313 Rejection Sensitivity Is Real (But I Reject RSD)

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Rejection hurts—especially when you have ADHD. For years, the term Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) has helped many of us put language to that experience. But in this episode, I explain why I’m no longer using that term—and what I’m saying instead.

We’ll cover:

What rejection sensitivity actually is
Why it makes total sense (and it's not a disorder)
What’s problematic about the term RSD...in my opinion
What the research really says about rejection and ADHD
How trauma, therapy, coaching, and yes—medication—can all help

This episode is validating, spicy, and rooted in both lived experience and science. Let’s talk about rejection sensitivity in a way that empowers us to heal.

Resources Mentioned:

Watch this episode on YouTube

Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!

Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343

Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

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I Have ADHD Podcast

313 Rejection Sensitivity Is Real (But I Reject RSD)

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published about a year ago

MP3•Episode home

We’ll cover:

What rejection sensitivity actually is
Why it makes total sense (and it's not a disorder)
What’s problematic about the term RSD...in my opinion
What the research really says about rejection and ADHD
How trauma, therapy, coaching, and yes—medication—can all help

This episode is validating, spicy, and rooted in both lived experience and science. Let’s talk about rejection sensitivity in a way that empowers us to heal.

Resources Mentioned:

Watch this episode on YouTube

Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!

Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343

Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

AG 1 by Athletic Greens

Cozy Earth

336 episodes

#Fitness #Self-Improvement #Kristen Carder #Adultadhd #Coaching #Mentalhealth #Wellness #ADHD #Health and Well-Being #Mental Health #Podcasting Education #Lifecoach #Organizing

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