Is the Narcissist Really Happy Without You? The Truth About Your Ex Moving On

NARCISSISTIC ABUSE RECOVERY | Narcissist, Co-Parenting, Grey Rock Method, Boundaries, Healing, Toxic Relationship

Wondering if the narcissist is really thriving without you? 👀 In this juicy episode, we expose the truth behind their fake “glow-up” — and remind you why your healing is the real win. 💥 Tune in for truth bombs, affirmations, and your comeback fuel. 🎧✨

Join my free PRIVATE FACEBOOK page!!! https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989

WORK WITH ME 1:1

Somatic Sparkle Sessions:

https://christyjade.com/somatichealing

Narcissistic Abuse Coaching:

https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/

✨Wanna take your boundary game to the next level?

Grab my Empowered Boundaries Course https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/

💌 Questions about my somatic healing, affirmations or anything else? Email me anytime — I got you: [email protected]

Free 4 Minute Mood Boost Meditation https://christyjade.ck.page/insider Grab your #notmyshit Journal on Amazon https://amzn.to/46dDSYk TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00):
Ever peaked at their social media and thought, dang, are they actually so much happier without me? Girl, do not be fooled. Today we are blowing up that myth of the narcissist, post breakup, glow up and shining a light on yours. Doesn't that feel better? Good. Stay with me. Be right back. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun.

(01:04)
So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. Alright, let's be real. We've all had that moment. Scrolling, stalking, wondering, did they just upgrade without me? Are they the ones thriving? Well, here is the truth. Queen narcissists need to look happy. I'm going to repeat it again. Narcissists need to look happy. We know they have big egos, right? And their ego thrives on performance validation and making you think you lost the best thing that ever happened. That's a real thing. So what you're seeing, it is a curated show. New partner, fancy vacation, all smiles. Yes, they are actually putting that energy designed in a way to trigger you, right?

(02:19)
But don't get confused with, oh, they want to be with you. And I'm not trying to say this to be mean queen ladies, but this isn't like, oh, you're the only one and you're the one that got away. I love you. But we know what got away was them having control of you, right? We have to remember, all the narcs are really capable of is seeking control, taking control. They don't know how to value and love the way that we do. So we cannot compare them to us or other people we've had experiences and with. But remember this, happiness isn't loud. Healing isn't flashy. Well, I don't know. Some people say that, but I have had some queen moments where, I mean, I've been flashy. I am flashy, but I'm happy. Yes, but there's a different energy that comes off if it's overly in your face, look at me and I did this and I did that.

(03:25)
That comes from insecurity. And if this is a narcissist you're talking about, this is that fake happiness. It is the flashy that we're talking about. Growth does not need an audience. So here's the thing behind the curtain, right? Because that's on the stage behind the curtain. While you're over here, you're doing your work, right? You are over here listening to the podcast, reading the books, doing therapy, whatever you got going on to try to better yourself, right? Building that the narcissist is running right? They are having a very hard time in a very different way, and they're running from their own emptiness so they can post the photos, they can charm the new supply. This does not mean, ooh, they found someone better than you or that's a better match. They found another victim to control. They found another victim to control.

(04:36)
I feel bad for those people too. So they can't escape their own dysfunction. You've escaped it. Can you give yourself a little hug, a big fat hug? You have escaped. They're dysfunction that is so good. They cannot. They are stuck in their own damn web and the crash always comes. So this new supply is going to go down at some point as well. You know it if you really think about it. You know that's true. They don't have genuine connections. There's no true accountability and growing and doing better. Just rinse, repeat, destroy. So here's where I want you to flip the script. I know this can happen even if you've moved on, even if you're sometimes because the damage is so deep with these narcissists. You could be in a new relationship. You could be dating and having fun or trying to have fun or whatever, and you might still ask, are they happier without me?

(05:46)
What you need to flip this script on is asking yourself, am I becoming the woman I was meant to be? But that I want to be right? You got out of this situation with hope for better, right? You could probably hit rock bottom or just had enough, or maybe they did leave you. And that's lucky because it's easier when they leave you than when you leave them. I will tell you that. But now you're at a point. You can say, am I becoming that woman that I was meant to be? Am I becoming a woman of fill in the blank for yourself. What do you want for yourself? Is it peace, happiness, joy, energy, not having to be in your mind, thinking and walking on eggshells? Are you becoming that woman? That is way more important than worrying about them and what they're doing. Your glow up is peace at night, real friendships, looking in the mirror and knowing I'm healing the narcissist. Glow up is a mask. It's always going to be a mask. Your glow up is a rebirth. It's a next chapter. It's you 2.0. We love your glow up. It's amazing. Their glow up is always going to be a mask, temporary mask. Okay, so let's do a 32nd reset. Close your eyes, take a deep breath. Don't close those eyes if you're driving baby. Okay? Deep breath in through the nose, out through the mouth, repeat after me. Their fake peace is not my truth.

(07:53)
Alright, I am no longer available for illusions. Good. And finally, I'll break this into two parts. My joy, my healing, my freedom. That's my glow up. So feel that that's your comeback story. So here's your challenge today. You know I love me some soul work. Alright? Do one thing that proves you are your own comeback story. Go for a walk, play with your kid and truly be present and alive with them in the space journal. One of my personal honestly, to get into your body, get out of your mind, into your body and find joy and peace is dance. Dance in your kitchen. You can do that combined with your activity with your kid, right? You and your kids just blasting music, dancing in the kitchen. That's healing. That's what life's about. It's not about stewing over what your ex is doing or how they're doing better.

(09:27)
Let them go fake their better. Okay? And if you're ready for a real full glow up plan, book a one-on-one session with me. We have the option of doing coaching, narcissistic abuse, specific coaching, and we have the option of doing somatic healing. I've been doing some amazing, amazing epic work sessions lately with people and they're mind blowing every single one I live for them. But either way, the coaching is more kind of talk therapy type thing. Coaching, talking through. And sometimes that's a great way to start to kind of get your story out, get that validation, get the empowerment, and then there's the somatic healing, which is really through the body, but there can be a little talk through that too. I just had a really beautiful one last week that was a mix of both. And we can do that. So you sign up for either one and it'll be, we will talk through what you want your experience to be.

(10:37)
It's just a beautiful, beautiful way with somatic healing to really heal from the inside out. And the body remembers, the body holds on all of this trauma and you're actually rewriting your body's memory really transitioning, transforming from a deeper level. So both are amazing and we can combine. So look at the links in my description and remember, they may look like they're winning today. Today, okay, that's the keyword today. But first of all, it's just a look, it's a mask. But you your healing in a way that they can never change or touch or have power over and it's lasting. That's why I really love the somatic healing because it is lasting and you want a lasting glow up. You don't want to mask like them. You don't want to just throw, I get it. I mean, I've probably done it in my past. Throw up a cute pick and look at me.

(11:51)
Even though you might be crying over some ice cream at night. Oh, look at that, look at that. Throwing up the picture. Oh, maybe he'll see that and he'll feel a certain way. But what does that do? So you don't want to mask life either. You want to really heal and make it last. So I just want you to feel good about yourself. Know that you are not alone. There's a group of women in my Facebook community that you can lean on. Please join that. It is free. That link is always in the description of the podcast too. And I really, really want you to give yourself some grace and patience and appreciation today because you are healing. And not everyone does that, and it's very hard to sometimes reach in and pull out some of this stuff. But you're doing it. You're here and you're looking damn good.

(12:57)
You look like a damn fly queen. Shine that crown. Put on some red lipstick and go dance around your kitchen. Alright, I will see you guys in the next episode. Don't forget, Thursdays are thrive in five, which is basically all sorts of somatic healing affirmations, breath work. It depends on the week and it's around five minutes. So it's a shorter episode where you can just kind of have a quick reset and you can save the episodes and go to your favorite ones whenever you choose to. Just have a nice little reset because we know it can be a very stressful thing dealing with narcissists. Or even after they may totally be out of your lives. You may still have some of that ick, yuck, leftover, and you still need a little support. So thank you for tuning in. I will see you in the next one. Don't forget to follow on whatever podcast you listen to. Narcissistic abuse Recovery, smooches.