-ph-d-4110437/ Connect with Katherine Miller: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/…
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1 How a Well-Written Prenup Prevents Divorce—with Aaron Thomas 26:38
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedPrenups get a bad rap. And if you broach the subject with a partner, they often think you’re planning for the marriage to fail. But what if a prenuptial agreement could help you get on the same page about money before you got married? What if a prenup could reduce tension in your marriage and even prevent divorce? Aaron Thomas has been named Atlanta's best divorce attorney three times, and he’s one of the nation's top experts in family law issues. Aaron is also the founder of Prenups.com, a platform that helps couples establish a solid financial foundation before they walk down the aisle, and author of The Prenup Prescription: Meet the Premarital Contract Designed to Save Your Marriage. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Aaron joins Katherine to explain how prenups help couples establish a good working relationship around money. Aaron discusses the parallels between business partnerships and marriage, challenging couples to structure their finances in a way that makes both parties feel secure. Listen in for Aaron’s advice on approaching your significant other about creating a prenup and learn how a well-written pre- or postnuptial agreement can make your marriage stronger! Topics Covered How a well-written prenup helps couples reduce tension in a marriage Why a prenup should address your finances before, during and after marriage Aaron’s insight on the One Paycheck Rule and why it’s important How prenups help couples establish a good working relationship around money The parallels between forming a business partnership and getting married Why extreme power imbalances in a marriage often lead to divorce Aaron’s advice on deciding what money is yours, mine and ours How to approach your significant other about creating a prenuptial agreement What the less-moneyed spouse can do to feel protected by a prenup The misconception that prenups are only a tool for the super-wealthy Connect with Aaron Thomas Prenups.com: https://prenups.com/ The Prenup Prescription by Aaron Thomas: https://prenups.com/book/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765…
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1 Conducting a Cost Benefit Analysis Before You Initiate Divorce—with Raiford Palmer 30:53
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIf you’re considering divorce, it’s useful to do a cost-benefit analysis before you initiate the process. And think beyond the legal fees and division of property. How much time will it take to work through the process? What's the emotional cost to you, your spouse and your children? How might it impact your career? Raiford is CEO and Managing Partner of STG Divorce Law in Chicago and Fellow at the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. Raiford is also the author of the award-winning divorce book, I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Raiford joins Katherine to explain why you should get educated before you jump into a divorce. Raiford describes how to reframe the experience of divorce as an opportunity for growth and discusses how his own divorce changed the way he approaches his work as a divorce lawyer. Listen in for Raiford’s insight on trying alternative dispute resolution in high-conflict cases and learn how to conduct a cost-benefit analysis before you move forward with a divorce. Topics Covered Raiford’s advice on getting educated before you jump into divorce Why Raiford suggests looking inward before you divorce and/or remarry How to leverage divorce as a personal growth experience What motivated Raiford to write the divorce book I Just Want This Done Raiford’s personal experience with feeling lost in the process of divorce How Raiford’s own divorce changed the way he approaches his work Why you should still try alternative dispute resolution if your partner is uncooperative How mediation can work better than litigation in high-conflict cases Conducting a cost-benefit analysis before you move forward with a divorce The first steps you should take to initiate the divorce process Connect with Raiford Palmer I Just Want This Done: https://www.ijustwantthisdone.com/ Raiford on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raifordpalmer/ Raiford on X: https://x.com/raifordpalmer Raiford on TikTok: raifordpalmer STG Divorce Law: https://www.stglawfirm.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds by Raiford Palmer: https://www.amazon.com/Just-Want-This-Done-Successful/dp/1737208903 Unbreakable Husband Program: https://richinrelationship.com/ Dr. John Duffy: https://drjohnduffy.com/…
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1 Navigating Divorce as an Immigrant—with Neepa Padia 25:28
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedNeepa Padia gave up her senior level career in India to get married and immigrate to the US. But her partner was abusive, and Neepa wanted out. Unfortunately, she was in the country on a dependent spouse visa and had no friends, no family and no job. How did Neepa navigate divorce as an immigrant? Neepa is the Certified Divorce Coach behind Holistic Divorce Journey, a platform that helps immigrants in divorce with logical steps and tools toward a brighter future. Neepa’s personal experience has shaped her into a compassionate and nonjudgmental coach, ensuring that her clients are not alone on this journey of getting divorced in a in a strange land. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Neepa joins Katherine to explain how her experiences as an immigrant going through a divorce inspired her to become a divorce coach. Neepa discusses the options available to people in the US on a dependent spouse visa, describing the resources available to immigrants dealing with the emotional and logistical challenges of divorce. Listen in for Neepa’s insight on finding culturally aligned support and learn how to leverage the holistic divorce journey to build the future you want! Topics Covered Neepa’s experience navigating divorce as an immigrant to the US What inspired Neepa to build Holistic Divorce Journey Options available to divorcing people in the US on a dependent spouse visa What resources Neepa leaned on when she was getting divorced Resources available to immigrants navigating divorce The emotional and logistical challenges of divorce as an immigrant How international assets impact equitable distribution of property in divorce Why it’s helpful for divorcing immigrants to find culturally aligned support Leveraging the holistic divorce journey to build the future you want Connect with Neepa Padia Holistic Divorce Journey: https://holisticdivorcejourney.com/ Neepa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/holisticdivorcejourney/ Neepa’s Divorce Support Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969925950972235/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Second Saturday: https://www.secondsaturday.com/ Divorce GPS: https://divorce-gps.com/…
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1 A Fair & Loving Approach to Prenups—with Laurie Israel 29:57
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedYou might assume that mediators who specialize in prenups recommend them for everyone. But Laurie Israel is actually against prenuptial agreements for most couples. So, when should you consider creating a prenup? And how do you write one in a fair and loving way that strengthens the new marriage? Laurie is a collaborative lawyer and mediator based in Massachusetts, where she concentrates her practice exclusively on prenuptial and postnuptial agreements. Laurie also writes extensively about the art of mediating prenups, and she is the author of The Generous Prenup: How to Support Your Marriage and Avoid the Pitfalls. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Laurie joins Katherine to explain when a prenup is a good idea and when it isn’t, discussing why it’s inappropriate to think of a marriage as a business deal. Laurie shares her thoughts on prenups for inheritances, second marriages, and business owners, describing what to look for in a mediator to negotiate your agreement. Listen in for Laurie’s insight on protecting both parties (not just the moneyed spouse) and learn how the right kind of prenup creates peace, certainty and fairness for all involved. Topics Covered Why Laurie is against prenuptial agreements for most couples When a prenup is a good idea and how it can create peace, certainty and fairness in those cases Why it’s inappropriate to think of a marriage as a business deal Laurie’s advice on what to look for in a mediator to negotiate your prenup Why Laurie suggests a prenup for second marriages and marriages involving children from previous relationships How Laurie thinks about building a prenup or postnup for business owners How fairness in a prenup is influenced by the laws in your particular state When it might be appropriate to draft a postnuptial agreement Laurie’s thoughts on the complexities of money and marriage Laurie’s loving approach to prenups that protect both people in a marriage (not just the moneyed spouse) How to address student loans and inheritances in a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement Providing for the surviving spouse when a marriage ends in death Connect with Laurie Israel Laurie Israel Law and Mediation: https://www.laurieisrael.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Generous Prenup by Laurie Israel: https://www.laurieisrael.com/book/ Ten Things I Hate About Prenuptial Agreements: https://www.laurieisrael.com/ten-things-i-hate-about-prenuptial-agreements/…
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1 Empowering Women in Divorce—with Heather Quick 24:09
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIn the early days of her family law practice, Heather Quick noticed a troubling pattern among the women she represented. Women often undervalued what they brought to the marriage and failed to stand up for themselves in the divorce process. So, what can women do to change their mindset around divorce and fight for what they deserve? Heather Quick is Founder and CEO of Florida Women’s Law Group, the only divorce and family law firm in Northeast Florida that serves women exclusively. Consistent with her message of women's empowerment, Heather has published several books on divorce and business, including Women’s Guide to Divorce in Florida and Women’s Guide to Becoming a Successful Entrepreneur. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Heather joins Katherine to discuss the unique challenges facing women in divorce, from stay-at-home moms to female breadwinners. Heather explains how women compromise on finances to protect their children and why that’s a bad idea, challenging couples to stop using their children as a negotiating tool in divorce. Listen in to understand how entrepreneurship can help women own their financial destiny and learn how FWLG advocates for women before, during and after divorce. Topics Covered What inspired Heather to focus on helping women stand up for themselves in divorce Why women tend to undervalue what they bring to a marriage What issues affect women in particular during the divorce process How women compromise on finances in divorce to protect their children (and why they shouldn’t) The danger in using your children as a negotiating tool in divorce Common issues facing female breadwinners in divorce, e.g.: custody, alimony, etc. How Heather’s books educate and empower women before, during and after divorce Heather’s experience working with a team of all women at Florida Women’s Law Group How Heather benefits from having a divorce coach on her team What motivated Heather to expand her focus to helping women excel as entrepreneurs Connect with Heather Quick Florida Women’s Law Group: https://www.floridawomenslawgroup.com/ Women Winning Divorce Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/685277376560289 Women Winning Divorce Podcast: https://womenwinningdivorce.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Women’s Guide to Divorce in Florida by Heather Brooke Quick, Esq.: https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Guide-Divorce-Florida-Advantage/dp/150323326X Is Divorce Right for You? by Heather B. Quick, Esq.: https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Right-You-Guide-Determine-ebook/dp/B00NH2QK1G/ Women’s Guide to Becoming a Successful Entrepreneur by Heather B. Quick, Esq.: https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Guide-Becoming-Successful-Entrepreneur/dp/1511734655/ Julie Rountree on Divorce Dialogues: https://miller-law.com/podcast/the-missing-professional-from-a-divorce-litigation-team/ Changes to Florida’s Divorce Law: https://www.attorneylauraolson.com/an-overview-of-floridas-new-alimony-law-elimination-of-permanent-alimony/…
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1 Divorce Financial Planning with a Love Letter—with Jennifer Lee 26:13
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIf you’re going through a divorce, writing a love letter is probably the last thing on your mind. But Jennifer Lee, AWMA, AIF, suggests that sharing your values and hopes for the future in a family love letter to your children is a good first step for financial planning in divorce. So, how does a love letter help you set meaningful financial goals and make better money decisions? Jennifer is the founder of Modern Wealth, a Sarasota-based financial firm with a focus on helping individuals in transition, and author of Squeeze the Juice: Live with Purpose, Then Leave a Legacy. Jennifer brings a fresh perspective on the financial planning process by digging deep to understand her clients’ values and helping them use money as a tool to accomplish their dreams. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jennifer joins Katherine to share the personal experience that inspired her idea for a family love letter in the financial planning process. Jennifer explains why financial anxiety is such a common issue in the divorce process and challenges us to see money as a tool to reach our goals—not the goal itself. Listen in to understand how Jennifer supports the ‘non-moneyed’ spouse in settlement negotiations and learn how Squeeze the Juice can help you make informed financial decisions in divorce. Topics Covered Why Jennifer includes writing a family love letter in the financial planning process Thinking of money as a tool to accomplish our dreams vs. the goal itself What drove Jennifer’s father to communicate his values in a kind of family love letter Why anxiety around money is such a common issue in the divorce process How Jennifer helps the non-moneyed spouse in a divorce make financial decisions The danger in rushing through divorce negotiations because you want it to be done What experiences inspired Jennifer to write her book, Squeeze the Juice How your money story impacts the way you navigate financial decisions The 2 most important chapters in Squeeze the Juice for people going through divorce What it means to be the non-moneyed spouse in divorce (and what it doesn’t mean) Why there’s a power imbalance in divorce negotiations for the non-moneyed spouse Connect with Jennifer Lee Modern Wealth: https://modern-wealth.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Squeeze the Juice by Jennifer Lee: https://squeezethejuicebook.com/…
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1 The Impact of Domestic Abuse in Divorce—with Beverly Price 27:37
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAsking your partner for a divorce is challenging under any circumstances. But the conversation can be downright dangerous if you’re leaving an abusive spouse. In fact, upwards of 70% of women who leave an abusive spouse are murdered. So, what resources are available to victims of intimate partner violence? How do you mitigate the risks associated with divorcing an abuser? Beverly Price is the driving force behind Her Empowered Divorce, a coaching practice that has supported thousands of women facing the most challenging aspects of divorce. Beverly is also the visionary behind the Divorce Coalition, a network of divorce professionals and survivor advocates united to transform the landscape of domestic abuse. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Beverly joins Katherine to explore the impact of domestic abuse in divorce and explain why you shouldn’t leave an abuser without a safety plan. Beverly discusses the benefit of having a divorce coach, describing how she offers clients education and preparation around the process to reduce their anxiety. Listen in for Beverly’s insight into the many forms of abuse and learn how survivors of domestic partner violence can work through the divorce process safely and with adequate support. Topics Covered The benefit of divorce coaching that goes beyond emotional management How education and preparation for divorce reduces the anxiety associated with the process Why Beverly suggests hiring an attorney, financial professional and divorce coach How Beverly’s personal experiences inform her work as a divorce coach Divorce Coalition’s work to improve abuse survivors’ experiences in the court process The many forms of domestic abuse, i.e.: physical, financial, sexual, legal, emotional, etc. Why you shouldn’t leave an abuser until you have support and a safety plan How Beverly coaches people through the conversation of asking for a divorce The statistics re: the number of men and women who experience intimate partner violence Beverly’s advice on documenting abuse to prepare for divorce litigation Connect with Beverly Price Her Empowered Divorce: https://herempowereddivorce.com/ Her Empowered Divorce Podcast: https://herempowereddivorce.com/podcast Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/…
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1 Navigating Stress in Your Relationship—with Judy Herman 25:51
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIs your relationship causing you a great deal of stress? Do you suspect that your partner has a diagnosable mental illness? In such a challenging situation, it’s human nature to blame the other person in the relationship. To label their behavior as wrong and ask, ‘Why won’t they change?’ But if their mental health is in question, they may not be able to change. And the better question is, ‘What is YOUR next right step?’ Judy Herman is a mental health professional and relationship wellness advocate dedicated to equipping high-achieving women in the helping professions go from trauma drama into vibrant karma. Judy is also the host of Better Relationships, Better Life: The Podcast and author of Beyond Messy Relationships and Relationships with Purpose. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Judy joins Katherine to explain how her personal experience as a twice-divorced relationship therapist inspired her to write Relationships with Purpose. Judy discusses what differentiates someone with self-centered characteristics from a diagnosable narcissist and shares questions to ask yourself if you’re married to someone with mental illness. Listen in for Judy’s insight on shifting your attitude toward your partner from judgement to curiosity and learn strategies for staying grounded during challenging interactions in any relationship. Topics Covered How Judy’s own challenging relationships inspired her to write her first book The identity crisis Judy faced as a twice-divorced relationship therapist What differentiates someone with self-centered characteristics from a diagnosable narcissist What questions to ask yourself if you’re married to someone with mental illness How to shift your attitude toward your partner from judgement to curiosity Judy’s strategies for staying grounded in challenging interactions with your partner Why Judy suggests getting professional help if you’re feeling shame around your relationship Judy’s deep breathing exercises for navigating intense interpersonal situations Connect with Judy Herman Judy’s Website: https://www.judycounselor.com/ Better Relationships, Better Life: The Podcast: https://www.judycounselor.com/podcast/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Beyond Messy Relationships by Judy K. Herman: https://www.judycounselor.com/product/premier-author-signed-single-book/ Relationships with Purpose by Judy K. Herman: https://www.judycounselor.com/relationships-with-purpose/ Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ My Lovely Wife in the Psych Ward by Mark Lukach: https://www.marklukach.com/book Judy’s Relationship Stress Quiz: https://www.judycounselor.com/ Judy’s From Chaos to Calm Online Course: https://www.judycounselor.com/jumpstart-emotionally-safe-conversations/…
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1 Holistic Financial Planning in Divorce—with Adrienne Grace 23:59
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIf you aren’t fully informed about your finances in marriage, you can’t negotiate from a level playing field in divorce. That’s why Adrienne Grace is committed to helping women with what she calls holistic financial planning. So, what is holistic financial planning? How can it help you negotiate a realistic divorce settlement and build a plan for the future? Adrienne is the Women’s Wealth Advocate and Holistic Financial Planner behind Transitioning Finances, a platform where she guides women and couples to successfully negotiate divorce settlements, survive financial transitions and rebuild afterward. Adrienne has 30-plus years of experience working in every area of the financial world, and she is passionate about helping you overcome your financial challenges and move empowered into the next phase of your life. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Adrienne joins Katherine to discuss why the inability to communicate about money is often the cause of divorce. Adrienne explains how she helps people understand the relative value of their assets and empowers them with the confidence to negotiate a divorce settlement. Listen in for Adrienne’s advice on ‘talking to your honey about money’ early in the relationship and learn how to design a holistic spending and savings plan to ensure your financial security in divorce. Topics Covered The personal experiences that led to Adrienne’s work helping people through transitions How Adrienne defines holistic financial planning as looking at money as it relates to your life Why the inability to communicate about money is often the cause of divorce Adrienne’s advice around talking to your honey about money before you get married Why Adrienne suggests setting aside private time to talk with your partner about money How women who are not fully informed about their finances struggle to negotiate a divorce settlement How Adrienne helps people understand the relative value of their assets Why it’s crucial to design a spending + savings plan with a realist view of what it costs to live How Adrienne empowers people with the confidence to negotiate their divorce settlement Adrienne’s experiences helping people find hidden assets in the divorce process Connect with Adrienne Grace Transitioning Finances: https://adriennegrace.com/ Adrienne on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenswealthadvocate/ Adrienne on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adrienne-rothstein-grace-cdfa/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources From We to Me: A Financial Guide to Divorce by Adrienne Grace: https://adriennegrace.com/adriennes-books/ I’m Divorced. Now What? by Adrienne Grace: https://www.amazon.com/Im-Divorced-Now-What-Guide/dp/B0C6W6HX5Y Adrienne’s Blog on Talking to Your Honey About Money: https://adriennegrace.com/remarriage-living-together-second-time-around/ Adrienne’s Divorce Academy Online Course:https://adriennegrace.com/classes_and_courses/…
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1 Expert Answers to Your Tax Questions in Divorce—with Hubert Johnson 29:05
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhat do you need to know about filing your taxes during or after divorce? Are asset transfers taxable? What about alimony and child support? Who claims the children? And what if your ex mishandled the finances and there’s tax debt you knew nothing about? Tax Attorney Hubert Johnson is Founder of Guardian Tax Law, where he has assisted thousands of individuals and businesses dealing with IRS and state tax issues. Hubert lectures to tax professionals in seminars and training sessions across the country and has cowritten two books on tax debt resolution. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Hubert joins Katherine to answer your questions around tax issues in divorce, explaining where to go for tax information if your soon-to-be-ex handled the finances. Hubert walks us through the pros and cons of delaying divorce to file taxes jointly and discusses when asset transfers are a taxable event—and when they’re not. Listen in for Hubert’s insight on the tax rules around alimony and child support and learn where to go for help settling tax debt in the aftermath of divorce. Topics Covered The pros and cons of delaying divorce to file your taxes jointly Where to go for tax information if your ex-spouse handled the finances How to qualify as an ‘innocent spouse’ if your partner fails to pay taxes Why the IRS pursues both parties equally for tax debt (filing jointly) When asset transfers are a taxable event and when they’re not How to avoid capital gains on the sale of an asset in divorce When the IRS respects a marital settlement agreement Who should consider applying for ‘offer in compromise’ with the IRS The state and federal tax rules re: alimony and child support What to do if your ex claims the children on their taxes but shouldn’t Connect with Hubert Johnson Guardian Tax Law: https://guardiantaxlaw.com/ Guardian on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@guardiantaxlaw Guardian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/guardian-tax-law/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources IRS.gov…
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1 The Missing Professional from a Divorce Litigation Team With Julie Rountree 25:54
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedJulie Rountree began her career as a divorce attorney. And she quickly realized that clients expected her to be both their legal advocate and counselor. But it was very difficult to wear both hats. Julie recognized that her clients needed someone to help them navigate the emotions of divorce. That’s when she stumbled on divorce coaching and thought, ‘This is professional who’s been missing from the divorce litigation team.’ Today, Julie is the Certified Divorce Coach behind Divorce Coaching Solutions, a practice that helps clients navigate the frustration of divorce, grow their confidence, and transition into life beyond divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Julie joins Katherine to discuss her role in helping people work through their emotions, articulate their goals, and manage expectations around divorce. Julie walks us through what a divorce coach does for their clients, describing how she helps people become and remain the best version of themselves through the process. Listen in for Julie’s advice on managing your anger to focus on negotiating a settlement and learn how a family law attorney can benefit from teaming up with a divorce coach. Topics Covered What inspired Julie’s transition from family law attorney to divorce coach Julie’s role in helping clients manage their frustrations and expectations around divorce What a divorce coach can do for someone who’s considering divorce or working through the process Julie’s goal to help clients remain the best version of themselves through divorce Julie’s advice to someone who’s worried about how reentering the workforce will impact alimony Why spousal support can be a bitter pill to swallow for the breadwinner of a divorcing couple How family law attorneys can benefit from teaming up with a divorce coach Managing your anger in divorce to focus on negotiating a settlement Connect with Julie Rountree Divorce Coaching Solutions: https://www.mydivorcecoaches.com/ Divorce Coaching Solutions on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100078882049039 Julie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-anna-rountree-3967748/ Email julie@mydivorcecoaches.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765…
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1 Co-Parenting Without Conflict After Divorce With Jenni Rock 27:47
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWe all assume that when we get divorced, things are going to get better. But when a marriage ends, communication is usually at a low point. And that communication style tends to stick, which causes ongoing conflict in the co-parenting relationship. So, what can you do to interrupt that conflict dynamic with your ex? How do you build a constructive, positive co-parenting relationship? Jenni Rock is the creator of Co-Parenting Without Conflict, a coaching practice that helps divorced parents exit toxic relationships and communicate in a way that prioritizes the needs of their children. Jenni brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to the table, helping parents navigate the often-challenging terrain of co-parenting after a divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jenni joins Katherine to share the story of her own horrific divorce and explain how that experience informs her work in co-parenting conflict resolution. Jenni discusses the most common conflicts in co-parenting relationships and describes the consequences of using your children as a bartering tool. Listen in for Jenni’s insight on navigating reactive feelings toward your ex and learn the first steps to changing the way you communicate and co-parenting without conflict! Topics Covered How Jenni’s own horrific divorce informs her work in co-parenting conflict resolution Why divorced couples get stuck in the communication style at play when the marriage ended How Jenni helps people interrupt their conflict dynamic with an ex-spouse What differentiates a toxic relationship from a difficult moment in a relationship Blaming your partner vs. taking responsibility for what’s not working in your relationship Jenni’s insight on the most common conflicts in co-parenting relationships The consequences of using your children as a bartering tool in the divorce process What to consider before you hit SEND on a text or email to your ex-spouse Jenni’s advice on what to do with reactive feelings you’re tempted to fire at your ex How to set up a constructive, positive co-parenting relationship with your ex-spouse Connect with Jenni Rock Co-Parenting Without Conflict: https://coparentingwithoutconflict.com/home Email jennirock1@outlook.com The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765…
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1 Is Your Soon-to-Be-Ex-Spouse Hiding Money? With Tracey Coenen 27:03
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedDo you suspect that your soon-to-be-ex-spouse is hiding money? If your partner is trying to avoid equitable distribution in a divorce settlement, they might be keeping assets from you or transferring money into a secret account. But is it necessary to hire a forensic accountant? Or can you do the job yourself? Tracey Coenen is a renowned forensic accountant and the brains behind the Divorce Money Guide. She is also the author of the book Find Me the Money and host of the podcast of the same name. Tracey is passionate about helping people who feel powerless in the divorce process regain their confidence and take control of their money. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Tracey joins Katherine to explain how to identify when your spouse is hiding money and where they might be keeping it. Tracey walks us through the common reasons why people hide money in a marriage and describes why financial infidelity is just as devastating as romantic infidelity—if not more. Listen in for Tracey’s insight on initiating the conversation around money in your marriage and learn the first steps to educating yourself about the family finances in divorce. Topics Covered How your relationship with money impacts the way you handle finances in a marriage Why we need to change the language we use to talk about money in divorce How to identify when your spouse is hiding money and where they might be keeping it When to hire a forensic accountant (and when you can do the job yourself) How Tracey’s Divorce Money Guide helps you understand the financial piece of divorce The most common reasons why people hide money in a marriage What makes financial infidelity just as devastating as romantic infidelity Why talking about money in a marriage is so challenging and how to initiate the conversation Why Tracey suggests listing all the accounts you know about as the first step in getting more financial information The benefit of regularly running a credit report on yourself and exchanging that information with your spouse What Tracey says to women who want to educate themselves about the family finances How knowing where you’re spending gives you power to create the life you want Connect with Tracey Coenen Fraud Coach: https://www.fraudcoach.com/dd Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Divorce Money Guide: https://www.fraudcoach.com/ Find Me the Money: Take Control, Uncover the Truth, and Win the Money You Deserve in Your Divorce by Tracey Coenen: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BYFCRMJR?&linkCode=sl1&tag=sequenceinc-20&linkId=ee67be01fe036601f36861168c84e524&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl Find Me the Money Podcast: https://www.fraudcoach.com/podcast…
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1 From Victim Mentality to Empowered Life Post-Divorce With, Kimberly Kelley 26:19
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhat story are you telling yourself about your divorce? Blaming your ex may seem justified, but that story only gets you stuck in a victim mentality with no control over your own life. So, how do you rewrite your story and start building an empowered life post-divorce? Kimberly Kelley is the neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner and hypnotherapist behind Reinvent Yourself, a program that helps newly single people create the life they want. She is also the author of No Blame No Shame: Living an Empowered Life After Divorce, where she describes the profound changes she made after her own marriage of 30 years came to an end. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Kimberly joins Katherine to discuss how the stories we tell ourselves affect our experience of divorce. Kimberly explains how the internal shame of another failed marriage drove her fears around what other people would think and describes how hypnotherapy empowered her to imagine a life beyond divorce. Listen in for Kimberly’s advice on navigating a divorce you didn’t choose and learn how NLP can help you reframe your divorce as a growth opportunity rather than a mistake! Topics Covered How NLP is the study of how we communicate with ourselves How we can leverage neuro-linguistic programming to live a more empowered life How the stories we tell ourselves affect our experience of divorce How Kimberly’s internal shame drove her fears of what other people would think of her divorce Reframing your negative self-talk around divorce into something constructive How Kimberly helps people reframe their divorce story as a growth opportunity vs. a mistake Why blaming your ex-spouse puts you into a victim mentality Why Kimberly suggests exploring what you got out of your marriage How Kimberly uses hypnotherapy to help people imagine a life beyond divorce Kimberly’s advice for navigating a divorce you didn’t choose Connect with Kimberly Kelley Body Mind Spirit Healing Arts: https://kimberly-kelley.com/ Kimberly on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.dyer.kelley Email kimberlykelleyauthor@gmail.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources No Blame No Shame: Living an Empowered Life After Divorce by Kimberly Kelley: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C6YPXH3J?ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_9TSY3G3AE7589AQ5ARWK&tag=kpembed-20&linkCode=kpe Peggy McColl’s Power Life Script: https://go.peggymccoll.com/powerlifescript-special-promotion…
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1 Divorce Advice from the Kids’ Perspective With Grace Casper 26:46
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWonder what your kids are experiencing during the divorce process? What if you could ask adult children of divorce for advice? Grace Casper became a child of divorce at the age of eight. By age 10, she had written the first draft of her book, Dear Parents: Notes from a Child of Divorce by Grace Casper. Today, Grace runs Divorce Tips from Kids, a platform dedicated to helping families navigate divorce, and hosts Divorce: What I Wish My Parents Knew, a podcast about divorce from the kids’ perspective. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Grace joins Katherine to describe the pressure she felt to be the source of her parents’ happiness after their divorce. Grace explains what inspired her to write about her parents’ divorce and how we can apply Grace’s story in Dear Parents to our own individual circumstances. Listen in for insight on the commoditization of kids in divorce negotiations and learn how Grace’s resources can help you improve the experience of divorce for your children. Topics Covered What adult children of divorce would like to go back in time and tell their parents The pressure Grace felt to be the source of her parents’ happiness after their divorce Why so many children of divorce see themselves as peacekeepers The power of apologizing to your child when you make a mistake as a parent What inspired Grace to journal about her parents’ divorce when she was 10 years old How Grace turned her original 10 tips for kids into a book for divorced parents How Grace learned to let go of her bitterness & resentment and forgive her dad How you can apply Grace’s advice in Dear Parents to your own situation How divorce lawyers, coaches and therapists can use Grace’s resources to serve clients How Grace thinks about the commoditization of kids in divorce negotiations Grace’s advice on keeping your children at the forefront of your thinking in divorce Connect with Grace Casper Divorce Tips from Kids: https://www.divorcetipsfromkids.com/ Divorce Tips on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcetipsfromkids/ Divorce Tips on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorcetipsfromkids/ Divorce: What I Wish My Parents Knew Podcast: https://www.divorcetipsfromkids.com/podcast Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Dear Parents: Notes from a Child of Divorce by Grace Casper: https://www.divorcetipsfromkids.com/dear-parents-notes-from-a-child-of-divorce…
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1 How to Manage the Anxiety of Divorce With Bernadette Purcell 26:26
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWorried thoughts about the future generate anxiety. And divorce begets an uncertain future. So, it’s no surprise that anxiety is such a common emotion in divorce. But how do you navigate that anxiety without getting overwhelmed in the process? Bernadette Purcell is Founder of Shore Behavioral Health, a practice that helps patients with anxiety disorders enjoy more fulfilling lives and supports individuals and couples through all phases of divorce. A licensed clinical social worker in private practice since 2008, Bernadette is also the author of Divorced as F* in Seven Spiritual Steps. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bernadette joins Katherine to discuss how worry impacts the divorce process and what to do about it. Bernadette explains how to prevent worry from turning into anxiety, challenging you to surrender to the fact that divorce is happening and leverage acceptance to take the next right step for you. Listen in for insight on getting comfortable with uncertainty and learn Bernadette’s top stress management interventions for managing the anxiety of divorce. Topics Covered How thoughts about the future generate anxiety Bernadette’s strategy for bringing yourself back to the present moment How to prevent worry from turning into anxiety What inspired Bernadette to write Divorced as F* How Bernadette defines spirituality as learning something that resonates and then truly living it Why it’s crucial to surrender to the fact that divorce is happening Why it’s a mistake to discontinue stress management interventions when you start to feel better How anxiety impacts the divorce process Bernadette’s advice for getting comfortable with uncertainty What to do if divorce is making you anxious about the future Connect with Bernadette Purcell Shore Behavioral Health: http://www.shorebehavioralhealth.net/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Divorced as F* in Seven Spiritual Steps by Bernadette Purcell: https://www.bernadettepurcell.com/…
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1 A New Approach to Conflict Resolution in Divorce With Jacinta Gallant 26:36
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedDivorce makes us feel vulnerable. And many of us lawyer up and come out swinging to protect ourselves. But what if there’s a more effective way to reach an agreement with your ex? What if a little self-reflection early on can help you improve the process of working with a divorce professional? Jacinta Gallant is a respected lawyer, mediator and educator recognized internationally for her innovative approach to conflict resolution training. Jacinta’s Our Family in Two Homes resources for divorce professionals help their clients prepare for effective dispute resolution. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jacinta joins Katherine to share her journey from cutthroat divorce litigator to effective mediator, describing how she leverages curiosity to understand clients on a deeper level and deliver what they need. Jacinta walks us through the reflection questions she encourages people to ask themselves before they meet with a divorce lawyer and explains how divorce attorneys serve clients better when they don’t pretend to have all the answers. Listen in to understand why people who take the ‘high road’ get better deals than those who come out swinging and get Jacinta’s advice on using divorce as an opportunity for self-discovery and catalyst for a better life! Topics Covered Jacinta’s journey from cutthroat divorce litigator to effective mediator Why divorce attorneys can’t serve clients well when we pretend to have all the answers How Jacinta leverages curiosity to understand clients on a deeper level and deliver what they need What Jacinta learned by asking clients what it was like to work with her How Jacinta’s reflection questions help clients get to know themselves better How Jacinta’s Our Family in Two Homes workbook is delivered through the services of a collaborative divorce professional The benefit of reflecting on your hopes and fears re: parenting and finances before you meet with a divorce lawyer Why people who take the ‘high road’ get better deals than those who come out swinging Divorce as an opportunity for self-discovery + catalyst for a better life Connect with Jacinta Gallant Jacinta’s Website: https://jacintagallant.ca/ The Authentic Professional Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2WY6tXaASxiQkXBWebQmSY Our Family in Two Homes: https://intwohomes.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Dr. Cheryl Picard’s Insight Approach to Conflict Resolution: https://www.collaborativepractice.com/system/files/The Insight Approach and CP - essay.pdf Going Steady: A Toolkit for Building Our Future Together by Jacinta Gallant: https://goingsteadytoolkit.com/…
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1 How to Stay Positive (Even During Divorce!)With Bill Carmody 27:05
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIf your marriage is ending, you may be convinced that things will never be good again. But what if I told you there is a way to stay positive, even during a divorce? To feel less vulnerable in stressful situations? And change the dynamic of conversations with your ex? Bill Carmody serves as Chief Coaching Officer for Positive Intelligence, where he oversees the application of mental fitness for thousands of coaches worldwide. Bill is also the author of the bestselling book The 3 Rules of Marriage, and he is dedicated to being an inspirational leader who creates breakthroughs for himself and solves problems for others. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bill joins Katherine to explain how Positive Intelligence strategies can help you be less reactive in stressful situations and stay positive regardless of your circumstances. Bill shares his approach to making progress in high-conflict conversations, challenging us to develop mental fitness and stop the cycle of judgement when we feel criticized by our ex. Listen in for Bill’s PQ Reps exercise for dropping into your fully present self and learn how to leverage Positive Intelligence to focus on the outcomes you want during a divorce. Topics Covered How Positive Intelligence helps us stay positive regardless of our circumstances What happens when we let our emotions run us in the process of divorce Using Positive Intelligence to feel less vulnerable and be less reactive in stressful situations How to adjust your autonomic nervous system to cultivate a sense of calm Bill’s PQ Reps exercise for dropping into your body and being fully present in the moment Bill’s strategies for changing the dynamic of conversations in high-conflict circumstances How mental fitness allows you to focus on the outcome you want in divorce Bill’s 3 rules of marriage (don’t keep score, show appreciation & don’t go to bed angry) Why we tend to judge others when we feel criticized and how to stop that cycle How PQ Reps can help people who are contemplating or navigating divorce Why Bill recommends coaching to help you focus on what’s important in divorce Connect with Bill Carmody Positive Intelligence: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The 3 Rules of Marriage by Bill and Elena Carmody: https://www.threerulesofmarriage.com/free The Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/…
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1 Leveraging Integrative Nutrition to Detox from Divorce With Suzy Wood 26:48
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAccording to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, divorce is the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse. And that stress has an impact on our food choices and overall health. So, how might we leverage integrative nutrition to make positive, lasting lifestyle changes while we’re coping with divorce? Suzy Wood is the Integrative Nutrition Health Coach behind True Wellness Within, a platform that helps people make healthy food and lifestyle choices and rebuild their lives after the stress of divorce. Suzy’s divorce was a calling card to reinvent herself, inspiring her to leave a career in high tech marketing to start her own business and live her best life. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Suzy joins Katherine to discuss the 12 lifestyle factors that must be in balance for you to live a healthy life. Suzy shares tips for finding an avenue for self-care to help you detox during or after divorce and discusses the importance of discerning what divorce advice works for you—and what doesn’t. Listen in for Suzy’s techniques to navigate the stressful moments of a divorce negotiation and learn how to leverage divorce as an opportunity to transform your life! Topics Covered How divorce gave Suzy the opportunity to transform her outlook on life How integrative nutrition looks at both lifestyle factors and the foods you eat The 12 lifestyle factors that must be in balance for you to live a healthy life How the stress of divorce impacts our food choices and overall health Suzy’s tips for finding an avenue for self-care to detox during/after divorce Why Suzy suggests having an outlet to discuss divorce beyond friends and family How to discern what divorce advice works for you and what doesn’t What Suzy says to people who are afraid of divorce and don’t know what to do How Suzy’s coaching program helps people make lasting lifestyle changes Stress-reduction techniques to use during triggering events in divorce Connect with Suzy Wood True Wellness Within: https://www.truewellnesswithin.com/ True Wellness on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/truewellnesswithin/ Suzy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzanne-wood-true-wellness-within/ Email suzy@truewellnesswithin.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Divorce Detox Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1634325603620269…
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1 A Coparenting Arrangement That Puts Kids First With Bill DeSalvo 24:02
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedTraditional coparenting arrangements put the focus on the divorcing couple. They establish new, separate households, and the kids go back and forth. But what happens if you shift your focus and build a coparenting plan around the children? When Bill DeSalvo’s ex-wife introduced him to the idea of nesting, he had misgivings. But he was open to the alternative because of its benefits for his kids. On the last episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bill’s ex-wife, Beth Behrendt, walked us through the fundamentals of nesting, a coparenting strategy in which the children stay in the family home and the parents move in and out. Today, Bill joins Katherine to discuss the experience of nesting from his perspective, sharing the logistical questions he had around how it would work and how their arrangement has evolved over time. Bill explains what he learned about himself through nesting and describes the mutual respect he and Beth established by putting rules in place early on. Listen in for Bill’s advice on building structure into a nesting arrangement without ‘scoreboarding’ and find out if you have what it takes to make nesting work for your family. Topics Covered What differentiates nesting from traditional coparenting arrangements How nesting puts the focus on the children vs. the couple getting divorced Why Bill was receptive when his ex-wife introduced the idea of nesting The logistical questions Bill had around how nesting would work How Bill and his ex-wife’s nesting arrangement has evolved over time What Bill learned about himself and how he grew as a person through nesting Bill’s reaction to his ex-wife’s decision to write Nesting After Divorce Bill’s insight on what it takes to make a nesting arrangement work The rules Bill and his ex put in place early in their nesting arrangement How to build structure into a nesting arrangement without ‘scoreboarding’ Connect with Bill DeSalvo Family Nesting: https://familynesting.org/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Beth Behrendt on Divorce Dialogues EP202: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/make-divorce-easier-on-your-kids-with-nesting-with-beth-behrendt Nesting After Divorce: Co-Parenting in the Family Home by Beth Behrendt: https://www.amazon.com/Nesting-After-Divorce-Co-Parenting-Family/dp/1454949791/ref=sr_1_1?crid=39FZ0XEIJ3SN3&keywords=nesting+after+divorce&qid=1671135810&s=books&sprefix=nesting+after+dicorce%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-1…
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1 Make Divorce Easier on Your Kids with Nesting With Beth Behrendt 25:16
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedSeparated parents often worry about the upheaval a divorce causes in their kids’ lives, especially the stress that comes with moving back and forth between two households. But what if you could give your children the security of staying in the family home? Nesting allows kids to do just that. And it’s the parents who move in and out. So, how does nesting work? Is it right for your family? Beth Behrendt is the author of Nesting After Divorce: Co-Parenting in the Family Home. A freelance writer and single mother of three, Beth has shared her nesting experiences in several national publications, including The New York Times and Psychology Today. She is also a regular contributor to Divorce Magazine and Laura Wasser’s It’s Over Easy. Beth built Family Nesting to offer advice to other families considering this unique approach to divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Beth joins Katherine to explain why she and her ex-husband made the decision to try nesting and how the arrangement benefits their family. Beth shares her take on nesting temporarily to make the transition to divorce easier, describing what the arrangement looks like for her family and how it’s evolved over the last nine years! Listen in for Beth’s insight on explaining the nesting situation to a new dating partner and find out if co-parenting in the family home is right for you. Topics Covered How nesting allows kids to stay in the family home after divorce How Beth’s personal experience inspired her to write Nesting After Divorce Why Beth and her ex-husband made the decision to try nesting Beth’s take on nesting for a year or two to make the transition to divorce easier How Beth, her ex and her kids benefit from the nesting arrangement What the nesting arrangement looks like for Beth’s family (and how it evolved over the years) How Beth and her ex worked out who was responsible for what, e.g.: shopping, laundry, etc. Establishing rules re: introducing kids to new dating partners and allowing other adults to the nest How to explain the nesting situation to a new dating partner What qualities Beth’s ex has that made nesting work for them How nesting impacted Beth’s relationship with her ex and how it evolved over time Why nesting isn’t right for every family but can work for many Connect with Beth Behrendt Family Nesting: https://familynesting.org/ Family Nesting on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/familynesting.org Family Nesting on Twitter: https://twitter.com/familynesting Beth on Twitter: https://twitter.com/bethbehrendt?lang=en Beth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethbehrendt/?hl=en Beth on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bethbehrendt Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Nesting After Divorce: Co-Parenting in the Family Home by Beth Behrendt: https://www.amazon.com/Nesting-After-Divorce-Co-Parenting-Family/dp/1454949791/ref=sr_1_1?crid=39FZ0XEIJ3SN3&keywords=nesting+after+divorce&qid=1671135810&s=books&sprefix=nesting+after+dicorce%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-1 It Doesn’t Have to Be That Way by Laura A. Wasser: https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/it-doesnt-have-to-be-that-way-how-to-divorce-without-destroying-your-family-or-bankrupting-yourself_laura-a-wasser/1636713/item/27286672/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmax_high_vol_midlist_under_%2410&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncwxp8zb23HfEWYC7GEGIM50vaGJMsZnN9UVTJooWO507qOqOCYBtgaAmMIEALw_wcB#idiq=27286672&edition=8856959…
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1 How to Heal Your Disappointing Love Life With Dr. Thomas Jordan 26:02
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAt the beginning of a new romance, we’re not worried about repeating the unhealthy patterns that ended our previous relationships. We tell ourselves that this one is different. But statistics tell a different story. The divorce rate is 41% for first marriages, 60% for second marriages and 73% the third time around. So, what’s behind those dismal statistics? And what can we do to heal a disappointing love life? Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist and a psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He also serves on the faculty of the NYU Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis. Dr. Jordan founded the Love Life Learning Center to help people strengthen their ability to form and sustain healthy relationships, and he is the author of Learn to Love: A Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Jordan joins Katherine to discuss the three features of a disappointing love life, describing how we unconsciously repeat unhealthy patterns learned in childhood. Dr. Jordan explains how to stop the generational transmission of unhealthy learning in relationships, challenging us to set up a marriage that nurtures the love experience and grows over time. Listen in to understand when your marriage can be saved and when it’s time to divorce—and learn the first steps to healing your disappointing love life. Topics Covered The unhealthy patterns Dr. Jordan noticed in his practice that inspired Learn to Love Dr. Jordan’s 3 features of a disappointing love life—repetition, replication and recreation The case study of a client whose childhood experience with a violent father informed her disappointing love life How we can’t control our experience of love but can set up a relationship that nurtures that experience What it looks like to stop the generational transmission of unhealthy learning in love relationships Dr. Jordan’s insight on the value in looking at divorce as a learning experience How an awareness of your psychological love life serves as the foundation of a growing relationship How to know whether your marriage can be saved or if it’s time for divorce Why after divorce is a good time to ‘work on your love life’ The first steps to examining your own love life and moving it in a healthier direction Connect with Dr. Thomas Jordan Love Life Learning Center: https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/ Love Life Learning Center on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dr.ThomasJordan/?ref=tn_tnmn Love Life Learning Center on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LLLearningCtr Love Life Learning Center on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovelifelearningcenter/ Dr. Jordan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drthomasjordan/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Learn to Love: A Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life by Thomas Jordan, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Learn-Love-Guide-Healing-Disappointing/dp/1543987877/ref=sr_1_1?crid=6UIMHWDD2O54&keywords=learn+to+love+guide+to+healing+your+disappointing+love+life&qid=1574997753&s=books&sprefix=Learn+to+Love,aps,147&sr=1-1…
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1 What You Need to Know About Bankruptcy in Divorce With Dawn Kirby 25:08
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedMany people are overburdened with expenses after divorce. So, what options do you have when the cost of living on your own becomes overwhelming and you get into financial trouble? Though it is a last resort, sometimes filing for bankruptcy is the best way to eliminate some of your debt and get back on your feet. So, how do divorce and bankruptcy law work together? What do you need to know about declaring bankruptcy in divorce? Dawn Kirby is the cofounder of Kirby Aisner & Curley LLP, a women-owned law firm that represents corporate and consumer debtors and creditors in bankruptcy and restructuring matters. Dawn has more than 25 years of experience as a bankruptcy attorney, and she cofounded the pro se bankruptcy clinic at Legal Services of the Hudson Valley, which provides bankruptcy counseling to individuals who fall below the Federal poverty line. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dawn joins Katherine to explain why divorce is among the most common causes of bankruptcy and when to file for chapter 7 versus chapter 13 bankruptcy. Dawn discusses why alimony and child support are not dischargeable in bankruptcy, sharing the case study of a client who fell behind on his domestic support obligations and used bankruptcy to get back on track. Listen in for Dawn’s insight on when it makes sense to declare bankruptcy and learn how the process can provide relief from the financial burdens associated with divorce. Topics Covered Why divorce is among the most common causes of bankruptcy How bankruptcy can provide relief from the financial burdens associated with divorce What differentiates chapter 7 bankruptcy from chapter 13 bankruptcy Why alimony and child support are not dischargeable in bankruptcy How bankruptcy law allows for a repayment plan if you fall behind on domestic support obligations Dawn’s insight around how bankruptcy and divorce law work together Dawn’s case study of a client who fell behind on his maintenance obligations and used bankruptcy to stop contempt proceedings and get back on track When it makes sense for a couple to file for bankruptcy BEFORE they get divorced How bankruptcy impacts a divorcing couple who owns property together Connect with Dawn Kirby Kirby Aisner & Curley LLP: https://kacllp.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources US Federal Bankruptcy Law: https://www.uscourts.gov/services-forms/bankruptcy/bankruptcy-basics…
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1 Alternatives to the Dreaded Drama Triangle of Divorce With David Emerald Womeldorff 25:07
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIf you’re going through a divorce, you’ve likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT. But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want. So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment? David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT. David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT. Listen in for David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation! Topics Covered The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works What differentiates victimhood from victimization How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach Why it’s challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation Connect with David Emerald Womeldorff Center for the Empowerment Dynamic: https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald: https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802 The Karpman Drama Triangle: https://karpmandramatriangle.com/ Karen Horney’s Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/ Oprah Interview with Adele: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996…
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1 Raising Children After Divorce With Christina McGhee 24:58
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedDivorce leaves us overwhelmed and vulnerable, compromising our ability to parent well. And despite our best intentions, we may inadvertently dismiss our kids’ feelings or put them in an uncomfortable position. So, what can we do to gain a better understanding of what our children are going through during a divorce? How can we learn to coparent in a way that puts kids first? Christina McGhee is the divorce-parenting expert behind Divorce and Children and author of the highly acclaimed book, Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids. Christina is also the creator of the Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training for divorce professionals and consulting producer of the films SPLIT: The Early Years and SPLIT UP: The Teen Years. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Christina joins Katherine to explain why it’s crucial to create space for kids to talk about their experience of divorce and how to own it when you make a parenting mistake. Christina describes how children of divorce often feel the need to caretake their parents and struggle to recognize their own needs as they become young adults. Listen in for Christina’s advice on validating the way kids feel (without stepping in to fix the problem first) and learn how to choose professionals who take a child-centered approach to divorce. Topics Covered How Christina’s parents’ divorce informs her work as a divorce-parenting expert Why Christina credits her ‘bonus kids’ as her best teachers on parenting children of divorce Why it’s crucial to create space for kids to talk about their experience of divorce The challenge of owning it when you make a mistake with your kids (and why it’s so important) The premise behind the films SPLIT: The Early Years and SPLIT UP: The Teen Years How children of divorce often feel the need to caretake their parents and struggle with recognizing their own needs as they become young adults How parents can be the best possible resource for kids who are navigating divorce What it looks like to validate the way children of divorce feel without stepping in to fix the problem Christina’s Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training for divorce professionals How to choose a divorce professional who takes a child-centered approach Connect with Christina McGhee Divorce and Children: https://divorceandchildren.com/ Christina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceandchildren/ Christina on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorceandchildren Christina on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinamcghee/en Split Film: https://www.splitfilm.org/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids by Christina McGhee: https://divorceandchildren.com/christinas-book-parenting-apart/ Christina’s Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training: https://divorceandchildren.com/co-parenting-specialist-training/ Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP190: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/healing-conversations-with-children-of-divorce-with-ellen-bruno Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP045: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/empowering-kids-to-share-their-experience-with-divorce/…
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1 Holding Onto Your Joy Through a Divorce With Connie Monroe 25:09
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhen you’re going through a divorce, it’s easy to lose your joy. You feel like you have every right to be down in the dumps. This was certainly true for Connie Monroe, who threw herself a pity party with wine and cigarettes every night after work during her divorce. But when she found out that her cousin had been diagnosed with cancer and the prognosis was not good, Connie had an AHA moment. She realized that divorce was not going to kill her, and it was an insult to her cousin to wallow. She recognized that joy was a choice. And in 2008, Connie left her corporate finance career to build Monroe Coaching, a transformational coaching practice that helps women navigate fertility issues and divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Connie joins Katherine to discuss her book, Holding Onto Joy Through Abandonment and Divorce. Connie shares the story of her own infertility issues, her husband’s infidelity and their attempt to reconcile that ended in divorce. Listen in for Connie’s advice on being completely honest with yourself about your marriage and learn how to avoid bickering over the small stuff and choose joy during a divorce. Topics Covered What it means to ‘hold onto joy’ through a divorce How each of the 12 chapters in Connie’s book offers a strategy for holding onto joy The AHA moment Connie realized divorce was not going to kill her How to set an intention each morning to avoid bickering over the small stuff in divorce The story of Connie’s infertility issues, her husband’s infidelity and their attempt to reconcile How Connie decided to pursue divorce once she uncovered her ex-husband’s double life Connie’s advice around being completely honest with yourself about your marriage How the skills Connie learned working in corporate finance inform her work as a divorce coach The mistakes Connie made with finances in her marriage (despite working in the space) Connie’s top advice for listeners considering divorce Connect with Connie Monroe Monroe Coaching: https://monroecoaching.com/ Connie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/constancejmonroe/ 20/20 Retreats on Facebook: http://bit.ly/3l1HL0h Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Holding Onto Joy Through Abandonment and Divorce by Constance J. Monroe: https://www.amazon.com/Holding-onto-Through-Abandonment-Divorce/dp/1734284315…
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1 A Superwoman’s Approach to Recovering After Divorce With Eykiena ‘Keena’ Crowley 26:33
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedDivorce means accepting that things didn’t go as planned and adjusting to major changes in your life. It’s about taking on challenges you’re not prepared for at a time when your confidence is shot. When Eykiena ‘Keena’ Crowley got divorced, she struggled with all of these issues too. But her background as a combat veteran in the US Army meant that she had practice adjusting to unanticipated change. And she leveraged that military mindset to navigate her divorce. For Keena, giving up was not an option. Today, Keena is Founder and CEO of My Thriving Life Academy, a company that empowers people to identify their inner gifts and elevate to their pinnacle in life. Keena is also a divorce recovery coach, international speaker and author of A Superwoman’s Guide to Recovering After Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Keena joins Katherine to explain how the army prepared her for divorce and share her superwoman’s approach to recovering from the breakup of a marriage. Keena walks us through the five major shifts women experience after divorce, discussing how to reinvent yourself, foster a growth mindset, and focus on the journey ahead. Listen in for Keena’s insight on finding gratitude (even when things seem dark) and learn how to align yourself with the support you need to adapt to the circumstances and stay positive through divorce. Topics Covered The skills Keena learned in the US Army that prepared her for divorce How Keena describes her superwoman’s approach to recovering after divorce 5 major shifts women experience after divorce 1. Identity 2. Financial 3. Social 4. Perspective 5. Mindset Keena’s advice on adjusting to the changes associated with divorce Why Keena suggests intentionally aligning yourself with support How to practice positive mindset by acknowledging your wins every day Keena’s insight on finding gratitude when things seem really dark Connect with Eykiena ‘Keena’ Crowley My Thriving Life Academy: https://www.mythrivinglifeacademy.com/ Keena Speaks: https://www.keenaspeaks.com/ Keena on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkeena/ Keena on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachingwithkeena Keena on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithkeena/ Book a Free Call with Keena: https://calendly.com/eykiena Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources A Superwoman’s Guide to Recovering After Divorce by Keena Crowley: https://www.mythrivinglifeacademy.com/book Keena’s Free Gift: http://keenafreegift.com/…
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1 A Balanced Approach to Processing Grief With Krista St. Germain 25:39
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedMost of us are familiar with the five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But what if your experience doesn’t follow this linear pattern? Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one or navigating a divorce, you need tools to move through the trauma of loss and get to life on the other side. Krista St. Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, post-traumatic growth and grief expert, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was unexpectedly flipped upside down. Therapy helped her learn the tools she needed to move forward and build a future she could get excited about. And now, she coaches other people through their grief and helps them love life again, too. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Krista joins Katherine to explain why the pop culture theory of grief doesn’t describe everyone’s experience, challenging us to reframe our emotions not as problems to be solved but a valuable part of being human. Krista offers advice on taking care of yourself after a divorce, describing the dual process theory of grief’s balanced approach to healing. Listen in for insight on leveraging post-traumatic growth to change your life after a loss and learn Krista’s strategies for creating calm through the stress of divorce. Topics Covered How her husband’s death led Krista to a career in life coaching The similarities between becoming a widow and getting divorced Why the 5 stages of grief doesn’t describe everyone’s experience Krista’s tips for taking care of yourself after a divorce Why Krista likes the dual process theory of grief’s approach to healing Tools for creating calm when you’re feeling anxious or stressed The concept of disenfranchised grief and why it can be so isolating How Krista helps people embrace post-traumatic growth Making conscious decisions re: the direction of your life post-divorce Connect with Krista St. Germain Coaching with Krista: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/ Krista on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/ Krista on Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/ The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Five Stages of Grief: https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/…
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1 Coping with Divorce from a Covert Narcissist With Debbie Mirza 25:27
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedMost people think of narcissists as obnoxious and self-absorbed. They’re flashy, loud and charismatic. And it’s obvious that they’re looking out for #1. But a covert narcissist is much harder to identify. They are generally well-liked and well-respected by others. And the way they manipulate their partner is much more subtle and difficult to recognize. So, how do you know if you’re in a relationship with a covert narcissist? Is there anything you can do to make the divorce process more manageable? Debbie Mirza is a speaker, singer/songwriter and restorative coach with expertise in helping people heal from covert narcissistic abuse. Debbie is also the bestselling author of The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse, Worthy of Love: A Gentle and Restorative Path to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse and The Safest Place Possible: A Guide to Healing and Transformation. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Debbie joins Katherine to discuss what differentiates an overt narcissist from a covert one, explaining why it’s challenging to recognize a lack of empathy in your marriage to a covert narcissist. Debbie walks us through the three phases of a relationship with a covert narcissist, describing how a covert narcissist cuts off their partner during the discard phase and makes divorce particularly brutal. Listen in for Debbie’s insight on choosing an attorney who understands narcissism and learn how to protect yourself and your children through divorce from a covert narcissist. Topics Covered What it means to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder What differentiates an overt narcissist from a covert narcissist Why it’s challenging to recognize a lack of empathy in a covert narcissist Debbie’s advice for someone divorcing a covert narcissist The type of person a covert narcissist targets for a relationship How a covert narcissist’s words and actions don’t match How a covert narcissist uses their partner as an energy supply The 3 phases of a relationship with a covert narcissist 1. Love bombing 2. Demeaning and devaluing 3. Discard What to look for in an attorney when divorcing a covert narcissist Protecting yourself and your children in divorce from a covert narcissist Connect with Debbie Mirza Debbie’s Website: https://www.debbiemirza.com/ Debbie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/debmirza Debbie on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debbiemirzacoaching Debbie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debbiemirza_author/ Debbie on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@debbiemirza1744 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources DSM-5 Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder: https://www.mind-diagnostics.org/blog/narcissistic-personality/narcissistic-personality-disorder-dsm-5-criteria-and-treatment-option The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse by Debbie Mirza: https://www.amazon.com/Covert-Passive-Aggressive-Narcissist-Recognizing-Psychological/dp/099862134X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Worthy of Love: A Gentle and Restorative Path to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse by Debbie Mirza: https://www.amazon.com/Worthy-Love-Restorative-Narcissistic-Narcissism/dp/0998621382/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1637933306&sr=8-1 The Safest Place Possible: A Guide to Healing and Transformation by Debbie Mirza: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0998621307/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1…
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