It's Not Just Our Problem

Keeping Them Safe

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This episode presents the results of an Australian study that demonstrates that predators the world over are using the same techniques and activities to gain access to our children, to groom them, the parents, and the community. Listen to what they say are the strategies they use to get their way.

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It's Not Just Our Problem

Keeping Them Safe

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When Being "Polite" is Not the Answer 16:44

6 days ago16:44

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Send us a text Programs for children are designed to empower them to resist the overtures of a predator. They teach children to say "No!", run away and tell somebody when another scares them or makes them uncomfortable. This episode considers that the opportunity of programs for children could and possibly should be expanded to teach them how to establish and enforce personal boundaries in a world that expects them to be "polite" all the time.…

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How is it for our LGBTQ+ kids today? 34:54

5 weeks ago34:54

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Send us a text This episode includes a Rachel Stanton, LCSW, who works with this particularly vulnerable population who talks with Sharon about what it means to these kids when we do our job as parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and responsible adults to ensure a safe environment. If you are interested in contacting Rachel directly, please use this link: https://emdrintensivesboston.com/ .…

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Predators are Experts - Are We? 12:53

11 weeks ago12:53

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Send us a text In this episode we look at what it is to be an "expert" and examine whether predators are "experts" in seducing our children. We also look at what it takes to become experts at identifying the risky behaviors that threaten the safety of our children and particularly look at the risks from other children.…

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THE PROBLEM WITH LABELS 15:28

14 weeks ago15:28

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Send us a text As a society we are prone to "label" everything and everyone. Just think about the forms you fill out that ask you to check a box to say whether you are "married," "single," "widowed," or "divorced." Whichever box you mark labels you as a certain thing and you are then related to as that. This episode shares some ideas about the impact of labels on both those who have been molested and those who have been accused and invites us to consider letting go of labels and relating to the people as just that - people.…

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STEPS IN THE GROOMING PROCESS 24:14

15 weeks ago24:14

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Send us a text We are learning about the behaviors that are common elements in the grooming process as we become Alert Adults. In this episode, we start to consider how the predator actually uses those behaviors to negotiate the steps it takes to go from meeting a child for the first time to accomplishing their goal of sexual abuse. We look at how the behaviors appear and how they forward each of the steps toward the predators goal.…

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Expanding No, Go, and Tell 13:50

19 weeks ago13:50

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Send us a text This episode offers ideas for expanding the simple concept of most programs that educate children about prevention. The typical program teaches a version of "Say No, Get Away and Tell Somebody." As our goal is prevention by creating safe environments, in this episode we look at how to expand that conversation in a way that empowers our children to establish and enforce personal boundaries, not just stop predators.…

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The Child Molesters Already Among Us 14:36

22 weeks ago14:36

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Send us a text In this episode we discuss some research that looked at those child molesters who are already working in the organizations that our children are part of. Who are they and how do we find them and eliminate the risk to our children? What, if anything, makes them distinct from the predators in our families and the volunteers in our organizations?…

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Why practice? 11:34

24 weeks ago11:34

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Send us a text This episode considers why "good" parents, grandparents, and guardians need to make the effort to find out more about predators and how they operate. Why do we need to practice to learn and why do we need to be on watch all the time?

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Santa Magic 11:37

25 weeks ago11:37

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Send us a text This episode provides some easy to follow guidelines for a "safe" and magical trip to visit Santa. There are tips for parents, guardians, and grandparents about how to ensure the visit is as magical as it can be and tips for Santa to ensure that there is no worry for the parents who bring their children.…

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Active Shooter Protocols vs. Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Practices 17:30

31 weeks ago17:30

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Send us a text This episode explores the challenges faced by schools dealing with active shooter protocols while committing to create safe environments that thwart sexual predators. The challenges are identified and possible solutions offered that give parents and teachers a pathway to finding solutions that do both - or at least don't significantly compromise either.…

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Where do we start? 17:46

32 weeks ago17:46

17:46

Send us a text This episode speaks about the core tenets of the programs of KEEPING THEM SAFE. We talk about what matters in the development of programs and why and what the program is intended to communicate and provoke.

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Safe Environments in Schools and Organizations 15:18

37 weeks ago15:18

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Send us a text In this episode we look at some suggestions based on the United Nations Convention on the Rights of Children to help school and organization staff and volunteers work with parents to establish the safest possible environment for children during the school year. The principles cited by the UN can help focus the efforts of concerned adults and guide the development of policies, procedures, and practices that work.…

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What predators tell us about grooming activities. 24:42

39 weeks ago24:42

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Send us a text In this episode we discover some very clear, very specific ways that these potentially risky behaviors show up in reality. We see, from the mouths of predators, how they use the activities that we view as simple and normal to develop trust with children, parents, and communities.

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Viewing the Issue through Today's Eyes 15:26

41 weeks ago15:26

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Send us a text This episode reminds us that the effort to address child sexual abuse as a public problem or a public health problem is not new - even if it seems it might be so. How this became a public problem and when that happened can help us understand why it appears to be taking so long to stop it from happening.…

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Noticing the Behavioral Signs of Predators 23:17

42 weeks ago23:17

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Send us a text There are a few behaviors that we know are part of the predators grooming process. These behaviors have been identified for us by those who use them to groom children. In this episode we reinforce three of the behaviors and remind ourselves that is takes time and practice to be able to fully recognize the behaviors and stop them when they show up in the environment.…

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Chaperoning Young People 17:01

45 weeks ago17:01

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Send us a text Are you the chaperone for the school field trip or the sponsor that is traveling on the bus to music competition or the parent who volunteers to ride the bus with the football team or cheerleaders? This episode is an opportunity for you to consider what it takes to ensure that the environment on these occasions and others where you are responsible for young people are safe for all involved.…

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No Tipping Point 24:24

47 weeks ago24:24

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Send us a text This discussion reminds us of what it takes to shift a paradigm and how difficult it is to get anyone to listen to what we have to say until they can give up their conviction that what we promote can't be done.

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A Real Story About Real People 23:03

49 weeks ago23:03

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Send us a text This episode tells the story of a priest's seduction of young men in the parish where he served and how he was able to accomplish this under the watchful eye of parents and other adults. Sharon's family is a part of this story. She knows everyone involved and has had the opportunity to interview the principal complainant and others about what happened. It is a careful and open look at how it happens in a community and how careful and crafty the priest was in making sure he was protected and, at the same time, was able to satisfy his sexual needs with these young men.…

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The Thing About Female Perpetrators 17:23

51 weeks ago17:23

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Send us a text Most people assume that the majority of perpetrators of child sexual abuse are men and while that is accurate, at least 20% of all child sexual abuse is committed by women and almost 80% of the time it is a biological parent - a mother - who is the offender. This episode starts to deal with the unique issues of discovering abuse by a female parent or sibling and what we know and don't know about how this happens.…

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Background checks and Sex Offender Registries - How do they help? 17:42

1 year ago17:42

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Send us a text Many people think that Sex Offender registries and background checks can solve the problem of potentially risky adults. However, that is not the case. They do have their place in the entire process of creating safe environments and in this episode, we talk about what to do with the information from both sources in efforts to keep children safe from predators.…

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Why is it not handled yet? 26:27

1 year ago26:27

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Send us a text As today's society seems to focus on everything happening quickly and being handled with velocity, there's a lot of frustration about why child sexual abuse still is not handled. Why are there still predators seducing our children? This podcast reminds us that some societally issues take a long time to accomplish and points us toward the need to keep going in the right direction to have this issue become a "thing of the past."…

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It's Not Just Our Problem 20:33

1 year ago20:33

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Send us a text This episode presents the results of an Australian study that demonstrates that predators the world over are using the same techniques and activities to gain access to our children, to groom them, the parents, and the community. Listen to what they say are the strategies they use to get their way.…

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Child Abuse Prevention Month - How can I help? 18:38

1 year ago18:38

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Send us a text This short conversation reminds us of the reasons for April being name Child Abuse Prevention Month and offers some ways we can call attention to the need for all of us to have our attention on what it takes to keep children safe.

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Answering Unanswered Questions about the Numbers 17:06

1 year ago17:06

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Send us a text This episode includes a discussion of where the "numbers" come from in the conversation for prevention of sexual abuse of children and how these numbers were determined. We also look at how these numbers launched the conversation that child sexual abuse is a societal epidemic and what that can mean for the issue. Listen to settle for yourself that this issue is worthy of a determination that it is a societal epidemic.…

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Blue is the Color of Prevention 13:52

1 year ago13:52

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Send us a text This episode reminds us that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month and Blue is the color of prevention. Listen for ideas that you can share with others to draw attention to prevention and ways you can call attention to the issue yourself.

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Answers to Unanswered Questions 23:07

1 year ago23:07

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Send us a text In this episode we begin to answer some questions that seem to be universal. They are often in the background of our thinking as we go through the training or listen to the podcasts. We begin by talking about the part/responsibility parents have in preventing child sexual abuse and what, if any, risks there are to children of good parents.…

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Its Everyone's Job 12:03

1 year ago12:03

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Send us a text While we all want to think that children are safe the fact is that they are not. This episode looks at how we can take responsibility for making sure that there are safe environments for all children and that we create a world that works for eveyone.

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Online Language Used by Predators 18:04

1 year ago18:04

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Send us a text In this episode, we being to investigate the world of online solicitation by considering that there are unique aspects of this world. For one, the only tool a predator has is language, so all the potentially risky behaviors are manifested in the way the predator speaks to the child. Recent research has provided us with some hints about what to look for in our children's online chats to determine who is really at the other end of the conversation.…

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Are Adolescents Safer Online? 20:43

1 year ago20:43

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Send us a text In this episode there is a discussion of recent research that gives us some insight into the world of young people online. It considers that, although we know that in person social relationship are supportive and important, the fact is that adolescents, particularly those in the LGBTQ+ Community are convinced they are safer in online relationships. The conversation gives us some access to being able to tap into this trust of the Internet to raise awareness among adolescents about the risks of online relationships.…

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When the Risky Adult is Family 12:55

1 year ago12:55