197. A Martyr No More: Alexis Frank on How Eldest Daughters Can Find Self-Mastery and Stop People Pleasing

INHABIT with Alessia Citro

Feeling weighed down by family expectations or struggling to put yourself first? In this episode of INHABIT, host Alessia Citro sits down with Alexis Frank, a dynamic life coach for eldest daughters and a trailblazer in personal empowerment. Together, they unpack the “eldest daughter wound,” exploring how birth order, cultural pressures, and people-pleasing can keep women stuck in cycles of over-responsibility and self-doubt. Listeners will walk away with practical tools for setting boundaries, nurturing self-confidence, and reclaiming their own desires.

Alexis shares her journey from running for Congress to building a thriving coaching business, revealing how embracing her unique story—and starting over on social media—helped her connect with and liberate other eldest daughters. The conversation covers subconscious reprogramming, somatic practices, and the importance of “thick mommy boundaries” when dealing with family dynamics. Through real-life stories and actionable strategies, this episode offers a roadmap for anyone ready to break free from old patterns and step into their undeniable power.

Whether you’re an eldest daughter, a recovering people-pleaser, or simply seeking more self-mastery, this episode delivers the inspiration and guidance you need to become your most authentic, empowered self. Tune in and discover how to make your life truly your own.

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TIMESTAMPS:

[00:00] Alessia shares her recent struggle with depression and thanks listeners for their support.

[02:00] Introduction to Alexis Frank, life coach for eldest daughters.

[04:00] Alexis discusses her experience running for Congress and what she learned.

[07:00] How running for office made Alexis fearless about showing up online.

[10:00] The importance of nurturing yourself to build confidence and habits.

[13:00] Alexis explains why she started a new Instagram focused on eldest daughters.

[16:00] Unique pressures and expectations faced by eldest daughters, especially in immigrant families.

[19:00] How eldest daughters lose touch with their own desires and struggle with boundaries.

[23:00] Tools for reconnecting with yourself, including subconscious reprogramming and somatic work.

[29:00] Advice on setting and maintaining strong boundaries with family.

[32:00] Alexis shares her experience cutting off toxic family relationships.

[42:00] The transformation that happens when eldest daughters embrace their power.

[51:00] How to work with Alexis and step into your most authentic self.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• Connect with Alexis on Instagram: @lexipcoaching
• Alexis's website: thefccoach.com
• AUDACITY membership for eldest daughters: Learn more
• Ruthless Pursuit of Self mastermind: Learn more

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KEYWORDS: eldest daughter, eldest daughter wound, family expectations, people pleasing, setting boundaries, self-mastery, personal empowerment, women’s coaching, life coach, breaking generational cycles, subconscious reprogramming, somatic practices, self-confidence, reclaiming your power, overcoming self-doubt, birth order psychology, immigrant family pressures, thick mommy boundaries, personal growth, women’s empowerment, podcast for women, healing family dynamics, self-love, entrepreneurship for women

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