#12 Therapists Spill the Tea: What We Wish Clients Knew with Darrian Pelkey MSW, LCSWA

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Ever wonder what your therapist really thinks about you? 🤔 In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed therapist Darrian Pelkey, MSW, LCSWA, joins me to spill the tea on what goes on behind the scenes in therapy.

We’re pulling back the curtain on the things therapists wish clients knew—from common misconceptions about therapy to what we actually think when you apologize for crying in session. If you’ve ever worried about being a “bad” client, overthought what you said after a session, or wondered if your therapist is judging you, this one’s for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ The biggest myths about therapy (and why they’re totally wrong)
✅ How therapists really feel about late cancellations, oversharing, and ghosting
✅ Why your therapist isn’t sitting there analyzing your every word (seriously, we promise)
✅ The one thing therapists wish more clients understood about the process
✅ How to get the most out of therapy—without feeling awkward or self-conscious

Therapy is a judgment-free zone, but so many clients carry unnecessary guilt, shame, or uncertainty about the process. Let’s clear the air and make therapy feel less intimidating and more empowering.

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Chapters

1. Welcome to therapy with Kayla and Darian (00:00:00)

2. Common misconceptions about therapy (00:02:03)

3. Therapy vs. venting to friends (00:04:44)

4. The power of vulnerability in sessions (00:07:21)

5. Therapists make mistakes too (00:14:04)

6. When clients ghost their therapists (00:17:57)

7. Final thoughts and practice information (00:20:30)