When Love Means Letting Go- How to Break the Cycle of Codependency | Episode 303

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Codependency in relationships can be a complex cycle to break, especially when it comes to family members. We tend to tolerate toxic behaviors for the sake of love and loyalty. That’s why today I wanted to unpack some of the myths around loyalty and tolerance in dysfunctional family dynamics and how true love requires setting healthy boundaries. This week’s episode 303 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about breaking the codependency cycle!

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• Love and loyalty do not mean tolerating abuse; when we excuse harmful behavior in the name of love, we're being loyal only to the dysfunction.
• True love includes boundaries, truth, and valuing yourself as a person, not just as a parent.
• The belief that "I don't matter" is a common issue for those in codependent relationships, leading them to prioritize the happiness of others over their own well-being.

If you're struggling with codependency and setting boundaries in your relationships, know that you're not alone. Recovery is about unlearning patterns handed down to us and choosing a different way forward. It's never too late to change, and I am living proof of that.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

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*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

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Chapters

1. When Love Means Letting Go- How to Break the Cycle of Codependency (00:00:00)

2. Tolerating abuse is not loyalty to the child but to the dysfunctional family patterns. (00:02:52)

3. Myths and misconceptions about codependency in dysfunctional relationships. (00:03:32)

4. The role denial plays in recovery. (00:05:48)

5. As a codependent, letting a toxic person back in is the same as an alcoholic taking a drink of alcohol. (00:08:03)

6. Love and loyalty do not mean tolerating abuse; boundaries are part of true love. (00:09:27)

7. The importance of boundaries, truth, and self-value in true love. (00:11:11)